Anonymous wrote:Many girls are not mean, but most of them form their tiny circles and they are not inclusive to other kids outside of their circle. They don't say mean words but they ignore your existences and not responding to you. Not thick skin kids take the cues and know that they are not really welcomed to join them to hang out or play together.

Anonymous wrote:Yes! Girls are mean from age 3 to 103. I had to walk away from my entire birth family because the other women in my family ganged up on me and excluded me from the family to such an extent that I had no other choice. The women in my family did it, not the men. Yes, women can be completely awful. I have first hand experience. Men are much more easy going and what you see is what you get. When I see a group of three women or more, I get very nervous and walk away.

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Anonymous wrote:This is sad to read, but not my experience. I have a daughter and just yesterday I was telling my husband how you can really tell that kids are being raised with an emphasis on kindness now as compared to when I was growing up. We had our first soccer practice yesterday and they were all hugging each other after scores; there was another girl from her GS troop on the team and they greeted each other like a long-lost friends even though they'd only met once. I asked her if she really liked Larla, did they talk at the troop meeting? And she said "Mom, if you're in Girl Scouts together you *all* can be best friends."

I'm sure we'll run into relational aggression issues as they get older, but I'm glad it hasn't been an issue for my daughter yet.

OP here. I felt somewhat similarly when my daughter was younger. The girls are now 9 and seems like very few nice girls. I feel like as soon as we meet someone or have a few play dates, the girl shows her true colors. Like the other girl may be a sore loser and have a massive tantrum over a board game or start hitting my child over a toy. The mean words are what is most shocking.

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Anonymous wrote:The boys are physically abusive to each other, while the girls are emotionally abusive. My guess is you are more comfortable with boys being physically abusive and chalk it up to 'boys will be boys' or some other sexist troupe, and are less tolerant of they way girls cope with the same feelings. Girls are taught not to hit, and people look the other way when a boy does it.

Most kids have a mean streak by middle school - even my perfect sweet angels have the ability to be mean.

My boys do not hit one another and as far as I know, they do not hit or get hit by their friends. They do play physically and have gotten hurt. My kid has fallen down a tree, got a scratch during basketball, head butted during spike ball, fallen off bikes, etc. They have gotten upset over fouls during playing sports but this is not their actual friends.

Hahahahaha!Hahaha haha!! They totally do hit. I was watching some kids after swim practice the other day - MS age. One boy walks over a punches his friend in the back, hard. That boy walked over to another friend and punched him. This want around and around. The swim coach didn't even notice. So, yeah your boys punch each other - you just aren't observant enough to notice. Also, these boys are the nice boys.

Anonymous wrote:I only have daughters (and only had sisters too) and they are teens now. And yes in our experience most girls are at worst mean and catty and at best just not thoughtful. There are a few nice ones but they are very hard to identify and in high demand as friends. The remaining girls tend to be anti-social (want to read at recess, only want to discuss very limited subjects, don't want to hang out or do things outside of school, or the parents don't let them.)

I'm hoping college is a better experience for them.

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Anonymous wrote:The boys are physically abusive to each other, while the girls are emotionally abusive. My guess is you are more comfortable with boys being physically abusive and chalk it up to 'boys will be boys' or some other sexist troupe, and are less tolerant of they way girls cope with the same feelings. Girls are taught not to hit, and people look the other way when a boy does it.

Most kids have a mean streak by middle school - even my perfect sweet angels have the ability to be mean.

My boys do not hit one another and as far as I know, they do not hit or get hit by their friends. They do play physically and have gotten hurt. My kid has fallen down a tree, got a scratch during basketball, head butted during spike ball, fallen off bikes, etc. They have gotten upset over fouls during playing sports but this is not their actual friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, we have mostly encountered stable families and boys play sports, do well in school, play video games and very little drama. They did scouts and all the boys were pretty nice.

My daughter has similar activities now and the girls all seem so mean! They are competitive, jealous, emotional and high drama. It is tiring. There are so few nice normal girls. My child seems like a fish out of water. Any activity or sport she tried, it starts out fine and it feels like anytime we get to know the other kids and familie, we find out the girls are not nice at all. I have felt this in Girl Scouts and dance especially.

Girls are biologically wired to be mean and also unreasonable.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Most girls are really mean. Most women are mean too.

Anonymous wrote:The boys are physically abusive to each other, while the girls are emotionally abusive. My guess is you are more comfortable with boys being physically abusive and chalk it up to 'boys will be boys' or some other sexist troupe, and are less tolerant of they way girls cope with the same feelings. Girls are taught not to hit, and people look the other way when a boy does it.

Most kids have a mean streak by middle school - even my perfect sweet angels have the ability to be mean.

Anonymous wrote:The boys are physically abusive to each other, while the girls are emotionally abusive. My guess is you are more comfortable with boys being physically abusive and chalk it up to 'boys will be boys' or some other sexist troupe, and are less tolerant of they way girls cope with the same feelings. Girls are taught not to hit, and people look the other way when a boy does it.

Most kids have a mean streak by middle school - even my perfect sweet angels have the ability to be mean.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Most girls are really mean. Most women are mean too.

Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and a daughter. With my boys, we have mostly encountered stable families and boys play sports, do well in school, play video games and very little drama. They did scouts and all the boys were pretty nice.

My daughter has similar activities now and the girls all seem so mean! They are competitive, jealous, emotional and high drama. It is tiring. There are so few nice normal girls. My child seems like a fish out of water. Any activity or sport she tried, it starts out fine and it feels like anytime we get to know the other kids and familie, we find out the girls are not nice at all. I have felt this in Girl Scouts and dance especially.