Anonymous wrote:Here's a wild idea: have you TOLD THEM YOU ARE VEGETARIAN and asked if you can help make a dish that is vegeetarian? Have groceries delivered when you arrive or the day before (keep it simple) and ask them to put it away and do your stuff when you arrive. Or if you've rented a car, just go get it yourself.

Being direct helps everyone.

Anonymous wrote:We are flying for Thanksgiving for the first time to be with family we usually aren’t with. I’m vegetarian.

Usually where we go most things are veg friendly except the turkey, and I make a substantial additional main dish to be shared.

The house we are going to will be very meat heavy (sausage in the stuffing, bacon in the veggies…) I’m generally happy to cook but we are flying in late Wednesday and will have limited use of a kitchen on Thursday morning.

What can I make quickly in limited space??

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the drama. All the veggie side dishes will not be strewn with bacon. There will be plenty of sides without meat:

Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Rolls
Mac & cheese
Green bean casserole

Pack a peanut butter sandwich when you fly in on Wednesday. Save it for Thursday if you’re still hungry.

Hahaha. You've obviously never been to the South if you think all the veggie dishes will not be strewn with bacon.

+1. My in-laws are Southern. Everything you listed has meat in it, or was made using bacon fat or lard. Whoever keeps posting that sides won't have meat in it needs to get out more.

So offer to help in the kitchen and put some green beans aside or whatever might have meat thrown in at the last minute. I’m not sure everyone’s definition of vegetarian is the same. Pad thai was suggested but that’s not always vegetarian but OP seemed to jump on the idea. But usually the shrimp or fish sauce would rule it out for vegetarians who don’t eat seafood.

OMG if OP orders Pad Thai from a restaurant you do realize she could order a vegetarian version, right?

You’re reallllllly reaching.

Sorry but if you’re going to someone’s house for Thanksgiving and you order your own special meal to be delivered you should just stay home. Why bother?

Do you realize how stupid you sound? No one’s talking about ordering pad Thai. And in any event you do know Thai restaurants serve vegetarian versions of dishes without fish sauce, don’t you?
By your token if the hosts invite someone to a meal where they won’t be able to eat decently then why even bother asking them to come? Grow a brain.

Did you know all the grocery stores are open Thanksgiving morning? This isn’t a problem solved by ordering your own food and eating it in the corner like some weirdo on a family holiday. And yes, people are suggesting ordering food. I don’t lessons on manners from people who would act so ridiculously as a guest in someone else’s home.

Aha! You’re one of those terrible hosts who does what they want without any consideration for their guests, so your opinion can be safely ignored.

Lol lemme guess you are the perpetual guest and never a host. Do you bring a lame pie and call it a day year after year?

Look, when your guests sneak out the house for a walk after the slop you serve they’re actually hitting a fast food place.

So, you are the lazy guest who doesn't help. This is only an issue for people who can't be bothered to pitch in or discuss a menu with their hosts. Which you seem awfully familiar with.

When my mom cooks no one gets an opinion. Her salads are nasty. We stopped going.

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the drama. All the veggie side dishes will not be strewn with bacon. There will be plenty of sides without meat:

Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Rolls
Mac & cheese
Green bean casserole

Pack a peanut butter sandwich when you fly in on Wednesday. Save it for Thursday if you’re still hungry.

Hahaha. You've obviously never been to the South if you think all the veggie dishes will not be strewn with bacon.

+1. My in-laws are Southern. Everything you listed has meat in it, or was made using bacon fat or lard. Whoever keeps posting that sides won't have meat in it needs to get out more.

So offer to help in the kitchen and put some green beans aside or whatever might have meat thrown in at the last minute. I’m not sure everyone’s definition of vegetarian is the same. Pad thai was suggested but that’s not always vegetarian but OP seemed to jump on the idea. But usually the shrimp or fish sauce would rule it out for vegetarians who don’t eat seafood.

OMG if OP orders Pad Thai from a restaurant you do realize she could order a vegetarian version, right?

You’re reallllllly reaching.

Sorry but if you’re going to someone’s house for Thanksgiving and you order your own special meal to be delivered you should just stay home. Why bother?

Do you realize how stupid you sound? No one’s talking about ordering pad Thai. And in any event you do know Thai restaurants serve vegetarian versions of dishes without fish sauce, don’t you?
By your token if the hosts invite someone to a meal where they won’t be able to eat decently then why even bother asking them to come? Grow a brain.

Did you know all the grocery stores are open Thanksgiving morning? This isn’t a problem solved by ordering your own food and eating it in the corner like some weirdo on a family holiday. And yes, people are suggesting ordering food. I don’t lessons on manners from people who would act so ridiculously as a guest in someone else’s home.

Aha! You’re one of those terrible hosts who does what they want without any consideration for their guests, so your opinion can be safely ignored.

Lol lemme guess you are the perpetual guest and never a host. Do you bring a lame pie and call it a day year after year?

Look, when your guests sneak out the house for a walk after the slop you serve they’re actually hitting a fast food place.

