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Anonymous wrote:Dear Lord. I swear there are just a handful of posters who are obsessed with cheating and cloud the entire Relationship Forum with that angle, all the time. If anyone does anything... it's cheating!

And women cheat just as often as men but you rarerly hear about it.

You should check out the infidelity subs on Reddit and you’d quickly realize you’re wrong.

Cucked men aren’t generally processing their feelings on Reddit.

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Anonymous wrote:From a former cheater:

He seems to have an inner happiness, contentment, or calmness that he doesn't deserve no matter how badly you treat him. A smart man works to hide that happiness but it's a hard thing to do in practice.

He stops making moves, complimenting you, or asking you for sex. He seems to have given up asking, like it no longer matters and he's suddenly fine with your sexless marriage. Doesn't even bother kissing you anymore. Just happy to be the roommates you've turned into.

Comes home smelling like gasoline, tells you story about his dumb move at the gas pump where he spilled some on his pants and shoes. Rushes off to take a shower and drops clothes in the washing machine. Can only use this trick once but it's a classic.

Nope, we still had s*x right up until the end. Not good s*x but still had it. He did however start using a condom religiously right out of the blue. So that was a sign.

Another sign: lots of leaving the room to take phone calls "from work."

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Anonymous wrote:From a former cheater:

He seems to have an inner happiness, contentment, or calmness that he doesn't deserve no matter how badly you treat him. A smart man works to hide that happiness but it's a hard thing to do in practice.

He stops making moves, complimenting you, or asking you for sex. He seems to have given up asking, like it no longer matters and he's suddenly fine with your sexless marriage. Doesn't even bother kissing you anymore. Just happy to be the roommates you've turned into.

Comes home smelling like gasoline, tells you story about his dumb move at the gas pump where he spilled some on his pants and shoes. Rushes off to take a shower and drops clothes in the washing machine. Can only use this trick once but it's a classic.

Nope, we still had s*x right up until the end. Not good s*x but still had it. He did however start using a condom religiously right out of the blue. So that was a sign.

Another sign: lots of leaving the room to take phone calls "from work."

Anonymous wrote:From a former cheater:

He seems to have an inner happiness, contentment, or calmness that he doesn't deserve no matter how badly you treat him. A smart man works to hide that happiness but it's a hard thing to do in practice.

He stops making moves, complimenting you, or asking you for sex. He seems to have given up asking, like it no longer matters and he's suddenly fine with your sexless marriage. Doesn't even bother kissing you anymore. Just happy to be the roommates you've turned into.

Comes home smelling like gasoline, tells you story about his dumb move at the gas pump where he spilled some on his pants and shoes. Rushes off to take a shower and drops clothes in the washing machine. Can only use this trick once but it's a classic.

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Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.

He had given me a story about running late from work (again) that just didn’t sit right. My intuition was setting off alarm bells so I looked. I actually posted about it here, that my husband was in a random parking lot, and everyone told me I was a crazy, possessive busy body, that no wonder he was sitting in a parking lot enjoying peace.

So for months I ignored what was likely happening right in front of me, thinking myself overbearing and intrusive, because a bunch of strangers on the internet said as much and shamed me. And so for months he continued cheating, until he got an STI and came clean. Thankfully I hadn’t caught it, but how stupid of me to listed to these idiots here.

Please, trust yourself gut, and do whatever you need to do, WITHOUT GUILT, to get to the bottom of things.

OMG! That is almost exactly my story. I was checking to make sure our child made it home on FindMy and noticed he was at an apartment complex. Called and he didn’t answer the phone. Texted - no response until 30 min later and I’m following his car out of the parking lot on the app while he is trying to convince me he was at the mall. Took another 3 months and him catching an STD. He couldn’t hide that.

A rando Tinder or ongoing with this person? Did u figure out who they were?

Random hook up that turned into getting together whenever the spouse went out of town. I know the apartment complex where they live but not who it is. I feel sorry for the other spouse not know their spouse is cheating and some stranger was having sex in their home.

Yes!!! What is with the rise of these women doing it in their marital homes. And, apartment? Like the neighbors are literally right there on all sides, across the hall. Everyone knows she’s banging dudes behind husband’s back and it just isn’t yours most definitely. The men love it because they don’t have to spend a single cent on a hotel room.

If you are having sex in your own bed, your FindMy shows up as you being at home. No questions are raised.

But I imagine with RTO, the frequency of this will diminish.

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Anonymous wrote:Trust me and trust yourself: If you’re asking, you likely already know what the answer is.

Everyone here talks about how crappy a wife is for using FindMy, but that’s exactly how I FoundMy husband cheating.

He had given me a story about running late from work (again) that just didn’t sit right. My intuition was setting off alarm bells so I looked. I actually posted about it here, that my husband was in a random parking lot, and everyone told me I was a crazy, possessive busy body, that no wonder he was sitting in a parking lot enjoying peace.

So for months I ignored what was likely happening right in front of me, thinking myself overbearing and intrusive, because a bunch of strangers on the internet said as much and shamed me. And so for months he continued cheating, until he got an STI and came clean. Thankfully I hadn’t caught it, but how stupid of me to listed to these idiots here.

Please, trust yourself gut, and do whatever you need to do, WITHOUT GUILT, to get to the bottom of things.

OMG! That is almost exactly my story. I was checking to make sure our child made it home on FindMy and noticed he was at an apartment complex. Called and he didn’t answer the phone. Texted - no response until 30 min later and I’m following his car out of the parking lot on the app while he is trying to convince me he was at the mall. Took another 3 months and him catching an STD. He couldn’t hide that.

A rando Tinder or ongoing with this person? Did u figure out who they were?

Random hook up that turned into getting together whenever the spouse went out of town. I know the apartment complex where they live but not who it is. I feel sorry for the other spouse not know their spouse is cheating and some stranger was having sex in their home.

Yes!!! What is with the rise of these women doing it in their marital homes. And, apartment? Like the neighbors are literally right there on all sides, across the hall. Everyone knows she’s banging dudes behind husband’s back and it just isn’t yours most definitely. The men love it because they don’t have to spend a single cent on a hotel room.

If you are having sex in your own bed, your FindMy shows up as you being at home. No questions are raised.

But I imagine with RTO, the frequency of this will diminish.

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Anonymous wrote:Generally providing too much information extraneous detail when lying. That’s a big tell.

My ex one time randomly sent me a photo of herself and a woman she was out with as “proof” it was a girl’s night. That was actually the first hint that something was wrong because until then I hadn’t suspected a thing and why would she feel the need to prove she was only out with a gal pal?

This is a good one

Anonymous wrote:Generally providing too much information extraneous detail when lying. That’s a big tell.

My ex one time randomly sent me a photo of herself and a woman she was out with as “proof” it was a girl’s night. That was actually the first hint that something was wrong because until then I hadn’t suspected a thing and why would she feel the need to prove she was only out with a gal pal?