Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:59     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.


+1
Look good, feel good.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:57     Subject: Re:Dolling yourself up for husband
What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing.


For you. Men do next to nothing for you.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why ...


Why would we ask ourselves why men do next to nothing for you?
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:45     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol


Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.


What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.


Sorry you married a dud. I control my eating habits to stay trim. I work out 5 days a week to stay toned. I spend time figuring out what colors of clothing look good on me. I spend time and money finding clothes that look sharp and fit well or having them altered to fit well (and in case you are unaware, and I'm guessing you are, good men's clothes are generally lot more expensive than comparable women's clothes because of the tailoring involved). I get haircuts regularly, far more often than she does. I select hair products that allow me to style my hair nicely without feeling or smelling weird. I pay attention to the deodorants and colognes I use. I shave my face and trim other parts regularly, especially if I expect that I'll be engaging physically. I go to therapy and read books about emotions and interpersonal relationships because I didn't get any of that shit growing up and needed to learn it later in life. And I do all this in response to her feedback - if she doesn't love a scent or a hair style, I abandon it and do something else. I'm not claiming I spend as much time on all this as she does, but I make a serious effort, and so does she, and that helps us both feel like the other respects us.


Sir. You are not doing even 10 percent of what most women are doing. But good for you for what you’re doing. Most men don’t bother.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:37     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.


LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

And there ain't nothin' wrong with that.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:17     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.


+1
My husband doesn't expect it and only notices half the time - which doesn't bother me because I dont dress up "for him". I notice every time I look good and that's what really counts!! I always wear makeup, brush my hair, a stay fit..... just don't expect me to wear a prairie dress. I'll continue to wear my suits and clean lined clothes.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:17     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
I would have refused to get dolled up for my H - that’s just not “who we are”.

Now that I’m single again and dating, I’ve realized not wanting to get dolled up is just a reflection of a man putting little to no effort in. There’s definitely two types of men - one (which is sadly the majority) is the men who put little effort into dates and their own appearance. “We can go do whatever you want to do” and it usually ends up being something lame like a walk and ice cream, and at best he’ll wear khakis and a polo over his potbelly.

Second type of guy says “I got reservations at Rose’s Friday at 8” and he shows up looking like a million bucks. And yea, you doll up for that guy. You get in shape for that guy. You spend $500 on your hair for that guy.

Now I do love getting dolled up, but it’s either for myself or for the second kind of man. But the first kind, nope, not putting in that level of effort.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:14     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.


LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.

Shouldn't all women feel beautiful? Why is that a bad thing?
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:14     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol


Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.


What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

I think a major reason women have to invest so much more time and money has to do with the workplace. My wife does her hair, makeup, etc. on days she's in the office but not on days she teleworks.

Regarding the investment of money it's pretty much stealing from single women to give to single men. For couples who share a pool of money it's a wash.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:12     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.


LOL. I don’t know if you are naturally beautiful but you definitely don’t lack self-confidence.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 15:10     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
I think I'm quite beautiful naturally. I have great skin, beautiful eyes and nice lips. My husband never expects me to "doll" up and always tells me how beautiful I am as is.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 14:56     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
If a man cares about his appearance as much as his wife/fiancee/gf she will next wonder whether he is gay.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 14:44     Subject: Re:Dolling yourself up for husband
He appreciates when I doll up and it’s nice to be appreciated.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 14:20     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Not wearing makeup does not mean not grooming or practicing hygiene.kinda weird people think that.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 14:14     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol


Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.


What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.


Women are amazingly beautiful. Men are not.

As a male, I dont even understand why women want to be with men. If I were a woman, I would still choose to be with a woman.


Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 13:44     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol


Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.


What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.


Sorry you married a dud. I control my eating habits to stay trim. I work out 5 days a week to stay toned. I spend time figuring out what colors of clothing look good on me. I spend time and money finding clothes that look sharp and fit well or having them altered to fit well (and in case you are unaware, and I'm guessing you are, good men's clothes are generally lot more expensive than comparable women's clothes because of the tailoring involved). I get haircuts regularly, far more often than she does. I select hair products that allow me to style my hair nicely without feeling or smelling weird. I pay attention to the deodorants and colognes I use. I shave my face and trim other parts regularly, especially if I expect that I'll be engaging physically. I go to therapy and read books about emotions and interpersonal relationships because I didn't get any of that shit growing up and needed to learn it later in life. And I do all this in response to her feedback - if she doesn't love a scent or a hair style, I abandon it and do something else. I'm not claiming I spend as much time on all this as she does, but I make a serious effort, and so does she, and that helps us both feel like the other respects us.