So, you are the lazy guest who doesn't help. This is only an issue for people who can't be bothered to pitch in or discuss a menu with their hosts. Which you seem awfully familiar with.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here - not at all trying to create drama. Just trying to come up with a plan that won’t cause anyone else inconvenience. I do usually bring a dish to serve for everyone - I think bringing just one portion of something for myself is even more awkward. Of course I can just eat a roll or whatever and survive, but also then draws attention and makes others feel awkward. I don’t expect them to bend over backwards at all. I’m looking to bring something with few ingredients, that can be cooked quickly, so I can arrive not-empty-handed and be a good guest AND have something decent to eat.

I should have just asked for a vegetarian thanksgiving main dish that could made quickly with few ingredients. But I thought more context would be helpful.

You’re flying in! NO ONE expects to make anything. The way to be an excellent guest is to stay out of the kitchen before the meal and insist on helping with clean up after the meal.

If you like, you can toss some nice chocolates or special teas in your bag as hostess gift. But please drop the notion that a guest who is flying in is expected to cook a dish.

The problem is OP is vegetarian and is eating Thanksgiving at a heavy-meat laden household and Op would have to survive on only rolls (b/c she said upthread even the veggies have bacon mixed in).

It's one meal. OP should have her Thanksgiving at home before she goes. Just go for the company and not focus on the food that much given all the constraints. Pack granola bars and other things that won't spoil during the flight to have as snacks to get through the day.

Could you please come back to reality. Every side dish is not going to have bacon mixed in. You and I and OP know that.

Not OP, and I have definitely experienced this. Once even the rolls had bacon bits. OP wants more than rolls and salad on Thanksgiving, and she's willing to help prepare to make that happen. You all are being jerks.

OP, I think asking if you can make a meat free version of a traditional side is a good idea. My mom has been making Indian style green beans for Thanksgiving for 40+ years Now my meat-loving non-Indian ILs think its not Thanksgiving without them

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the drama. All the veggie side dishes will not be strewn with bacon. There will be plenty of sides without meat:

Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Rolls
Mac & cheese
Green bean casserole

Pack a peanut butter sandwich when you fly in on Wednesday. Save it for Thursday if you’re still hungry.

Hahaha. You've obviously never been to the South if you think all the veggie dishes will not be strewn with bacon.

+1. My in-laws are Southern. Everything you listed has meat in it, or was made using bacon fat or lard. Whoever keeps posting that sides won't have meat in it needs to get out more.

So offer to help in the kitchen and put some green beans aside or whatever might have meat thrown in at the last minute. I’m not sure everyone’s definition of vegetarian is the same. Pad thai was suggested but that’s not always vegetarian but OP seemed to jump on the idea. But usually the shrimp or fish sauce would rule it out for vegetarians who don’t eat seafood.

OMG if OP orders Pad Thai from a restaurant you do realize she could order a vegetarian version, right?

You’re reallllllly reaching.

Sorry but if you’re going to someone’s house for Thanksgiving and you order your own special meal to be delivered you should just stay home. Why bother?

Do you realize how stupid you sound? No one’s talking about ordering pad Thai. And in any event you do know Thai restaurants serve vegetarian versions of dishes without fish sauce, don’t you?
By your token if the hosts invite someone to a meal where they won’t be able to eat decently then why even bother asking them to come? Grow a brain.

Did you know all the grocery stores are open Thanksgiving morning? This isn’t a problem solved by ordering your own food and eating it in the corner like some weirdo on a family holiday. And yes, people are suggesting ordering food. I don’t lessons on manners from people who would act so ridiculously as a guest in someone else’s home.

Aha! You’re one of those terrible hosts who does what they want without any consideration for their guests, so your opinion can be safely ignored.

Lol lemme guess you are the perpetual guest and never a host. Do you bring a lame pie and call it a day year after year?

Look, when your guests sneak out the house for a walk after the slop you serve they’re actually hitting a fast food place.

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the drama. All the veggie side dishes will not be strewn with bacon. There will be plenty of sides without meat:

Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Rolls
Mac & cheese
Green bean casserole

Pack a peanut butter sandwich when you fly in on Wednesday. Save it for Thursday if you’re still hungry.

Hahaha. You've obviously never been to the South if you think all the veggie dishes will not be strewn with bacon.

+1. My in-laws are Southern. Everything you listed has meat in it, or was made using bacon fat or lard. Whoever keeps posting that sides won't have meat in it needs to get out more.

So offer to help in the kitchen and put some green beans aside or whatever might have meat thrown in at the last minute. I’m not sure everyone’s definition of vegetarian is the same. Pad thai was suggested but that’s not always vegetarian but OP seemed to jump on the idea. But usually the shrimp or fish sauce would rule it out for vegetarians who don’t eat seafood.

OMG if OP orders Pad Thai from a restaurant you do realize she could order a vegetarian version, right?

You’re reallllllly reaching.

Sorry but if you’re going to someone’s house for Thanksgiving and you order your own special meal to be delivered you should just stay home. Why bother?

