Anonymous
09/08/2025 21:20
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:I happen to know a dad who doesn't work and will never work around 40. His wife is a lawyer and he just lays about, plays video games, and helps with the kids. It could be these people.
She works long hours and he's a say at home dad. Good for them.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 21:16
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Everyone I know in the private sector in DC teleworks 2-5 days per week. Some of their companies have stated publicly that they are back in the office 5 days per week -- that is obviously false.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 19:47
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.
You sound awful. I am 53 with a 10 year old. Our lives are awesome. I look like I am in my late 30s, am fit, healthy, have a great marriage and we financially secure for life. Take your ignorance somewhere else.
I wasn’t the PP you quoted and your life sounds wonderful. Good for you for building your dream life.
The science is also VERY clear about advanced maternal AND paternal age and the impact on children in terms of autism rates and Down syndrome prevalence + other chromosomal abnormalities.
Doesn’t mean you don’t have kids late in life if that’s how your life path shakes out, but don’t pretend the science doesn’t exist either.
You sound ageist.
Yes, the science is clear. For example:
1) Children of older parents have fewer behavioral problems;
2) Older fathers have longer-living children;
3) Children of older mothers have fewer social and emotional issues, better language development, and fewer serious childhood injuries; and
4) Older mothers reprimand and physically abuse less, and their children have fewer emotional and social difficulties up to the age of 15.
The same study for #1 discussed how advanced paternal age is strongly associated with autism disorders and schizophrenia. The research used for that study was testimony from the parents, their kids, and teachers. So, very subjective. Not going to continue down the list but like all things in life, it’s not black and white.
There’s definitely pros re emotional wellbeing and economic security of the child, and there’s also cons, and both those things can be true at the same time. Another quick example - by age 40, your chance of a kid with Down syndrome goes up to 1 in 100. At 25, it’s 1 in 1250.
How is acknowledging that massive increase from 25 to 40 ageism?
Anonymous
09/08/2025 18:26
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:My DH looks like that at drop-off. He works from home with people on the West Coast so has a later start. You just never know. Maybe some of those people had been working from 6-8 and then took a break for drop-off. People in my firm work all kinds of crazy hours. No one cares as long as the work gets done.
Same with my DH. He works for a big European company and reports to someone in Germany so he gets up pretty early but does drop off and pick up.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 18:23
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.
You sound awful. I am 53 with a 10 year old. Our lives are awesome. I look like I am in my late 30s, am fit, healthy, have a great marriage and we financially secure for life. Take your ignorance somewhere else.
I wasn’t the PP you quoted and your life sounds wonderful. Good for you for building your dream life.
The science is also VERY clear about advanced maternal AND paternal age and the impact on children in terms of autism rates and Down syndrome prevalence + other chromosomal abnormalities.
Doesn’t mean you don’t have kids late in life if that’s how your life path shakes out, but don’t pretend the science doesn’t exist either.
You sound ageist.
Yes, the science is clear. For example:
1) Children of older parents have fewer behavioral problems;
2) Older fathers have longer-living children;
3) Children of older mothers have fewer social and emotional issues, better language development, and fewer serious childhood injuries; and
4) Older mothers reprimand and physically abuse less, and their children have fewer emotional and social difficulties up to the age of 15.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 18:21
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.
When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.
Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?
Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.
I guess they’re all in sales?
You're in an expensive neighborhood. Yes, many of them have WFH jobs. Young feds wouldn't have been able to buy into your neighborhood.
In spite of what the MAGAs have claimed, professional jobs in the private sector still allow substantial telework.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 18:16
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.
F you.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 17:56
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.
When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.
Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?
Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.
I guess they’re all in sales?
You're not very smart, are you?
Probably not, but I composed this while walking so was using Siri voice commands, and I don’t grammar check my posts on DCUM.
In general, you can question my intelligence, especially in the realm of words and language, but those particular crimes I pin on Siri!
Anonymous
09/08/2025 17:40
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.
You sound awful. I am 53 with a 10 year old. Our lives are awesome. I look like I am in my late 30s, am fit, healthy, have a great marriage and we financially secure for life. Take your ignorance somewhere else.
I wasn’t the PP you quoted and your life sounds wonderful. Good for you for building your dream life.
The science is also VERY clear about advanced maternal AND paternal age and the impact on children in terms of autism rates and Down syndrome prevalence + other chromosomal abnormalities.
Doesn’t mean you don’t have kids late in life if that’s how your life path shakes out, but don’t pretend the science doesn’t exist either.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 17:32
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:I happen to know a dad who doesn't work and will never work around 40. His wife is a lawyer and he just lays about, plays video games, and helps with the kids. It could be these people.
Sounds like a lot of SAHMs.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 17:31
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:We live in North Arlington, and our local elementary starts at 9 AM. We are older parents in our 50s, and we both work so I go to work in person and dress business casual.
When I’m walking to drop off, I often see father’s dropping off their kids, and they are dressed in shorts and sweats and T-shirts, but they are younger like in their 30s early 40s.
Does everyone have a work at home job now except me? I thought we had RTO happening, or these dad’s going to work late after going home and changing first and getting there at like 930/10?
Our neighborhood is very expensive, I did not know they were that many jobs that paid that well to stay home in your sweats! Except maybe tech, but I am in tech and I’ve never met anyone else in our school that is in tech.
I guess they’re all in sales?
You're not very smart, are you?
Anonymous
09/08/2025 17:29
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
I'm in tech in a non-coding role and I have to go in. But our best engineers are exempt from the RTO rules or have very flexible schedules so they're always around at school.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 17:15
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.
You sound awful. I am 53 with a 10 year old. Our lives are awesome. I look like I am in my late 30s, am fit, healthy, have a great marriage and we financially secure for life. Take your ignorance somewhere else.
Anonymous
09/08/2025 13:44
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In your 50s with elementary school aged kids? Sounds awful.
NP. It's not. Go away. We are not even the oldest parents at our Bethesda ES. OP needs to learn the difference between possessive and plurals, however.
We have four kids. When my youngest graduated college I was 52. I retired at 53.
Elementary school kids in your 50s is old AF.
And this affects you personally how? I know ton of people who married later and then had kids older. Both are doing well. Rather an 'old' mom and dad than a teenager!
Anonymous
09/08/2025 13:34
Subject: Dads at elementary drop off
I happen to know a dad who doesn't work and will never work around 40. His wife is a lawyer and he just lays about, plays video games, and helps with the kids. It could be these people.