I think there is a subset of women who do this. I'd estimate that 5% of women do 75% of the pursuing of married men. I know 4 women who pretty much only have relationships with married men. They've done it since they were younger, and we're all now in our 50s and 60s. I'm guessing that it has to do with believing they aren't worthy of being the main woman. FWIW, they are all physically attractive and have no trouble getting unmarried men to pay attention to them.

The simple answer is that by age 35, most of the good men are taken. So you either poach someone's man, or you can wait for divorce. But good men rarely divorce, so it's tough sledding.

Anonymous wrote:These people aren't good people, they cheat when they can get away with and use lies and deceit to defraud and hurt everyone involved, spouses, kids etc.

Yep, when we were in college, there was a woman who was flirting whenever she could with my now husband. She knew perfectly well that I was his girlfriend, but she kept trying to start something with him, but he wasn’t buying.

I hear she’s now on her third husband. People who are willing to cheat never change.