Do you realize how stupid you sound? No one’s talking about ordering pad Thai. And in any event you do know Thai restaurants serve vegetarian versions of dishes without fish sauce, don’t you?
By your token if the hosts invite someone to a meal where they won’t be able to eat decently then why even bother asking them to come? Grow a brain.

Did you know all the grocery stores are open Thanksgiving morning? This isn’t a problem solved by ordering your own food and eating it in the corner like some weirdo on a family holiday. And yes, people are suggesting ordering food. I don’t lessons on manners from people who would act so ridiculously as a guest in someone else’s home.

Aha! You’re one of those terrible hosts who does what they want without any consideration for their guests, so your opinion can be safely ignored.

Lol lemme guess you are the perpetual guest and never a host. Do you bring a lame pie and call it a day year after year?

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the drama. All the veggie side dishes will not be strewn with bacon. There will be plenty of sides without meat:

Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Rolls
Mac & cheese
Green bean casserole

Pack a peanut butter sandwich when you fly in on Wednesday. Save it for Thursday if you’re still hungry.

Hahaha. You've obviously never been to the South if you think all the veggie dishes will not be strewn with bacon.

+1. My in-laws are Southern. Everything you listed has meat in it, or was made using bacon fat or lard. Whoever keeps posting that sides won't have meat in it needs to get out more.

So offer to help in the kitchen and put some green beans aside or whatever might have meat thrown in at the last minute. I’m not sure everyone’s definition of vegetarian is the same. Pad thai was suggested but that’s not always vegetarian but OP seemed to jump on the idea. But usually the shrimp or fish sauce would rule it out for vegetarians who don’t eat seafood.

OMG if OP orders Pad Thai from a restaurant you do realize she could order a vegetarian version, right?

You’re reallllllly reaching.

Sorry but if you’re going to someone’s house for Thanksgiving and you order your own special meal to be delivered you should just stay home. Why bother?

Do you realize how stupid you sound? No one’s talking about ordering pad Thai. And in any event you do know Thai restaurants serve vegetarian versions of dishes without fish sauce, don’t you?
By your token if the hosts invite someone to a meal where they won’t be able to eat decently then why even bother asking them to come? Grow a brain.

Did you know all the grocery stores are open Thanksgiving morning? This isn’t a problem solved by ordering your own food and eating it in the corner like some weirdo on a family holiday. And yes, people are suggesting ordering food. I don’t lessons on manners from people who would act so ridiculously as a guest in someone else’s home.

Aha! You’re one of those terrible hosts who does what they want without any consideration for their guests, so your opinion can be safely ignored.

Lol lemme guess you are the perpetual guest and never a host. Do you bring a lame pie and call it a day year after year?

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Anonymous wrote:Please stop with the drama. All the veggie side dishes will not be strewn with bacon. There will be plenty of sides without meat:

Mashed potatoes
Sweet potatoes
Rolls
Mac & cheese
Green bean casserole

Pack a peanut butter sandwich when you fly in on Wednesday. Save it for Thursday if you’re still hungry.

Hahaha. You've obviously never been to the South if you think all the veggie dishes will not be strewn with bacon.

+1. My in-laws are Southern. Everything you listed has meat in it, or was made using bacon fat or lard. Whoever keeps posting that sides won't have meat in it needs to get out more.

So offer to help in the kitchen and put some green beans aside or whatever might have meat thrown in at the last minute. I’m not sure everyone’s definition of vegetarian is the same. Pad thai was suggested but that’s not always vegetarian but OP seemed to jump on the idea. But usually the shrimp or fish sauce would rule it out for vegetarians who don’t eat seafood.

OMG if OP orders Pad Thai from a restaurant you do realize she could order a vegetarian version, right?

You’re reallllllly reaching.

Sorry but if you’re going to someone’s house for Thanksgiving and you order your own special meal to be delivered you should just stay home. Why bother?

Do you realize how stupid you sound? No one’s talking about ordering pad Thai. And in any event you do know Thai restaurants serve vegetarian versions of dishes without fish sauce, don’t you?
By your token if the hosts invite someone to a meal where they won’t be able to eat decently then why even bother asking them to come? Grow a brain.

Did you know all the grocery stores are open Thanksgiving morning? This isn’t a problem solved by ordering your own food and eating it in the corner like some weirdo on a family holiday. And yes, people are suggesting ordering food. I don’t lessons on manners from people who would act so ridiculously as a guest in someone else’s home.

Aha! You’re one of those terrible hosts who does what they want without any consideration for their guests, so your opinion can be safely ignored.

Anonymous wrote:So, this is not a festive take, but most people go plenty of stretches where they skip meals or eat less traditional meals.

Can you just bring some whole fruit (apples, bananas, grapes in tupperware), PBJ, crackers, nuts, bars, etc... and supplement the meal, and/or focus on the sides that definitely do NOT have bacon, like bread/cheese/the one veggie that doesn't have meat like hopefully mashed potatoes, and dessert?

It's one day.