And here we have another thread started by a parent who wants to know all the details. And parents jumping in to brag on their schools and drag others down.

If you think there is a problem here (maybe you don’t) and that parents are not an enormous part of it, you’re not really paying attention.

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Anonymous wrote:The enormous pressure on kids is coming from parents. And no one knows the moment that it will simply be more than the kids can bear.

The student at Andover who took his own life on Ivy Day a few weeks ago? Could have been any kid, imo. He is really all of our kids.

Parents: Do better. Stop bickering. Model kindness. And, yes, that success is a long arc with many, many paths and steps along the way.

And all of those Insta accounts are part of the problem.

The IG accounts are run by students. Have you ever considered that the students who post are proud of where they’re attending college and THEY want to share the news? Those who don’t want to share don’t have to share. Give these students some credit for having agency.

Calling BS right here. The proud student can brag on their own social media of choice, on every channel. While I personally find that tasteless, I recognize that a younger person might not yet have a more refined filter. I will celebrate them for their achievement.

Insta accounts by school that are public, and only the kids who feel good submit, are part of the problem.

As are you.

What is wrong with you? These accounts ARE student run. The schools (public and private) have nothing to do with them. My kid's friend runs the one at their school.

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Anonymous wrote:The enormous pressure on kids is coming from parents. And no one knows the moment that it will simply be more than the kids can bear.

The student at Andover who took his own life on Ivy Day a few weeks ago? Could have been any kid, imo. He is really all of our kids.

Parents: Do better. Stop bickering. Model kindness. And, yes, that success is a long arc with many, many paths and steps along the way.

And all of those Insta accounts are part of the problem.

The IG accounts are run by students. Have you ever considered that the students who post are proud of where they’re attending college and THEY want to share the news? Those who don’t want to share don’t have to share. Give these students some credit for having agency.

Calling BS right here. The proud student can brag on their own social media of choice, on every channel. While I personally find that tasteless, I recognize that a younger person might not yet have a more refined filter. I will celebrate them for their achievement.

Insta accounts by school that are public, and only the kids who feel good submit, are part of the problem.

As are you.

Anonymous wrote:The enormous pressure on kids is coming from parents. And no one knows the moment that it will simply be more than the kids can bear.

The student at Andover who took his own life on Ivy Day a few weeks ago? Could have been any kid, imo. He is really all of our kids.

Parents: Do better. Stop bickering. Model kindness. And, yes, that success is a long arc with many, many paths and steps along the way.

And all of those Insta accounts are part of the problem.

The IG accounts are run by students. Have you ever considered that the students who post are proud of where they’re attending college and THEY want to share the news? Those who don’t want to share don’t have to share. Give these students some credit for having agency.

Anonymous wrote:The enormous pressure on kids is coming from parents. And no one knows the moment that it will simply be more than the kids can bear.

The student at Andover who took his own life on Ivy Day a few weeks ago? Could have been any kid, imo. He is really all of our kids.

Parents: Do better. Stop bickering. Model kindness. And, yes, that success is a long arc with many, many paths and steps along the way.

And all of those Insta accounts are part of the problem.

Completely agree. Threads like this show just how toxic parents can make this process for the kids.

The enormous pressure on kids is coming from parents. And no one knows the moment that it will simply be more than the kids can bear.

The student at Andover who took his own life on Ivy Day a few weeks ago? Could have been any kid, imo. He is really all of our kids.

Parents: Do better. Stop bickering. Model kindness. And, yes, that success is a long arc with many, many paths and steps along the way.

And all of those Insta accounts are part of the problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Just fwiw, we have an STA US underclassmen. I am completely freaked out by the obsessive internet stalking of children’s college results at these top tier private schools — all of them. Including this thread. For our family, STAs culture — including not posting HS seniors college results on public IGs — is another reason the school is a good fit. Look, if you really care about that stuff, then it’s not going to be for you. And that’s ok. If college results are that important to you so that you are spending time on random HS IG pages, I am ok with you going somewhere else. Seems simple enough.

