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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

My 15yo is scared of being alone out too, pretty normal

There is nothing normal about a 15 year old who is afraid to be alone!

Will you please go away???!!!!!! Of course it's normal. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head.

I'm an NP, and nope, not normal for a 15 year old.

Maybe there is room for debate as to a 12 year old. Maybe. But more concerning than the inability to be alone is the inability to handle a little light teasing from a random old neighbor who means nothing to you anyways. It should have rolled off the DD's back -- barely registered. I don't love this term, but "snowflake" comes to mind.

oh you definitely love it, and LOVE to use it on children.

I'm guessing you pushed yours to do all kinds of things they weren't ready to do because you never wanted to raise them properly.

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

My 15yo is scared of being alone out too, pretty normal

There is nothing normal about a 15 year old who is afraid to be alone!

Will you please go away???!!!!!! Of course it's normal. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head.

I'm an NP, and nope, not normal for a 15 year old.

Maybe there is room for debate as to a 12 year old. Maybe. But more concerning than the inability to be alone is the inability to handle a little light teasing from a random old neighbor who means nothing to you anyways. It should have rolled off the DD's back -- barely registered. I don't love this term, but "snowflake" comes to mind.

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

My 15yo is scared of being alone out too, pretty normal

There is nothing normal about a 15 year old who is afraid to be alone!

Will you please go away???!!!!!! Of course it's normal. I'm sorry you're so messed up in the head.

Anonymous wrote:We are quite close in a neighborly way with the retirement-aged couple who live next door. They are in their 70s but I don’t like to say “elderly” because they golf and travel and are lively. They are very early risers, too, so when a logistical emergency arose, I asked them for a favor and they seemed receptive and happy to help. I had to leave really early this morning, right at dawn. DD, who walks herself to the bus anyway and has a phone she can use and where I can track her, was going to wake when I left and then lock up and head to the bus just before 8, so like 2 hours from the time I left. She was a little apprehensive of being home in the dark, so that’s where the neighbors came in. I asked if DD12 could wander over there if she got scared, that she wouldn’t bother them, would sit in their front family room and read before she left for school. Well, not even 20 minutes after I left, she wandered over there. She told me that the woman was kind and polite and sat her in the family room area and went about her morning, but that the husband kept coming in to essentially tease her for being scared of the dark and being home alone. She’s upset. I don’t do anything, right? I thought about explaining that people that she can be weird, but thought that might be dismissive. All I know is I won’t ask them again for a favor like that.

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Anonymous wrote:They did you a favor. The man was trying to be funny in that old man way.

Yeah, grandpa humor is the worst.

My dad still flicks our ears and says "oh, a bug got ya!" and cackles b/c he thinks it's hilarious.

Or says things like "how much does it cost to buy pants without holes in them?" or to my DD "what medical condition causes you to wear a hoodie year round?" And the timeless favorite at Christmastime or when a birthday rolls around and I send over some ideas of what the kid wants: I could build/make that cheaper. "Give me a Sharpie and I'll make him 30 pairs of Jordans!"

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

Plenty of 12 year olds are scared or the dark and being on their own. She is totally normal. And him teasing her about it was probably a way to make her feel less scared in a weird way. No one did anything wrong but this is not a good arrangement and she is not ready to be on her own.

It wasn't dark. OP said her DD would be home alone for max 2 hours until going to the bus stop at 8. I wake up at 6, it's getting to be daylight. By 6:20, the time DD went to the neighbors, it's plenty light outside.

PPs need to stop saying it's normal for a 12 yo to be scared at home alone during the day, because it's really not. It means you've instilled in your DC there's something dangerous about it or that they can't handle it. The normal 12 yo is not scared. It's something you need to work on to increase independence, not just accept.

You are truly insuferable and not normal yourself.

I'm not OP and its perfectly normal for 12 years olds to be afraid to be on their own. I moved to a different country without my parents at 17 but didn't want to stay on my own. You're just weird and wrong. It has nothing to do with independence or growing up.

It’s sort of the definition of independence and it is not normal. My 12 yo can be home for 2 hours alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

Plenty of 12 year olds are scared or the dark and being on their own. She is totally normal. And him teasing her about it was probably a way to make her feel less scared in a weird way. No one did anything wrong but this is not a good arrangement and she is not ready to be on her own.

It wasn't dark. OP said her DD would be home alone for max 2 hours until going to the bus stop at 8. I wake up at 6, it's getting to be daylight. By 6:20, the time DD went to the neighbors, it's plenty light outside.

PPs need to stop saying it's normal for a 12 yo to be scared at home alone during the day, because it's really not. It means you've instilled in your DC there's something dangerous about it or that they can't handle it. The normal 12 yo is not scared. It's something you need to work on to increase independence, not just accept.

You are truly insuferable and not normal yourself.

I'm not OP and its perfectly normal for 12 years olds to be afraid to be on their own. I moved to a different country without my parents at 17 but didn't want to stay on my own. You're just weird and wrong. It has nothing to do with independence or growing up.

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

Plenty of 12 year olds are scared or the dark and being on their own. She is totally normal. And him teasing her about it was probably a way to make her feel less scared in a weird way. No one did anything wrong but this is not a good arrangement and she is not ready to be on her own.

It wasn't dark. OP said her DD would be home alone for max 2 hours until going to the bus stop at 8. I wake up at 6, it's getting to be daylight. By 6:20, the time DD went to the neighbors, it's plenty light outside.

PPs need to stop saying it's normal for a 12 yo to be scared at home alone during the day, because it's really not. It means you've instilled in your DC there's something dangerous about it or that they can't handle it. The normal 12 yo is not scared. It's something you need to work on to increase independence, not just accept.

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

My 15yo is scared of being alone out too, pretty normal

There is nothing normal about a 15 year old who is afraid to be alone!

Anonymous wrote:Op, a huge amount of grandparents these days would not do what these neighbors did for you. You are entitled and insane.

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Anonymous wrote:Hang on, your daughter who is 12 years old was scared of the dark or being alone?? I mean, I probably wouldn’t tease her but jeez.

My 15yo is scared of being alone out too, pretty normal