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Anonymous wrote:Your BROTHER doesn’t care enough to have it domestically, OP, so stop blaming his fiancee. Even if she wants it, he’s still going along with it.

If I had told my DH we were going to have a destination wedding and not care if family showed up, he would have said, uh NOPE. And he is as mild-mannered as they come.

It’s so tiresome for you to be blaming a woman instead of your brother. He has a brain and a voice. If he cared about your family being there, you’d know it. But he doesn’t. He’s Just Not That Into You.

The groom is my BIL, DH’s brother, not my brother.

We will go. We may be the only family who goes.

OK? Who cares? Great thread.

My question was on the OP. Do you expect people not to attend by having a destination wedding?

We have a small family and bride has a large family. I would think BIL would want his whole family there, but maybe he doesn’t care.

Destination weddings are a good way to balance the attendee lists between the different-sized families because only the key people come. I think most of the butt hurt about these weddings comes from people who want to be catered to. For invited families with children, the perfect solution is to just send the one person who prompted the invitation, but apparently that isn’t making a lot of you happy.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

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Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Speak for yourself.we are down to travel anywhere

Do you have children?

I’m sure I would have loved destination weddings when I was single.

Right, because young, single people would love to blow thousands of dollars they don't have and use their limited vacation days for someone else's wedding

Anonymous wrote:I don't like your tone op. I can already tell you're going to be the sister in law from hell. Don't bother
inconveniencing yourself by making it worth I'm sure your brother and his intended will be thrilled if you can't make it.

NP- I got the same vibe. OP is going to be catty SIL

Anonymous wrote:My future sister in law wants a destination wedding. This is extremely inconvenient and not wanted from the groom’s side. Her family and friends are younger. We have kids in high school who have their own obligations. We will make it work. I’m pretty certain no one from our family will fly to this destination to then drive another few hours for a wedding.

Is the destination more important than the guests?

Is it expected that many guests will decline?

My niece did this - sort of - picked a high end location a few hours drive from a major city. My SIL was furious when a couple of the first cousins (high schoolers) didn't go. We did go, stayed in a truly disgusting and expensive Air BNB because we couldn't afford $1k a night for hotel rooms in the quaint inns at the location. Everyone had to have a new dress because it was black tie. We probably spend $2k on attending this wedding. It was a nice wedding, but really, it was a party for the bride and groom and their friends. Which is not a bad thing, it was just clear that it was her day, and there wasn't a lot of thought for the guests making the trip.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree. Why not just have a simple local ceremony, and then go on a honeymoon?
Destination weddings are selfish and overcomplicated, and scream of entitlement.

OP here. This is what I was thinking. Go on the honeymoon to this location, not make everyone go.

I also wanted a destination wedding for all of five minutes. My parents, my in laws and DH all said it would be too difficult for guests to get to and shut it down. We did go on a beautiful honeymoon.

So we finally get to the real is you didn't get what you wanted for your wedding and now your pissed sil will and that she married the brother who has her back

No, it would not have worked for my family and dh’s family, which is also BIL when he was a child.

But it's still what you wanted and dh and others talked you out of it and you've spent all these years telling yourself it was fun and now you see sil getting what you wanted and your jealous. You're transparent.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

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Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Speak for yourself.we are down to travel anywhere

Do you have children?

I’m sure I would have loved destination weddings when I was single.

Two. Life doesn't have to stop being fun because you have kids.

There are literally zero reasons to invite anyone but immediate family and close friends. If someone can't join, they can attend virtually and send a gift or not. No hard feelings.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree. Why not just have a simple local ceremony, and then go on a honeymoon?
Destination weddings are selfish and overcomplicated, and scream of entitlement.

OP here. This is what I was thinking. Go on the honeymoon to this location, not make everyone go.

I also wanted a destination wedding for all of five minutes. My parents, my in laws and DH all said it would be too difficult for guests to get to and shut it down. We did go on a beautiful honeymoon.

So we finally get to the real is you didn't get what you wanted for your wedding and now your pissed sil will and that she married the brother who has her back

Yep. The root of OP's bitterness is now clear.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

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Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Speak for yourself.we are down to travel anywhere

Do you have children?

I’m sure I would have loved destination weddings when I was single.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree. Why not just have a simple local ceremony, and then go on a honeymoon?
Destination weddings are selfish and overcomplicated, and scream of entitlement.

OP here. This is what I was thinking. Go on the honeymoon to this location, not make everyone go.

I also wanted a destination wedding for all of five minutes. My parents, my in laws and DH all said it would be too difficult for guests to get to and shut it down. We did go on a beautiful honeymoon.

So we finally get to the real is you didn't get what you wanted for your wedding and now your pissed sil will and that she married the brother who has her back

No, it would not have worked for my family and dh’s family, which is also BIL when he was a child.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

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Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Speak for yourself.we are down to travel anywhere

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Anonymous wrote:Agree. Why not just have a simple local ceremony, and then go on a honeymoon?
Destination weddings are selfish and overcomplicated, and scream of entitlement.

OP here. This is what I was thinking. Go on the honeymoon to this location, not make everyone go.

I also wanted a destination wedding for all of five minutes. My parents, my in laws and DH all said it would be too difficult for guests to get to and shut it down. We did go on a beautiful honeymoon.

So we finally get to the real is you didn't get what you wanted for your wedding and now your pissed sil will and that she married the brother who has her back

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Auntie, nobody wants you to attend.

This 😆

So why send fake invitations?

To receive a genuine gift.