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And this is precisely why I told my DS ‘not’ to apply to St. As. There is a snobbery there (some might call it elitism) that just goes against my standards. My kid could have very well played in the St.As lane. Just wanted less of that mentality for my kid.

Not worried about top college for DS either. We have that covered.

My kid participates in the college web pages, which I think is normal for most seniors to participate. But I agree, it does feel a bit “intrusive” if you just don’t want people to know that you didn’t get into Harvard, or that you made a “financial” decision (aka public college).

The only people that I know that don’t want to advertise the college commitment are those that feel it will bring more questions, or that have something to hide. Usually, it’s the latter.


And I know your school well. I get why you do this.

Uh, anyone who would call it St. A’s does not know it at all.

The school strongly encourages the boys not to post. Clearly you have no idea why.

I know one reason why.

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Anonymous wrote:Just fwiw, we have an STA US underclassmen. I am completely freaked out by the obsessive internet stalking of children’s college results at these top tier private schools — all of them. Including this thread. For our family, STAs culture — including not posting HS seniors college results on public IGs — is another reason the school is a good fit. Look, if you really care about that stuff, then it’s not going to be for you. And that’s ok. If college results are that important to you so that you are spending time on random HS IG pages, I am ok with you going somewhere else. Seems simple enough.

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And this is precisely why I told my DS ‘not’ to apply to St. As. There is a snobbery there (some might call it elitism) that just goes against my standards. My kid could have very well played in the St.As lane. Just wanted less of that mentality for my kid.

Not worried about top college for DS either. We have that covered.

My kid participates in the college web pages, which I think is normal for most seniors to participate. But I agree, it does feel a bit “intrusive” if you just don’t want people to know that you didn’t get into Harvard, or that you made a “financial” decision (aka public college).

The only people that I know that don’t want to advertise the college commitment are those that feel it will bring more questions, or that have something to hide. Usually, it’s the latter.


And I know your school well. I get why you do this.

Uh, anyone who would call it St. A’s does not know it at all.

The school strongly encourages the boys not to post. Clearly you have no idea why.

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Anonymous wrote:Just fwiw, we have an STA US underclassmen. I am completely freaked out by the obsessive internet stalking of children’s college results at these top tier private schools — all of them. Including this thread. For our family, STAs culture — including not posting HS seniors college results on public IGs — is another reason the school is a good fit. Look, if you really care about that stuff, then it’s not going to be for you. And that’s ok. If college results are that important to you so that you are spending time on random HS IG pages, I am ok with you going somewhere else. Seems simple enough.

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And this is precisely why I told my DS ‘not’ to apply to St. As. There is a snobbery there (some might call it elitism) that just goes against my standards. My kid could have very well played in the St.As lane. Just wanted less of that mentality for my kid.

Not worried about top college for DS either. We have that covered.

My kid participates in the college web pages, which I think is normal for most seniors to participate. But I agree, it does feel a bit “intrusive” if you just don’t want people to know that you didn’t get into Harvard, or that you made a “financial” decision (aka public college).

The only people that I know that don’t want to advertise the college commitment are those that feel it will bring more questions, or that have something to hide. Usually, it’s the latter.


And I know your school well. I get why you do this.

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Anonymous wrote:Just fwiw, we have an STA US underclassmen. I am completely freaked out by the obsessive internet stalking of children’s college results at these top tier private schools — all of them. Including this thread. For our family, STAs culture — including not posting HS seniors college results on public IGs — is another reason the school is a good fit. Look, if you really care about that stuff, then it’s not going to be for you. And that’s ok. If college results are that important to you so that you are spending time on random HS IG pages, I am ok with you going somewhere else. Seems simple enough.

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Well others may see it a little differently, sort of as a source of pride. They are broadcasting to their peers and friends (who may have gone to different high schools) that this is my college decision. It cuts down on a lot of speculation and communications regarding “where are you going to college?” For my kids, it was akin to wearing their college sweatshirt.

