Anonymous
09/12/2025 17:41
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
6 pages…smh
The answer is NO
The answer is NO
Anonymous
09/12/2025 08:25
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
if you are asking about tuition ...it depends on the school and the church and sometimes the school church relationship. you need to ask. some churches ask for a certain amount of financial support, some ask for any amount, some use in person giving and have a set number of weekends that you are expected to attend. some will ask you to attend any Catholic Church and present a letter stating your participation.
if you are asking about community - find some times to go. ask when their friends go to church. there are often weekend masses during the year that the school participates in - go to those.
if you are asking about community - find some times to go. ask when their friends go to church. there are often weekend masses during the year that the school participates in - go to those.
Anonymous
09/12/2025 06:17
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
Again, you wouldn't need to ask this question if you have ever even been to mass because they almost always welcome visitors each and every time. Why don't you see for yourself instead of coming across as an uninformed ignoramus?
Well, as a Protestant, perhaps they never have. You could be a bit more welcoming yourself.
And it’s “Mass”.
I'm not going to be pleasant to a contrarian troll or spend a lot of time composing a post.
That is not true St Anthony’s on Long Island if you are an outsider omg
And how Christian of you to call someone a troll . Doubt you follow the teachings of the church you must be maga
Anonymous
09/12/2025 06:00
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
We are not getting the parishioner rate. But we are Protestant and with the kids attending Mass once or twice a week at school, it might be nice for us to attend as a family once a month. That was my thinking. I have been to Mass before at this parish church as well as several others, but never regularly, which is why I asked about being recognized and then having people being confused as to a why a non-Catholic is attending a Catholic mass regularly.
PP, I missed that part. I thought you were asking if it was expected.. it is not. But, certainly, you would be welcome.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 20:38
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
Again, you wouldn't need to ask this question if you have ever even been to mass because they almost always welcome visitors each and every time. Why don't you see for yourself instead of coming across as an uninformed ignoramus?
Well, as a Protestant, perhaps they never have. You could be a bit more welcoming yourself.
And it’s “Mass”.
I'm not going to be pleasant to a contrarian troll or spend a lot of time composing a post.
You don’t sound like you went to Catholic school.
You're pretty judgmental, are you sure you're promoting Catholic values here?
You are admittedly unpleasant and don’t want to bother to write properly. I am just holding up the mirror.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 20:25
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
We are not getting the parishioner rate. But we are Protestant and with the kids attending Mass once or twice a week at school, it might be nice for us to attend as a family once a month. That was my thinking. I have been to Mass before at this parish church as well as several others, but never regularly, which is why I asked about being recognized and then having people being confused as to a why a non-Catholic is attending a Catholic mass regularly.
The school will find many reasons to get your to Mass as a family. This isn't even something you have to think about. Your kids may be asked to do readings, sing, carry the gifts, usher, or whatever. There is always something going on and for people who think they are going to send their kids to a Catholic school and never have to set foot in the Church then they will be disappointed. Nobody is going to ask you whether you are actually Catholic or not. How would they even know?
Actually the kids will never be asked to do readings or participate in mass beyond as a lay participant. They can't, since they aren't Catholic. At least that is how it works at our parish school.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 20:19
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
Again, you wouldn't need to ask this question if you have ever even been to mass because they almost always welcome visitors each and every time. Why don't you see for yourself instead of coming across as an uninformed ignoramus?
Well, as a Protestant, perhaps they never have. You could be a bit more welcoming yourself.
And it’s “Mass”.
I'm not going to be pleasant to a contrarian troll or spend a lot of time composing a post.
You don’t sound like you went to Catholic school.
You're pretty judgmental, are you sure you're promoting Catholic values here?
Anonymous
09/11/2025 20:18
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
We are not getting the parishioner rate. But we are Protestant and with the kids attending Mass once or twice a week at school, it might be nice for us to attend as a family once a month. That was my thinking. I have been to Mass before at this parish church as well as several others, but never regularly, which is why I asked about being recognized and then having people being confused as to a why a non-Catholic is attending a Catholic mass regularly.
