Being traditional doesn't mean he wants you to leave work to cook and clean but may be he still wants you to manage hired help or be a loving partner and an involved mom who prioritizes family, not a stressed workaholic witch playing tit for tat 24/7 and throwing divorce threats at every argument. You wouldn't want a man like that either. Marriage is a traditional partnership, not no threads attached shack up.

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

YOU can't but I can.

I'm a lawyer and a mom, my coworkers are mostly lawyers and parents. My kid's doing great at school, I manage my schedule so we spend lots of time together. You can manage to do these things and anyone who claims it's impossible has an agenda.

I don’t know, pp.
I’m a doctor and a mom, but I have a job, not the big career I thought I would. I couldn’t have a career and be a good primary caretaker to my kids.

Did your DH support you? Did he do half the housechores/childcare? If not, that's probably why?

Anonymous wrote:Why would you marry someone who doesn’t want you to succeed to your fullest?
For you to be your best self?
He’s a non confident shit move on.

+100

Also "traditional" may be code for he also will NOT help at home. So enjoy having no support in your career or support in managing the home if you marry this guy. You will have 100% responsibility for the home/kids/etc. even if you are equal or primary breadwinner.

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

YOU can't but I can.

I'm a lawyer and a mom, my coworkers are mostly lawyers and parents. My kid's doing great at school, I manage my schedule so we spend lots of time together. You can manage to do these things and anyone who claims it's impossible has an agenda.

I don’t know, pp.
I’m a doctor and a mom, but I have a job, not the big career I thought I would. I couldn’t have a career and be a good primary caretaker to my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Any man who isn't somewhat traditional in approaching life and too interested in what his wife brings in marriage as her own income potential or inherited wealth is a male equivalent of gold digger, wouldn't be a good partner or provider.

The worst men are the ones who insist on being "true partners" but when kids come all of a sudden everything falls on the woman because she is mom. They really just wanted the extra paycheck without having to work too hard.

+1 agree

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

Would you say that to a dad? Of course, a woman can have both! If you had one or two children and your spouse was sn equal partner why not?

Women and men are not the same. It’s the woman’s job to mother the children and care for the home. It’s the man’s job to protect and provide.

Absent fathers are a problem. Kids need to be parented by both parents if there are 2 parents.

Men living in home and ignoring their children’s needs is a terrible way to raise kids

As a single dad I agree. My ex wife has a role to play and so do I. I show my daughter enough love that hopefully she won't have daddy issues. My ex wife had daddy issue and it manifested itself in our marriage. Her dad left them when she was one and her mom never dated or remarried. Dads really need to be in their daughters life.

Anonymous wrote:Any man who isn't somewhat traditional in approaching life and too interested in what his wife brings in marriage as her own income potential or inherited wealth is a male equivalent of gold digger, wouldn't be a good partner or provider.

Not everyone wants to do all the house work, childcare and be treated like a sex doll. Progressive men make much better partners and parents.

Anonymous wrote:Any man who isn't somewhat traditional in approaching life and too interested in what his wife brings in marriage as her own income potential or inherited wealth is a male equivalent of gold digger, wouldn't be a good partner or provider.

The worst men are the ones who insist on being "true partners" but when kids come all of a sudden everything falls on the woman because she is mom. They really just wanted the extra paycheck without having to work too hard.

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

Oh, please! My mother had a very successful career and was a great mother. What really helped is that my father was very supportive of her doing what she wanted to do. He knew what her priorities were and trusted her. She made some mid career pivots that slowed her career but were best for the family.

Exactly. You are lying to yourself if you think there are no consequences to prioritizing your career. A lot of these women chasing these jobs are unattractive to men because it usually boils down to ego and proving that you're "somebody." Hard pass for must guys.

Yes, we know insecure man children hate women with their own money and opinions. So much harder to manipulate and control them.

Found a divorced Karen!

Not so, but it does track that you have to imagine anyone who disagrees with you as some unhappy woman. Nah, we just don’t gaf what gross insecure misogynists think.

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

Oh, please! My mother had a very successful career and was a great mother. What really helped is that my father was very supportive of her doing what she wanted to do. He knew what her priorities were and trusted her. She made some mid career pivots that slowed her career but were best for the family.

Exactly. You are lying to yourself if you think there are no consequences to prioritizing your career. A lot of these women chasing these jobs are unattractive to men because it usually boils down to ego and proving that you're "somebody." Hard pass for must guys.

Yes, we know insecure man children hate women with their own money and opinions. So much harder to manipulate and control them.

Found a divorced Karen!

Any man who isn't somewhat traditional in approaching life and too interested in what his wife brings in marriage as her own income potential or inherited wealth is a male equivalent of gold digger, wouldn't be a good partner or provider.

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

Oh, please! My mother had a very successful career and was a great mother. What really helped is that my father was very supportive of her doing what she wanted to do. He knew what her priorities were and trusted her. She made some mid career pivots that slowed her career but were best for the family.

Exactly. You are lying to yourself if you think there are no consequences to prioritizing your career. A lot of these women chasing these jobs are unattractive to men because it usually boils down to ego and proving that you're "somebody." Hard pass for must guys.

Yes, we know insecure man children hate women with their own money and opinions. So much harder to manipulate and control them.

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

Oh, please! My mother had a very successful career and was a great mother. What really helped is that my father was very supportive of her doing what she wanted to do. He knew what her priorities were and trusted her. She made some mid career pivots that slowed her career but were best for the family.

Exactly. You are lying to yourself if you think there are no consequences to prioritizing your career. A lot of these women chasing these jobs are unattractive to men because it usually boils down to ego and proving that you're "somebody." Hard pass for must guys.

My brother even took my nephews on trips during my sis in law's exam weeks when she was doing her grad degree to make sure she had extra study time and sleep. Just saying, who would you want to be married to?

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot be a good mother and have a career. Sounds like you both have different priorities and it will never work.

Oh, please! My mother had a very successful career and was a great mother. What really helped is that my father was very supportive of her doing what she wanted to do. He knew what her priorities were and trusted her. She made some mid career pivots that slowed her career but were best for the family.

Yup this is it. Ops partner will not be supportive and will only cause friction in their relationship. She should cut and dump.