I think there is a segment of the population that find it boastful or lacking discretion if anyone wants to know their business. By the same token, they are the ones wearing their high schools apparel out in public, at the country club, while jogging in their neighborhoods, when on vacay. It’s sort of like it’s okay if they can signal association in the “right” spaces, but how dare you ask about it in other spaces that they don’t want to be noticed.

It’s like wearing an Ivy top while jogging in an affluent neighborhood, which signals ‘you belong.’ But then not wanting others outside of the neighborhood to know your associations, effectively selectively gatekeeping.

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Anonymous wrote:STA and NCS have great college results!!

No they don’t. For private schools that are considered top tier, they have ok results.

Nope, sorry. Excellent results.

Nope, sorry. Meh results.

So says somebody with NOOOOOOO idea!

+1000!!!

STA/NCS parents are thin skinned and so easily triggered. 😂

Not triggered just love the back and forth with someone who clearly has no clue and clearly doesn’t care about making a fool of themselves.

Consider the argument asserted:
“Hey I don’t even know who you are but when you say your kid and a bunch of friends are going to Princeton, YOU ARE WRONG! You are also wrong about where their other friends are going BECAUSE I SAY SO! Any notion otherwise is wrong as well because just your saying so isn’t enough!”

Ok, if my knowledge of my own kid and friends isn’t enough, let’s use your standard: show the “receipts”
as to why the results are just “meh.”

TL;DR.

However, the length of this post strongly suggests it’s from a thin skinned and easily triggered STA/NCS parent.

DP. The fact that you consider 5 sentences TL and DR says so much about your intelligence.

The responses are not so much thin-skinned as people thinking they can persuade with facts or logical arguments. Reminds me of a phrase that a Southern friend once shared with me, “Don’t try to teach pigs to sing. You’re doomed to failure.” Guess who’s the pig here?

We’ve now reached the point where you’re lobbing personal insults at a complete stranger. Triggered, indeed! I see the STA/NCS parent community is being represented well in this post. Carry on! 😝

So funny you think that was a personal insult! ROFLMAO!!!

Triggered!

Based on these posts (and the parents I know personally), the STA/NCS community seems as nasty and parochial as I’ve heard. Sucks to be y’all. 😃

You “know” but then only “have heard?”
Interesting contradiction.

But it’s also interesting that you changed the subject when you lack examples.

You also revert to another mischaracterization. I would say these post DON’T reflect thin skins equally as much as the Cathedral schools did well in placements.

That you allege thin skins and bad outcomes and are wrong on both fronts says the most of all these posts.

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Anonymous wrote:STA and NCS have great college results!!

No they don’t. For private schools that are considered top tier, they have ok results.

Nope, sorry. Excellent results.

Nope, sorry. Meh results.

So says somebody with NOOOOOOO idea!

+1000!!!

STA/NCS parents are thin skinned and so easily triggered. 😂

Not triggered just love the back and forth with someone who clearly has no clue and clearly doesn’t care about making a fool of themselves.

Consider the argument asserted:
“Hey I don’t even know who you are but when you say your kid and a bunch of friends are going to Princeton, YOU ARE WRONG! You are also wrong about where their other friends are going BECAUSE I SAY SO! Any notion otherwise is wrong as well because just your saying so isn’t enough!”

Ok, if my knowledge of my own kid and friends isn’t enough, let’s use your standard: show the “receipts”
as to why the results are just “meh.”

TL;DR.

However, the length of this post strongly suggests it’s from a thin skinned and easily triggered STA/NCS parent.

DP. The fact that you consider 5 sentences TL and DR says so much about your intelligence.

The responses are not so much thin-skinned as people thinking they can persuade with facts or logical arguments. Reminds me of a phrase that a Southern friend once shared with me, “Don’t try to teach pigs to sing. You’re doomed to failure.” Guess who’s the pig here?

We’ve now reached the point where you’re lobbing personal insults at a complete stranger. Triggered, indeed! I see the STA/NCS parent community is being represented well in this post. Carry on! 😝

So funny you think that was a personal insult! ROFLMAO!!!

Triggered!

