Why is it such a big deal to share where you bought your clothes? If someone asks I always say the brand, but I buy most of my casual clothes on EBay or Poshmark so they’re not what’s latest in the stores.

For the OP, why so aggressive? I have to wonder if it’s the question or the way you approach the women? When all of them did this it makes me think you were making them uncomfortable. I know I’ve had people do this and it makes me uncomfortable and I don’t want to answer or whatever reason. Sometimes it’s because I think they are being judgmental.

I will always answer as truthfully as I can, OP, because that's my personality. I have rarely asked other people, and when I have, they have always told me, perhaps because I'm not threatening and I ask nicely.

But you asked THREE women at a kids' birthday party where they got their clothes from? I think you gave off an aggressive, try-hard vibe, honestly.

You need to work on your self-awareness and social skills.

Maybe they bought it from a thrift store and don't want to say that.

It means they were internet scrolling and bought it from a random link and seriously do not remember

Adding... Clearly not everyone chooses to be adhere to the rules of polite society. That's fine. But some folks will be judging you. That's fine, too. Maybe you don't care. But imo it's useful to at least understand unspoken rules you're breaking.

I'm wondering how many on this thread are surprised to learn you shouldn't ask someone how many acres they have. Just like you wouldn't ask them their net worth (I hope!)

Some of this is cultural. But in the us, in polite society, It's unacceptable. Same with shopping habits.

It’s rude to ask someone where they bought something. It’s also rude to ask someone how makes their dress or bag, how much their house cost, whether their art work/boobs/diamond/designer purse is “real,” to ask landowner how many acres she owns, how much they spend on tuition, etc. I don’t understand how few people seem to understand this, as it’s basic manners. It’s fine to compliment something and fine if the person volunteers where they bought it but asking is intrusive and downright rude.

I had a coworker pester me about my bag. Every day she’d ask “Is it Tory Burch” “It is Marc Jacob?” It was a limited edition Louis Vuitton (not monogrammed so not obvious). We were baby lawyers at the time, making the same salary and often with colleagues complaining about law school loans. If I told her where I got my bag, she’d either assume I was an over spender or figure out I had family money. Neither are any of her business. I just kept responding that I didn’t know but she was relentless about it. So rude!

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people try to get specific like this. Just offer a generic compliment and move on. Don't grill me about where I shop if I don't offer it up like "Thanks it's from TJMaxx!"

Ugh, get over yourself.

Ugh, stop being weird and nosy. You don't have decent social skills if you go around doing this. Say "nice dress!" and move along. Not "Nice dress, where did you get it? Huh? Huh?" Weirdo.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they didn’t remember? Maybe you have a reputation for copying others? Maybe they didn’t like your creeper energy?

100% guarantee those ladies were copying someone else and want to look like the originated the look/outfit. Also, probably worried that someone else will look better in it than they do!

Anonymous wrote:I hate when people try to get specific like this. Just offer a generic compliment and move on. Don't grill me about where I shop if I don't offer it up like "Thanks it's from TJMaxx!"

Ugh, get over yourself.

Anonymous wrote:It's a little uncouth to ask a stranger or new acquaintance, once you're out of your teens, in my opinion.

When I was younger and had a very limited clothing budget, I was happy to share discount shopping tips. Now my clothes are expensive, but from very small, niche designers. Constantly people ask and I just say from an online boutique... because you don't need to know I'm wearing a two thousand dollar dress.

Exception: when someone approaches me privately and asks if I could please share designer name.

+1000000

My personal shopper sources for me, so I direct any inquiries to her.

I share where it's from. The end. Not so deep for me nor did they only make one.

I’m from the Deep South. If you compliment my outfit, I say “thank you” and that’s the end of it. We don’t volunteer or allow you to prod the brand out of us.