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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it’s cultural. Some people just don’t stand in lines. It’s a foreign concept. They don’t know they are being rude.

What culture doesn’t stand in line?

asians

NP - I was at Target in Gaithersburg waiting in a huge line and as I reach the register, an Asian lady walks in front cutting in line. I say, ma’am, the end of the line is back there. Then a couple of women in the line yell at me that she doesn’t understand our cultural norms, so I should just let her go. WTH? If you move here, it’s time to learn our social norms.

But is common behavior among other BIPOCs ?

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Anonymous wrote:I was accidentally a line cutter. There was a big gap between the line and I just stood behind the last person. The next person in line became visibly upset and said the line was behind him. I immediately apologized and moved behind him. No big deal, but also no reason to be so angry. Since you don’t know whether this person did it by accident or on purpose, just politely point to the end of the line, with a smile. Both you and the line cutter can continue on with your day with no hard feelings.

Or you could have situational awareness and ask where the end of the line is, like normal people. Also, no one needs to smile like a moron all the time. A simple "the end of the line is back there" is perfectly fine.

The bolded says so much about you as a person

No, honey. You look REALLY dumb just smiling all the time like an idiot.

Ooooh. The British person who thinks all Americans are dumb. Just to let the Americans who’ve never been there know… they have the same uneducated, low class, poorly behaved people we have. We just don’t walk around with our existential crises on full display. In the past we had more to be happy about than your friends and family back home.

DP, I'd bet anything you mouth breathe while you walk around with a dumb grin on your face all the time.

I’d have no problem reminding the person to get back behind me, in line.

People are odd - last year a woman tried to cut two girls (8 yrs old) out of a restroom at a matinee. I told her to get back in line, and she complied.

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Anonymous wrote:I was accidentally a line cutter. There was a big gap between the line and I just stood behind the last person. The next person in line became visibly upset and said the line was behind him. I immediately apologized and moved behind him. No big deal, but also no reason to be so angry. Since you don’t know whether this person did it by accident or on purpose, just politely point to the end of the line, with a smile. Both you and the line cutter can continue on with your day with no hard feelings.

Or you could have situational awareness and ask where the end of the line is, like normal people. Also, no one needs to smile like a moron all the time. A simple "the end of the line is back there" is perfectly fine.

The bolded says so much about you as a person

No, honey. You look REALLY dumb just smiling all the time like an idiot.

Ooooh. The British person who thinks all Americans are dumb. Just to let the Americans who’ve never been there know… they have the same uneducated, low class, poorly behaved people we have. We just don’t walk around with our existential crises on full display. In the past we had more to be happy about than your friends and family back home.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it’s cultural. Some people just don’t stand in lines. It’s a foreign concept. They don’t know they are being rude.

What culture doesn’t stand in line?

asians

NP - I was at Target in Gaithersburg waiting in a huge line and as I reach the register, an Asian lady walks in front cutting in line. I say, ma’am, the end of the line is back there. Then a couple of women in the line yell at me that she doesn’t understand our cultural norms, so I should just let her go. WTH? If you move here, it’s time to learn our social norms.

You sound racist.
I'm an asian lady and I often walk up to the front of those types of lines because stupid people are waiting for one person to finish on a self checkout register when there are several available registers that people are not using.

I don't cut in line but I tell the stupid people waiting that there are other check outs available to help the line move.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it’s cultural. Some people just don’t stand in lines. It’s a foreign concept. They don’t know they are being rude.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you respond to people who cut in line? I was at a coffee shop today and a woman stepped in front of me saying she wanted to peak at their dessert selection. After seeing what they had, she proceeded to keep standing in front of me and ordered first.

I’m curious how others respond in situations like this?

I don’t want to trigger any crazies so I choose to let it go.

Right, and somehow you will be the one to end up on a video branded as the Karen, not the line-cutter.

"Karen yells at AuDHD, ASL teacher, 3-legged Goldendoodle expert for simply placing an order."