Based on these posts (and the parents I know personally), the STA/NCS community seems as nasty and parochial as I’ve heard. Sucks to be y’all. 😃

You “know” but then only “have heard?”
Interesting contradiction.

But it’s also interesting that you changed the subject when you lack examples.

You also revert to another mischaracterization. I would say these post DON’T reflect thin skins equally as much as the Cathedral schools did well in placements.

That you allege thin skins and bad outcomes and are wrong on both fronts says the most of all these posts.

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Anonymous wrote:STA and NCS have great college results!!

No they don’t. For private schools that are considered top tier, they have ok results.

Nope, sorry. Excellent results.

Nope, sorry. Meh results.

So says somebody with NOOOOOOO idea!

+1000!!!

STA/NCS parents are thin skinned and so easily triggered. 😂

Not triggered just love the back and forth with someone who clearly has no clue and clearly doesn’t care about making a fool of themselves.

Consider the argument asserted:
“Hey I don’t even know who you are but when you say your kid and a bunch of friends are going to Princeton, YOU ARE WRONG! You are also wrong about where their other friends are going BECAUSE I SAY SO! Any notion otherwise is wrong as well because just your saying so isn’t enough!”

Ok, if my knowledge of my own kid and friends isn’t enough, let’s use your standard: show the “receipts”
as to why the results are just “meh.”

TL;DR.

However, the length of this post strongly suggests it’s from a thin skinned and easily triggered STA/NCS parent.

DP. The fact that you consider 5 sentences TL and DR says so much about your intelligence.

The responses are not so much thin-skinned as people thinking they can persuade with facts or logical arguments. Reminds me of a phrase that a Southern friend once shared with me, “Don’t try to teach pigs to sing. You’re doomed to failure.” Guess who’s the pig here?

We’ve now reached the point where you’re lobbing personal insults at a complete stranger. Triggered, indeed! I see the STA/NCS parent community is being represented well in this post. Carry on! 😝

So funny you think that was a personal insult! ROFLMAO!!!

Triggered!

Based on these posts (and the parents I know personally), the STA/NCS community seems as nasty and parochial as I’ve heard. Sucks to be y’all. 😃

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:STA and NCS have great college results!!

No they don’t. For private schools that are considered top tier, they have ok results.

Nope, sorry. Excellent results.

Nope, sorry. Meh results.

So says somebody with NOOOOOOO idea!

+1000!!!

STA/NCS parents are thin skinned and so easily triggered. 😂

Not triggered just love the back and forth with someone who clearly has no clue and clearly doesn’t care about making a fool of themselves.

Consider the argument asserted:
“Hey I don’t even know who you are but when you say your kid and a bunch of friends are going to Princeton, YOU ARE WRONG! You are also wrong about where their other friends are going BECAUSE I SAY SO! Any notion otherwise is wrong as well because just your saying so isn’t enough!”

Ok, if my knowledge of my own kid and friends isn’t enough, let’s use your standard: show the “receipts”
as to why the results are just “meh.”

TL;DR.

However, the length of this post strongly suggests it’s from a thin skinned and easily triggered STA/NCS parent.

DP. The fact that you consider 5 sentences TL and DR says so much about your intelligence.

The responses are not so much thin-skinned as people thinking they can persuade with facts or logical arguments. Reminds me of a phrase that a Southern friend once shared with me, “Don’t try to teach pigs to sing. You’re doomed to failure.” Guess who’s the pig here?

We’ve now reached the point where you’re lobbing personal insults at a complete stranger. Triggered, indeed! I see the STA/NCS parent community is being represented well in this post. Carry on! 😝

So funny you think that was a personal insult! ROFLMAO!!!

Anonymous wrote:Just fwiw, we have an STA US underclassmen. I am completely freaked out by the obsessive internet stalking of children’s college results at these top tier private schools — all of them. Including this thread. For our family, STAs culture — including not posting HS seniors college results on public IGs — is another reason the school is a good fit. Look, if you really care about that stuff, then it’s not going to be for you. And that’s ok. If college results are that important to you so that you are spending time on random HS IG pages, I am ok with you going somewhere else. Seems simple enough.

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