Anonymous
10/15/2025 12:34
Subject: Re:What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
My mom had me in her early 20s and her last child in her early 40s.
I got the better and more energetic version of her growing up than my youngest siblings. And since she's only in her late 50's now, she'll be young enough to see great grand kids. So, I think 40 should be the max.
I got the better and more energetic version of her growing up than my youngest siblings. And since she's only in her late 50's now, she'll be young enough to see great grand kids. So, I think 40 should be the max.
Anonymous
10/15/2025 12:16
Subject: What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
Anonymous wrote:I think it’s unethical to have a child if you’re over 50. Irrelevant if you’re the mom or dad of adopting or surrogacy.
Over 45, I think it’s pretty borderline. In most cases, I think that’s too old, but maybe.
If you’re both under 45 and can get pregnant naturally, power to you.
Other than that, try away if that’s what you want. But I would strongly recommend that anyone starting down the road of infertility make themselves some limits of how much time or dollars you’d spend.. Irrelevant of your age. Just for your mental health.
The Shady Grove shared risk pool is great for this. We decided we would try within those confines and it worked out, but it also gave us agreed upon stop metrics.
Hi Judgy McJudgePants
Anonymous
10/15/2025 12:12
Subject: What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
For my first? Probably 43-44. For my second, probably a little sooner, 40-41. For my third, well I had my second at 37 and knew if I were going to have a third I’d want to do it ASAP, once I turned 40 I mentally closed that chapter
Anonymous
10/15/2025 12:09
Subject: What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
I know a woman who had her first at 36 and went on to have 4 more. All totally healthy.
Anonymous
10/15/2025 12:06
Subject: What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
Anonymous wrote:40, but if I had infertility challenges and it was a first or second, I would go up to 44.
Yeah, this sounds right to me. I was 40 when our second was born. We didn't want a third, but as a thought experiment, age 44 would have been when I gave up trying for more kids
Anonymous
10/14/2025 12:46
Subject: What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
Anonymous wrote:My kids were accidents at 34 and 37. I was not planning to have kids. If I did have a cut off though, it would be 45.
How does one accidentally have kids twice when they weren't planning on having any?
Anonymous
10/14/2025 12:45
Subject: What's your absolute cut off for trying for a child?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There's some talk about doing away with advanced maternal age as it's essentially not needed and more rooted in misogyny than actual health care.
That’s ridiculous. Doing away with a medical term because feelings are hurt?
The eggs are older and more likely to have genetic defects especially after 40. Women with advanced maternal age should be given the information on what tests are recommended for their age group and let them decide.
THIS.
-signed AMA mom x2
Yeah. There was actually a study a few years ago that showed better outcomes for moms who gave birth at just over 35 versus those who were 34, just below the AMA cutoff. Practically speaking, the risks aren’t much different — but the increased monitoring actually improves outcomes.
You can still monitor without calling it AMA