Doubtful many people will mark you as a non-Catholic or a regular. People just aren’t thinking about you. But if anyone asks, you can just say you are supporting your child’s experience in the parish school.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 20:16
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
Again, you wouldn't need to ask this question if you have ever even been to mass because they almost always welcome visitors each and every time. Why don't you see for yourself instead of coming across as an uninformed ignoramus?
Well, as a Protestant, perhaps they never have. You could be a bit more welcoming yourself.
And it’s “Mass”.
I'm not going to be pleasant to a contrarian troll or spend a lot of time composing a post.
You don’t sound like you went to Catholic school.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 18:26
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
We are not getting the parishioner rate. But we are Protestant and with the kids attending Mass once or twice a week at school, it might be nice for us to attend as a family once a month. That was my thinking. I have been to Mass before at this parish church as well as several others, but never regularly, which is why I asked about being recognized and then having people being confused as to a why a non-Catholic is attending a Catholic mass regularly.
The school will find many reasons to get your to Mass as a family. This isn't even something you have to think about. Your kids may be asked to do readings, sing, carry the gifts, usher, or whatever. There is always something going on and for people who think they are going to send their kids to a Catholic school and never have to set foot in the Church then they will be disappointed. Nobody is going to ask you whether you are actually Catholic or not. How would they even know?
Anonymous
09/11/2025 18:23
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
Again, you wouldn't need to ask this question if you have ever even been to mass because they almost always welcome visitors each and every time. Why don't you see for yourself instead of coming across as an uninformed ignoramus?
Well, as a Protestant, perhaps they never have. You could be a bit more welcoming yourself.
And it’s “Mass”.
I'm not going to be pleasant to a contrarian troll or spend a lot of time composing a post.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 18:21
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
We are not getting the parishioner rate. But we are Protestant and with the kids attending Mass once or twice a week at school, it might be nice for us to attend as a family once a month. That was my thinking. I have been to Mass before at this parish church as well as several others, but never regularly, which is why I asked about being recognized and then having people being confused as to a why a non-Catholic is attending a Catholic mass regularly.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 17:29
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
I would never expect a non Catholic family to attend Sunday Mass (or a Catholic family). But, I would assume the first are not getting the parish subsidies.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 13:38
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
Again, you wouldn't need to ask this question if you have ever even been to mass because they almost always welcome visitors each and every time. Why don't you see for yourself instead of coming across as an uninformed ignoramus?
Well, as a Protestant, perhaps they never have. You could be a bit more welcoming yourself.
And it’s “Mass”.
Anonymous
09/11/2025 11:07
Subject: If kids go to Catholic, is family expected to attend mass on Sundays?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a dumb thread. It doesn’t matter bc there’s no way for them to enforce it in any event. So who cares what they “expect.” They can “expect” you to do a lot of things to get the parishioner rate but if they can’t verify it, who cares??
This is the attitude many are against. The Catholic parishes support the families in the parish and to a lesser extent Catholic families outside the parish. The reasons for this are 1) to support the young families in their community, and 2) because the finances for the school and church roll up into the same account. These two reasons (and others may come up with more), are tied together.
I welcome anyone who will be respectful to Catholic teachings to Catholic schools. Everyone knows there are a subset of people who enroll b/c it is (more) affordable than some secular options.
I know many people who don’t attend Mass every week, many who don’t attend at all and for the vast majority, I have no idea. I also don’t know who receives parish support nor should I.
But I don’t understand being comfortable with taking something that doesn’t belong to you.
Would you be ok with a non-Catholic family attending parish mass one Sunday a month or during holidays? Kids attend the parish school as non-parishioners.
DP. Of course.
I’m afraid I’d get the vibe like “Why are you here?”
In my head:
“Oh are you new?? Welcome!”
“Thank you! Yes, Larla and Larlo here attend the school.”
“Wonderful!”
*During mass we conspicuously don’t take communion since we aren’t Catholic*
“So are you interesting in joining the parish?!”
“Ummmm we are actually Protestant.”
Everybody doesn't know everybody at the mass. The general congregation wouldn't even know you. Do you think everyone goes each week at the same time and sits in assigned seats? There might be 4-5 masses a weekend. Do people at your church size up newcomers in this unwelcome way, is that where this is coming from?