I want my kids to have kids, marriage doesn’t matter to me!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Did you go to college? Only the blue collar, uneducated people I know think a person should be married by 26. Tell us about yourself op.

My education goes past college, and I think people should marry before 26. I married DH when I was 25, and we've had a great 17 years together. I only wish we had started having children immediately instead of waiting a bit.

+1
Agree especially with not waiting to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:No, but they probably will. I will remind them the hell I went through and how unnecessary it is.
I will also remind them that they don't need to have kids.

Wow. That's inappropriate.

No it is not. Republicans have made it very clear that children are not safe in this country.
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1. White Christian men, ie, Republicans, are pedos. Whether it is Trump/Epstein or Trump's spiritual advisor, Youth Pastors, or other church leaders, they are changing laws to make it easy to marry at age 10. Minorities are not making these laws; White Christian men are.
2. Vaccines given for childhood diseases will return because of RFK Jr no child should be suffering for that utter stupidity
3. Republicans will not feed children or educate them. They want them working in factories for pennies. Project 2025
4. Health care gone Project 2025
5. Overtime for workers and injury protections gone, Project 2025

If you bring a child into the US while they are in power, you suck as a human.

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Nope because no babies should be born while the Trump administration is still a thing.

Republicans want to remove our right to vote hell no to more children.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Did you go to college? Only the blue collar, uneducated people I know think a person should be married by 26. Tell us about yourself op.

My education goes past college, and I think people should marry before 26. I married DH when I was 25, and we've had a great 17 years together. I only wish we had started having children immediately instead of waiting a bit.

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Did you go to college? Only the blue collar, uneducated people I know think a person should be married by 26. Tell us about yourself op.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but they probably will. I will remind them the hell I went through and how unnecessary it is.
I will also remind them that they don't need to have kids.

What a horrible thing to hear from your mother.

Why is this horrible? They need to know they have a choice and it is 100% up to them.

Your experience is not necessarily their experience. Just b/c your marriage was bad, you shouldn't try and ruin the concept for them.

Anonymous wrote:No, but they probably will. I will remind them the hell I went through and how unnecessary it is.
I will also remind them that they don't need to have kids.

Wow. That's inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Most women finish college by 22 so on average, they should have their acts together by 26.

Which has nothing to do with being married.

÷1. Unfortunately dating is now a hellscape of online apps. It is much harder to meet people in the real world after college than it used to be. And a lot of men view marriage as a bad deal, so most do nor want to settle down until after 30.

One is married. His wife’s mental health is the third partner. They will never have kids. They can’t do a lot of things that other 30 something couples do.

One might get engaged this year.

The two youngest are ambivalent to disinterested in marriage.

Our two adore that their parents were married and parents before thirty.

I'm more honest with them about having kids.. You can easily divorce if things don't work -- but not so much with kids.

I'm also not the parent who will ever beg for grandkids or nag about getting married. for

It's all a personal choice.. and theirs to make.

Not at 26. Recipe for disaster.

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Anonymous wrote:If they don't find good partners before 30, it only gets tougher because dating pool quality index goes down. Obviously, this doesn't mean they can't find good partners later but odds go lower.

Has this changed? I was 30 in the late 90s and this wasn’t the case at all.

You may not have realized it, but it shrank. Hopefully you found one of the remaining gems. J/K but I do think the shrinking pool concept is legitimate. The age range is a moving target dependent upon part of the country, education, religion.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, but they probably will. I will remind them the hell I went through and how unnecessary it is.
I will also remind them that they don't need to have kids.

What a horrible thing to hear from your mother.

Why is this horrible? They need to know they have a choice and it is 100% up to them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want your kids to get married?
My daughter will be 26, next month and still not married. Should I be worried?

Is she in a committed relationship? If she wants to marry, she can ask him instead of waiting like its 1925.

Dumb idea. If he doesn't ask, he's just not that into her.

If she asks, at least she'll have an answer sooner and can move on.