Who yelled?

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Anonymous wrote:I might subtly get the eye of the barista, with a smile and a pointed look at the line cutter. That sometimes works to have the barista say "I believe you were next?"

But I have never felt *good* about confronting an antisocial person. I have felt right, but not good. So I usually let it go and imagine that they are suffering somehow, and that makes them incapable of applying what they learned in kindergarten.

Unfortunately, people act this way because no one calls them out and they can get away with it. I'd like to say i'd make a big fuss, but I'd probably just sigh or say excuse me or something else polite. I like the post above as well.

It’s not “making a big fuss “ to say “excuse me, the line is there” while pointing to the end of the line. Women need to get over this rigid belief that speaking up is rude.

Anonymous wrote:Pardon me, miss…but the end of the line is over there.

^^^
That’s what I typically say.

That is exactly what I do. I speak up. I started speaking up because I moved to Ashburn and this type of thing happened all the time.

I moved there long ago back when we had few grocery stores and long lines were common around the holidays. When I would move closer to register, I’d always leave some space in the aisle for people to walk by. The entire time men were taking the space in front of me even though they could see the long line behind. They knew they were cutting. I pointed it out to every single one of them and they all played dumb. Only one ignored and other people called him out and he moved.

The Leesburg Costco is the least busy Costco I’ve ever encountered but men cut in line there all the time.

I’ve rarely ever seen women cut in line.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it’s cultural. Some people just don’t stand in lines. It’s a foreign concept. They don’t know they are being rude.

What culture doesn’t stand in line?

asians

NP - I was at Target in Gaithersburg waiting in a huge line and as I reach the register, an Asian lady walks in front cutting in line. I say, ma’am, the end of the line is back there. Then a couple of women in the line yell at me that she doesn’t understand our cultural norms, so I should just let her go. WTH? If you move here, it’s time to learn our social norms.

Was there any reason to believe she isn’t American, besides her cutting in line???

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it’s cultural. Some people just don’t stand in lines. It’s a foreign concept. They don’t know they are being rude.

What culture doesn’t stand in line?

asians

NP - I was at Target in Gaithersburg waiting in a huge line and as I reach the register, an Asian lady walks in front cutting in line. I say, ma’am, the end of the line is back there. Then a couple of women in the line yell at me that she doesn’t understand our cultural norms, so I should just let her go. WTH? If you move here, it’s time to learn our social norms.

My favorite thing is when people, cars etc. are in a single line splitting to "next" open area. There's always one mouth breather who thinks they're the only one to discover el dorado and everyone else is stupid or loves waiting in lines.

(that said, I've been known to check a locked door again when people are standing outside a locked venue!)

How annoying! 🙁

I would likely say something to her, such as “Oh excuse me ma’am but I was in line before you…..”
I would keep my tone of voice as civil as possible & just give her the benefit of the doubt.

Many people will probably advise you to not say a word + that is probably the best thing to do since these days you never know who you are dealing with - - especially when it comes to perfect strangers.

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Anonymous wrote:I do nothing but if I'm with someone or happen to make eye contact with another person who saw it happen, I will exchange "WTF" looks and engage in collective dislike for the line-cutter.

In general, I'm a patient person and don't really mind waiting in line. I can go back to my book or whatever I was reading on my phone, nbd. It's definitely rude though, I don't understand people who are pushy like that.

You contribute to that by not speaking up.

They are counting on you to stay quiet.

Different Poster. Not necessarily. I 100% believe in a collective culture but I also give people the benefit of the doubt. I prefer to call people IN versus OUT. Maybe she forgot?

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Anonymous wrote:“The line starts back there.”

Never got why some people call the end of the line "the start" of the line.

For busy attractions, Disney World literally has painted wooden signs that read “Line starts here.” It’s common phrasing.

https://www.micechat.com/336664-disneyland-update-theme-park-magic-comes-at-a-price/disneyland-crowds-haunted-mansion-line-starts-here-micechat/