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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New relationship. Dating six months. In early 60’s. So far it’s almost every day. Sometimes twice a day. I never would’ve thought I would have the drive but I do! At least for now. I’m worried I’m going to lose it and don’t want to let him down.

Is your boyfriend in his 60s too? How is he able to go 2x a day?

This. If he is in 60s and can go twice a day wow he is blessed. I hope I can PIV twice a day when I get to my 60s. I am 45 and I can have PIV once a day, a second time I have weaker erection. I guess I didn't win the "virility lottery" lol.

But let's not assume that her BF is in his 60s just because she is 60. Her BF could be in his 40s.

Also medication.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New relationship. Dating six months. In early 60’s. So far it’s almost every day. Sometimes twice a day. I never would’ve thought I would have the drive but I do! At least for now. I’m worried I’m going to lose it and don’t want to let him down.

Is your boyfriend in his 60s too? How is he able to go 2x a day?

This. If he is in 60s and can go twice a day wow he is blessed. I hope I can PIV twice a day when I get to my 60s. I am 45 and I can have PIV once a day, a second time I have weaker erection. I guess I didn't win the "virility lottery" lol.

But let's not assume that her BF is in his 60s just because she is 60. Her BF could be in his 40s.

Anonymous wrote:New relationship. Dating six months. In early 60’s. So far it’s almost every day. Sometimes twice a day. I never would’ve thought I would have the drive but I do! At least for now. I’m worried I’m going to lose it and don’t want to let him down.

Is your boyfriend in his 60s too? How is he able to go 2x a day?

My wife and I are early 50’s. We’re both fit and are now empty nesters. We have a great realtionship overall and we have sex once a week. We’d do it more but Inhad a minor surgical procedure 10 months ago that really messed up my health. I don’t know that there’s a path back for me to be my normal self again so I’m doing my best to make life as good as it can be for both of us.

Anonymous wrote:Outside of counseling, what has help to increase frequency?

Alcohol. Initiating a lot.

Quality more important - quickie starfish missionary can get pretty lame after awhile

After our child was born, we basically went from 1-2x a week to 1-2x a year (context: pretty severe post-partum depression and then significant major depression). Spouse is better this past year and suddenly 3x in the past week. It's been a journey.

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Anonymous wrote:40F. Was married to a man 7 years older, we had sex 1-2 times a month. He wasn’t interested.

Now divorced and dating a 36M. We have sex almost every time we see each other, which is 2-3 times a week. We sext all day long and have even gotten frisky in the car a few times.

Life is just too short to not have great sex often, if that’s what you want.

Looks like your libido went up after your divorce. Good for you.

My libido was always high. My xH didn't want sex.

Both 49 and married 17 years. Our kids are 15, 13, and 8. It’s usually 3 times a week sometimes 2, unless one of us is traveling. Both of us are good with that amount.

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't believe these numbers - definitely a self selecting crowd answering.
We are once every two weeks and that is very normal among my friends as well when we discuss our sex lives with our significant others all having been married for 15 plus years.

You can believe whatever you want. Maybe your friends are lying to make you feel better. But yes, DH and I have been married well over 20some years and we have sex nearly every single day. Just how we are. And yes, we have 5 children.

Self selection. You are an outlier. And great for you. Sex is healthy and a great thing. Count your blessing. You are not going to run into people who have been married for 20 years and have sex 6 days a week and especially if that involves PIV. Wow.

Anonymous wrote:40F. Was married to a man 7 years older, we had sex 1-2 times a month. He wasn’t interested.

Now divorced and dating a 36M. We have sex almost every time we see each other, which is 2-3 times a week. We sext all day long and have even gotten frisky in the car a few times.

Life is just too short to not have great sex often, if that’s what you want.

Looks like your libido went up after your divorce. Good for you.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 43. DH has suffered with something… depression? Idk. For the past 10 yrs we’ve been essentially sexless mixed with brief periods of activity.

I’m attractive, thin, big boobs. I’m 40, things aren’t perfect, but I do workout 5x a week.

Our sex life tanked when our kid was born and he never recovered.

He won't suck your boobs every other day? Man he is missing out lol.

I’m 43. DH has suffered with something… depression? Idk. For the past 10 yrs we’ve been essentially sexless mixed with brief periods of activity.

I’m attractive, thin, big boobs. I’m 40, things aren’t perfect, but I do workout 5x a week.

Our sex life tanked when our kid was born and he never recovered.

It varies a good bit. Usually always at least once a week, but up to 6. I’ve been injured for the past few weeks so it’s only been once in like a month. I know we’re both grumpy about it.

Anonymous wrote:Outside of counseling, what has help to increase frequency?

Not being fat and no hair below your eyebrows.