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Anonymous wrote:Have you been treated for your own mental illness?

Please stop with this mean-spirited trolling.

DP. I mean I was kinda thinking the same reading this. OP could have described my brother. I can’t stand him, but I’d never make the leap to him harming my single mother. I don’t think it would occur to her either, and believe me she’s an anxious person.

OP definitely has anxiety.

You have no idea what level of risk is presented by OPs son.

NP. “The mood swings typically consist of bitter/biting words, sarcasm, and resentment.” That doesn’t sound very risky. I agree, OP sounds overdramatic.

I'm missing what the mental illness is in this description.... or how there's a risk

(And I'm a clinical psychologist)

Sounds like mom is very sensitive to sarcasm and probably withdrew from kid and he resents that

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Anonymous wrote:Have you been treated for your own mental illness?

I am a happy, balanced person, and that's honestly what seems to trigger him.

The chances that a happy, balanced person produced a child this filled with rage as an adult are near zero. You are going to have to get real with yourself if you want anything about this to change.

You may not want anything about this to change, though.

This. No happy balanced person talks about their own child this way.

Anonymous wrote:My 30-year-old son recently and abruptly moved back to town after several years living in Chicago with his girlfriend (no kids). For many years, he has had severe depressive mood swings that he won't treat. The mood swings typically consist of bitter/biting words, sarcasm, and resentment. He's hyper sensitive and finds reasons to be upset/lash out, and I am generally the target (his dad is deceased, and he had a similar mood disorder when we were married).

I didn't enjoy his visits and was always glad when he left. Now that he's here, he's pressing to visit, but I am not interested in visiting unless he is receiving medical treatment. I know this may seem extreme, but with all the recent reports of kids harming their parents, I have concerns about his untreated anger.

I love him, but from a distance at this point. Can anyone relate to distancing themselves from an adult child? What was the outcome?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you been treated for your own mental illness?

I am a happy, balanced person, and that's honestly what seems to trigger him.

The chances that a happy, balanced person produced a child this filled with rage as an adult are near zero. You are going to have to get real with yourself if you want anything about this to change.

You may not want anything about this to change, though.

This. No happy balanced person talks about their own child this way.

Anonymous wrote:WTF people. I would never turn my back on family. Never.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you been treated for your own mental illness?

I am a happy, balanced person, and that's honestly what seems to trigger him.

The chances that a happy, balanced person produced a child this filled with rage as an adult are near zero. You are going to have to get real with yourself if you want anything about this to change.

You may not want anything about this to change, though.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve found that people who use the word ‘toxic’ to describe others are often toxic themselves

I find that when people make broad generalizations about lots of things they know nothing about, they are usually full of themselves and...often toxic. They just don't know it.

It’s their auto defense mechanism.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF people. I would never turn my back on family. Never.

Yeah, you just might if your family became your big bully. A lot of people scapegoat others due to their own insecurities. And it is brutal.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve found that people who use the word ‘toxic’ to describe others are often toxic themselves

I find that when people make broad generalizations about lots of things they know nothing about, they are usually full of themselves and...often toxic. They just don't know it.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve found that people who use the word ‘toxic’ to describe others are often toxic themselves

Anonymous wrote:WTF people. I would never turn my back on family. Never.

Anonymous wrote:My 30-year-old son recently and abruptly moved back to town after several years living in Chicago with his girlfriend (no kids). For many years, he has had severe depressive mood swings that he won't treat. The mood swings typically consist of bitter/biting words, sarcasm, and resentment. He's hyper sensitive and finds reasons to be upset/lash out, and I am generally the target (his dad is deceased, and he had a similar mood disorder when we were married).

I didn't enjoy his visits and was always glad when he left. Now that he's here, he's pressing to visit, but I am not interested in visiting unless he is receiving medical treatment. I know this may seem extreme, but with all the recent reports of kids harming their parents, I have concerns about his untreated anger.

I love him, but from a distance at this point. Can anyone relate to distancing themselves from an adult child? What was the outcome?