Anonymous
Post 06/30/2025 09:39     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Judgement really seems to go both ways and people need to keep their opinions to themselves regarding other people’s bodies.

For me, I don’t find it extreme to do what I need to in order to stay fit and healthy. Sure, there’s some vanity mixed in as well, but in my 50’s its mostly about staying healthy, functional and feeling good - I personally just get more enjoyment out of life that way. And you know what? That’s MY life - other people spend their lives how they want too.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 13:10     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Anonymous wrote:I'm thin and strong at 56. Yes, I lift weights regularly and watch what I eat. This is not a lot to ask to do.


quote=Anonymous]Most of the thin people I know who are 45+ do extreme things to stay that way.


For you. It's not a lot to ask to do... for you.

Learn that other people have different lives. Damn.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 13:02     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
I am mid 40s, we live in CO where fitness is a lifestyle. But I struggle with losing and gaining the same 10 lbs. I am very active - run, ski, hike etc - but I gain weight very easily if I’m not a hawk about my diet. It’s frustrating to not feel like I can splurge but it’s also a mindset shift on health and feeling my best. I don’t feel smug, I feel happy with my fitness but that I do deprive myself with indulging. It’s very rigid.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 11:51     Subject: Re:Do thinner people feel more righteous
I’m also mid-forties and naturally thin, but if I let myself go wild I will absolutely gain weight. I’m a hybrid I guess.

But……I work really hard on my fitness. The genetics plus my willingness to work means I am in very very good shape.

I’m not smug and I don’t talk about working out, ever. Most of my friends don’t work out like I do so what is the point? It’s my thing.

If anything……I constantly get shade and BS from people who aren’t in good shape. It’s as if they believe I’m asking for them to discuss my appearance. Doubt they would like it if I returned the favor.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 11:29     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a naturally skinny middle-aged man. I know I'm lucky, but I also am trying to work to put on some muscle to avoid being a frail old man.

My wife is a fit, relatively thin, middle-aged woman. She'd never say it to anyone else, but she points out to me that it doesn't come naturally. She exercises about an hour a day (plus several hours of daily walking), and whenever she gains a few pounds she cuts out all sugar for a few weeks.

I also wouldn't say it except anonymously, but I greatly appreciate her doing that.


She exercises for three or four hours a day. Don’t you miss her?


I'm someone who ends up walking 3-4 miles a day, and it's not necessarily taking any time out of my life -- I just always walk to run errands or pick up the kids, rather than drive. So, end up walking from like 8:20-9am for drop off, and then again for 40 ish minutes at 4 or 5pm for pickup.

I'm sure my spouse doesn't "miss me" during that time!

I also do yoga for 20 minutes every morning before getting dressed. Maybe from 8:00-8:20.

Age 44, been a size 2 since age 18, minus pregnancies. I don't know if i feel righteous. I am glad that these things are routine and habitual.


Did you read the post PP was responding to before writing out your workout schedule?
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 11:01     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most of the thin people I know who are 45+ do extreme things to stay that way.
Is eating less food considered extreme? After you pass 45+, you just need fewer calories, like a third fewer than when you were 25.

Is eating 2/3 what you used to eat considered extreme?


+1
I don't consider it extreme to eat what my body needs. My body needs 1100-1200 calories now in my late (more sedentary) 40s. When I was playing competitive sports on my teens early 20s it was more like 2500 calories. That wasn't extreme either.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 10:52     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
My Dad lost a ton of weight following his heart attack in his late 60s, mostly by swimming and cutting out the snacking he was doing. He joined a fitness group for seniors that does water aerobics and yoga and it helped him recover post surgery.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 10:46     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Anonymous wrote:Most of the thin people I know who are 45+ do extreme things to stay that way.
Is eating less food considered extreme? After you pass 45+, you just need fewer calories, like a third fewer than when you were 25.

Is eating 2/3 what you used to eat considered extreme?
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 10:18     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm a naturally skinny middle-aged man. I know I'm lucky, but I also am trying to work to put on some muscle to avoid being a frail old man.

My wife is a fit, relatively thin, middle-aged woman. She'd never say it to anyone else, but she points out to me that it doesn't come naturally. She exercises about an hour a day (plus several hours of daily walking), and whenever she gains a few pounds she cuts out all sugar for a few weeks.

I also wouldn't say it except anonymously, but I greatly appreciate her doing that.


She exercises for three or four hours a day. Don’t you miss her?


I'm someone who ends up walking 3-4 miles a day, and it's not necessarily taking any time out of my life -- I just always walk to run errands or pick up the kids, rather than drive. So, end up walking from like 8:20-9am for drop off, and then again for 40 ish minutes at 4 or 5pm for pickup.

I'm sure my spouse doesn't "miss me" during that time!

I also do yoga for 20 minutes every morning before getting dressed. Maybe from 8:00-8:20.

Age 44, been a size 2 since age 18, minus pregnancies. I don't know if i feel righteous. I am glad that these things are routine and habitual.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 09:47     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
I'm still thin at 57. It's just how my body is, and I've always been an "eat to live" sort of person. To keep fit I take 3-4 barre classes a week and make an effort to do a lot of walking, but nothing extreme.
Anonymous
Post 06/29/2025 09:19     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
I'm thin and strong at 56. Yes, I lift weights regularly and watch what I eat. This is not a lot to ask to do.


quote=Anonymous]Most of the thin people I know who are 45+ do extreme things to stay that way.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2025 23:30     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
I'm almost 50 and thin without any great effort and I don't. I just eat only when I'm hungry and not when I'm sad, bored, anxious etc.
Anonymous
Post 06/28/2025 23:25     Subject: Do thinner people feel more righteous
Anonymous wrote:I'm a naturally skinny middle-aged man. I know I'm lucky, but I also am trying to work to put on some muscle to avoid being a frail old man.

My wife is a fit, relatively thin, middle-aged woman. She'd never say it to anyone else, but she points out to me that it doesn't come naturally. She exercises about an hour a day (plus several hours of daily walking), and whenever she gains a few pounds she cuts out all sugar for a few weeks.

I also wouldn't say it except anonymously, but I greatly appreciate her doing that.


She exercises for three or four hours a day. Don’t you miss her?