Anonymous wrote:Do you do your spouse’s laundry?

DH is all put out that he is the only person in the whole world with a SAH spouse who has to do his own laundry.
I think it’s normal.

Also, he exercises 3-4 days a week and refuses to use towels or wear jeans more than once, so he has a lot of laundry.

Laundry is just a symptom of his mental illness.

Anonymous wrote:I do the laundry of all rational creatures in the house.

Who washes the dog's sweater?

Yes. I do my DH laundry and sort it for him but I don’t fold it or put it away. I basically stay at home, work like 10hrs a week remotely and do all the kid pick ups and drop offs.

I was a SAHM for a long time and now work part-time. I have never done DH’s laundry. He expects me to do a lot of other things but not laundry. For that matter, all of of ours kids started doing their own in early elementary school. I do my own plus sheets/towels.

I do all the laundry but DH folds his own and everyone is responsible for putting away their own clothes. We have different methods of folding and neither of us like how the other does it.

We wash everything together. During the week I do it, but over the weekend I’ll have the teens or sometimes DH switch a load or lug it upstairs. I do all folding. Everyone puts away his or her own sorted clothes.

My husband does mine. He’s better at it.

I did for years, and then stopped when he started playing 2 hours of tennis every day. Anyone who has that much recreational time has time to do their own laundry.

If he doesn't like it tell him to work more so he can afford to take it to the cleaners once a week.

Anonymous wrote:I do the laundry of all rational creatures in the house.

If I had to wash my spouse's one-time use towels and jeans, HECK NO, he would be on his own.

So suggest the following compromise: if he can behave like a normal person, he gets his laundry done by the mostly-stay-at-home adult. If he puts too much stuff in the laundry basket, all bets are off.

All rational creatures in my house would be me and maybe my 8 year old, sometimes.

I do all the laundry and all the housecleaning too. As in, we don't employ cleaners.

That said, I think OP's DH is being totally unreasonable. I would tell him that I will do one full load of his clothes per week and one set of towels per week (with the other family members' towels.) If he wants more than that, its on him.

I have a husband like this and his hamper is full after 1.5 days. To his credit, he has started to use his towels more than a day. But it’s something like:
Morning shower, night shirt and boxers in hamper
Work
Shower, work socks and boxers and shirt in hamper
before bedtime shower, if he worked out all of those clothes go in (shirt, shorts, boxers, socks)
If it’s trash night he takes a shower after taking the trash out, and then those clothes have to go in hamper (shirt, boxers, socks, sweatshirt, jeans).

He does have OCD or ADHD or something. I absolutely do not do all his laundry even though I SAH with school aged kid. We have separate hampers now and I feel happier.

Anonymous wrote:I've since gone back to work 30 hours a week but no, I stopped doing DH's laundry once we had kids.

To elaborate..

Once we had 2 kids, I was doing my own laundry twice a week, kids laundry once or twice a week x2, 3 sheet sets once a week, towels once a week... I made DH do his own because that was already 7-8 loads of laundry a week. The kids are getting older now... I manage them doing their own laundry as in it's a chore they sometimes need help with but it's not 100% on me anymore.

Why is it the SAHM’s job to do the husband’s laundry? When I worked full time, I did my own laundry and the kids’.

No, I don’t do his laundry.

I do the laundry of all rational creatures in the house.

If I had to wash my spouse's one-time use towels and jeans, HECK NO, he would be on his own.

So suggest the following compromise: if he can behave like a normal person, he gets his laundry done by the mostly-stay-at-home adult. If he puts too much stuff in the laundry basket, all bets are off.