Anonymous
03/21/2025 00:58
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are a nut OP.
Being touched on the thigh is not assault.
It is not a crime.
It's textbook assault.
These could be 8 yr olds. Some ages would help
Op says they are in high school.
Anonymous
03/21/2025 00:01
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
OP, the school already suspended the kid as punishment. What additional punishment would you like to see?
Anonymous
03/20/2025 21:46
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Plot twist it is actually DS that was assaulted and girl put a hand on his thigh for a few seconds. Police won't take a SA report because a boy is reporting it.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 21:36
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are a nut OP.
Being touched on the thigh is not assault.
It is not a crime.
It's textbook assault.
These could be 8 yr olds. Some ages would help
Anonymous
03/20/2025 21:02
Subject: DD assaulted
https://rainn.org/resources
OP, this is where you need to start. Call them and ask for a local referral. No one here knows the ins and outs of your jurisdiction. You need local help.
OP, this is where you need to start. Call them and ask for a local referral. No one here knows the ins and outs of your jurisdiction. You need local help.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:59
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.
File a FOIA request for the video. If they turn that down, get a lawyer and file a complaint, which will allow you to subpeona it.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:56
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is the SRO, I do not have attorney and do not know where to go from here. Could I just file a report with another cop?
No you filed a report already.
You can’t file multiple reports for the same thing.
It doesn't sound like the report was ever filed. I think the SRO talked her out of it.
My daughter initially reported it to them and he kept telling her they would file it and see what happens next, I went to formally sign the paper work then he said no. They tormented her mentally.
Deal with one thing at a time OP. File the police report. Depending on who your SRO reports to, you can then make a complaint about the refusal of filing the report. Find your daughter a therapist. Those should be the 3 things to deal with now.
This. You may also want to consider some kind of self defense course or assertiveness coaching in addition to therapy. Someone touching her thigh without permission is not okay, but being able to say “take your hand off me” and mean it is very empowering (and effective most of the time).
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:45
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Am I the only person who thinks that OP needs to empower her daughter to knee a guy in the balls when he does that?
No police report for this. Truly, nothing will come of it. But the next time someone fondles her boob or grabs her butt while she is on public transportation, she needs to turn around and knee them in the crotch. And then kick him in the shin for good measure. All while exclaiming "don't grab my butt, you pervert." Obviously only do this when she is surrounded by lots of other people!
My daughter is a student in NYC and has chased teens down when they’ve grabbed her butt.
At least yell STOP! in your loudest voice.
I don’t know how people can say get a lawyer with zero information given by the OP.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:14
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are a nut OP.
Being touched on the thigh is not assault.
It is not a crime.
It's textbook assault.
Given what OP has told us, maybe…maybe not.
Picking a flower from your neighbor’s yard is textbook theft, but no cop will write this up and no DA would prosecute.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:12
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You are a nut OP.
Being touched on the thigh is not assault.
It is not a crime.
It's textbook assault.
"Textbook" is it? LOL. Yeah there are tons of cases making their way through the court system for this textbook assault, the brutality of which is almost unfathomable. My God, how can anyone live a normal life after such a heinous attack?!
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:08
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is the SRO, I do not have attorney and do not know where to go from here. Could I just file a report with another cop?
No you filed a report already.
You can’t file multiple reports for the same thing.
It doesn't sound like the report was ever filed. I think the SRO talked her out of it.
My daughter initially reported it to them and he kept telling her they would file it and see what happens next, I went to formally sign the paper work then he said no. They tormented her mentally.
Deal with one thing at a time OP. File the police report. Depending on who your SRO reports to, you can then make a complaint about the refusal of filing the report. Find your daughter a therapist. Those should be the 3 things to deal with now.
OP here - With filing the report, Will they get the video from the school or expect me to have it? Is video really the main evidence used in cases like this or can I file a report and charges without it (if it's lost or deleted) and get accountability.
They will get the video. There are steps you can take to get the video too and you should do that as well. You don't need the video to file the report. You don't need anything other than your daughter and her telling them what happened. They follow up on everything else. Unless there are witnesses, the video will be the main evidence.
You’ve never dealt with the criminal justice system. There won’t be any evidence or investigation. Cops don’t have time to investigate violent crime, no one is investigating a light touch of the thigh. OP can try to file a report, the cops aren’t going to write a report for someone touching a thigh. OP’s kid is going to leave the police station feeling stupid.
Also—the kid was already suspended. What else does OP want? Jail time? Probation? Fines? None of that will happen.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:02
Subject: DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:You are a nut OP.
Being touched on the thigh is not assault.
It is not a crime.
It's textbook assault.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:02
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.
but there is video!
this is bs
I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy
did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??
op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.
ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.
No one is family with him. He was shortly suspended for a few days but that was all. I saw it but they would not let me have it.
This seems appropriate. A suspension is a big deal. What do you want to happen?
He's regularly suspended and has been suspended three times since. I need proper justice.
What do you think is proper justice here? Honestly want to know.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:01
Subject: DD assaulted
OP call the precinct and ask if theres an officer who can walk you through filing the report.
Anonymous
03/20/2025 20:00
Subject: Re:DD assaulted
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is a question for the OP. OP, did the cops write a report and the DA refused the case? Can you explain further?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is your dd? What is the reason the cops don't want to press charges? Have you considered going above the cops head to the DA?
That doesn’t make sense. Are you saying the cop wouldn’t write a report? Get a lawyer, file a police report. Only a prosecutor can keep you from pressing charges. They can decline to prosecute or strike a plea deal, but that’s different.
He let us file a police report and said that he needed a signature but when we came back for that he said he would not have probable cause.
but there is video!
this is bs
I wonder if the police officer or someone in the school district is family members with the boy
did they at least say he's not allowed to ride the bus anymore??
op, I know someone whose son engaged in consensual hooking up with his girlfriend. both the girlfriend and her parents agree it was consensual and have not pressed charges. the same thing happened a year ago and the school is making the boy go to an alternative school for the rest of the school year. both sets of parents were shown the video.
ask to see the video. subtly take out your camera and video it while they are showing it to you.
Ok MAGA your stupidity is showing.
OP if you are not a troll it doesn't work like this. Get a lawyer. If you do not then you failed not the school. You haven't given many details your only option is to get a lawyer.