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Anonymous wrote:Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

Where are all of these well-maintained older women? The way some of you sound it's like most cities are crawling full of Gabrielle Unions and Salma Hayeks.

Or maybe find a stock internet photo of what you're seeing out there. Cuz I'm not seeing it.

A well maintained older woman in her 40-early 50s would look like a late 30s woman. You won’t realize the true age.

Our facial structure changes as we age. There is no fitness routine that can prevent jowls, smile lines and the widening of the lower jaw.

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Anonymous wrote:Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

Where are all of these well-maintained older women? The way some of you sound it's like most cities are crawling full of Gabrielle Unions and Salma Hayeks.

Or maybe find a stock internet photo of what you're seeing out there. Cuz I'm not seeing it.

A well maintained older woman in her 40-early 50s would look like a late 30s woman. You won’t realize the true age.

I'm sorry but this is not true. You're talking about 1/1000 late 40s-early 50s women who would be mistaken for their late 30s. People need to accept aging.

OP is lucky to be a woman. Bi women are not on my accepted but they face far less stigma than bi men. They can easily go back and forth between men and women. I have a very good male friend who is bi. It's not easy for him.

Part of the issue is also how women view bi men. Women are more likely to accept that a woman is truly bi as opposed to gay. With men it's gay or straight. Straight women who often like to lecture on sex on sexual orientation and acceptance are some of the biggest homophobes when it comes to men's sexuality. For a lot of them a bi man is just gay. For many of them a man can't like both genders the way bi women do. It is as if bisexuality is only reserved for women.

Anonymous wrote:I think you're bi. I have a friend who went through something similar at about the same age. She then had a long-term relationship with a woman after only dating men. She dates both in her 40s but I think she prefers women.

Where does she meet the women ?

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Anonymous wrote:Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

Where are all of these well-maintained older women? The way some of you sound it's like most cities are crawling full of Gabrielle Unions and Salma Hayeks.

Or maybe find a stock internet photo of what you're seeing out there. Cuz I'm not seeing it.

A well maintained older woman in her 40-early 50s would look like a late 30s woman. You won’t realize the true age.

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Anonymous wrote:Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

Where are all of these well-maintained older women? The way some of you sound it's like most cities are crawling full of Gabrielle Unions and Salma Hayeks.

Or maybe find a stock internet photo of what you're seeing out there. Cuz I'm not seeing it.

There could also be selection bias at play. The most attractive older men are either filtering well below their age or they're not showing up at places where older singles congregate. This means that the older men that older women are seeing are the less attractive ones.

OP here. Bradley Copper has “filtered”for 20 years difference with Gigi. He’s supposedly a very hot 50 yo man. But it doesn’t make him sexually appealing to me. The 58 yo man I date now is better looking and takes better care of himself: no greasy hair, better skin, leaner athletic body etc.

Do other women really find men looking that way attractive, is it just me not being into men ?

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Anonymous wrote:Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

Where are all of these well-maintained older women? The way some of you sound it's like most cities are crawling full of Gabrielle Unions and Salma Hayeks.

Or maybe find a stock internet photo of what you're seeing out there. Cuz I'm not seeing it.

There could also be selection bias at play. The most attractive older men are either filtering well below their age or they're not showing up at places where older singles congregate. This means that the older men that older women are seeing are the less attractive ones.

Anonymous wrote:Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

Where are all of these well-maintained older women? The way some of you sound it's like most cities are crawling full of Gabrielle Unions and Salma Hayeks.

Or maybe find a stock internet photo of what you're seeing out there. Cuz I'm not seeing it.

I think you're bi. I have a friend who went through something similar at about the same age. She then had a long-term relationship with a woman after only dating men. She dates both in her 40s but I think she prefers women.

Older men don't seem motivated to take care of themselves and seem to think this is attractive somehow.

I find more women attractive than men, but they have more options to do things to look good that are socially acceptable, like make up.

That said, I don't want to kiss or touch the women I find attractive.

Anonymous wrote:Wanting to put your mouth on some strangers gam wallet is just gross

As a straight woman you never phantasize about tasting it for the men you are attracted to ?

Wanting to put your mouth on some strangers gam wallet is just gross

I admire women but Im sexually attracted to men who take care of their bodies and skin. Looking good is a lot of upkeep so I admire women and men who keep at it. I never think about kissing a woman's privates though like you do so I think that makes you bi if not gay. I'm early 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just to explain what I mean about not finding most men attractive. Today's yahoo article - Bradley Cooper is officially one of the most handsome men in Hollywood. I look at his pictures and find him repulsive. He looks kind of trashy, he needs a rehab. I look at Gigi and want to sleep with her, not him. And wonder how she feels sleeping with him, does she find him attractive?

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/articles/gigi-hadid-finally-makes-bradley-003125677.html

It is very abnormal to look at people in pictures and find them repulsive. Most people find some people attractive, some less attractive but to pass by someone or to see a picture and to feel disgusted and horrified by what you see and to be repulsed - that is odd.

It's not odd if you're not straight! OP if you really want to test things out New York isn't that far away from here. The gay and bisexual female scene is much bigger and better than in DC. Take a weekend trip to some lesbian bars in the next couple of months. Go find your Gigi Hadid! Q

Which bars would you recommend there ?

It's not a bar, but Skirt Club has monthly private events in Manhattan that are really fun. It's super friendly to newcomers as well.

Thank you - will check it out next time I’m in NY!