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Anonymous wrote:Some kind of hobby or activity that you actually enjoy. Find someone with a common interest.

This.

If you’re religious, join a large church, synagogue, etc. with like-minded believers. If you have a cause you believe in, volunteer. If you are intellectually curious, take a class, ho to museum events, etc. Join a civic group to find civic minded individuals. Join a choir, sports team, garden club, hiking group, ballroom dance class, D&D gamers, etc. - whatever it is that you love.

Basically, live your life doing what makes you happy. The people you meet in doing so will be more likely to be compatible, either as friends or romantic partners, because of your common interests. If a romance develops, you’ll have something to build on and know that they accept you for who you are, and if it doesn’t, you’ll still have spent that time living your best life, rather than staying in a holding pattern waiting for someone else to make you happy. There’s an opportunity cost for everything, and while romance can be wonderful, every relationship requires compromises. While you’re waiting for the right person to come along, you are free to do whatever you want, without having to accommodate someone else’s opposing preferences. Take advantage of it while you can, and maybe you’ll find a sympathetic spirit along the way whose preferences will (mostly) align with your own.

Anonymous wrote:Some kind of hobby or activity that you actually enjoy. Find someone with a common interest.

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Anonymous wrote:Open board game night at the friendly local gaming store seems to be at least 75% men. Of course, many of them are married or gay, but you'll run into that issue with any social activity. And it's not a great way to meet men if you don't enjoy board gaming, because the men you meet will assume you're into board gaming. That's the problem with tailoring your activities to where you think the men are—what if you don't actually enjoy the activities that men are into?

So my advice is do whatever social activities you enjoy—not because you think there will be men there, but because you enjoy them. If you connect with someone, hooray. If you don't, you're still doing something you enjoy.

No, thanks. A bunch of D&D types hanging out in “the gaming store.” That’s a good way to find someone who will spend all of their free time playing World of Warcraft.

A pox on thee, foul woman! May you encounter a beholder on your travels.

Proof positive! In a size XXXL tshirt, I bet.

Anonymous wrote:Without using an app? I'm attractive, thin but haven't been active for a few months since getting hurt. I don't like the superficiality of dating apps or the needed first impression I have to make on them and then make the same first impression on the first date. Almost seems like a second job. So what is the best way to meet someone off the apps? Maybe I do need to change the way I dress because I dress for comfort and I don't really wear lash extensions or dye my hair.

Anonymous wrote:Volunteering, joining political groups, place of worship

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Anonymous wrote:Open board game night at the friendly local gaming store seems to be at least 75% men. Of course, many of them are married or gay, but you'll run into that issue with any social activity. And it's not a great way to meet men if you don't enjoy board gaming, because the men you meet will assume you're into board gaming. That's the problem with tailoring your activities to where you think the men are—what if you don't actually enjoy the activities that men are into?

So my advice is do whatever social activities you enjoy—not because you think there will be men there, but because you enjoy them. If you connect with someone, hooray. If you don't, you're still doing something you enjoy.

No, thanks. A bunch of D&D types hanging out in “the gaming store.” That’s a good way to find someone who will spend all of their free time playing World of Warcraft.

A pox on thee, foul woman! May you encounter a beholder on your travels.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Open board game night at the friendly local gaming store seems to be at least 75% men. Of course, many of them are married or gay, but you'll run into that issue with any social activity. And it's not a great way to meet men if you don't enjoy board gaming, because the men you meet will assume you're into board gaming. That's the problem with tailoring your activities to where you think the men are—what if you don't actually enjoy the activities that men are into?

So my advice is do whatever social activities you enjoy—not because you think there will be men there, but because you enjoy them. If you connect with someone, hooray. If you don't, you're still doing something you enjoy.

No, thanks. A bunch of D&D types hanging out in “the gaming store.” That’s a good way to find someone who will spend all of their free time playing World of Warcraft.