Anonymous
01/14/2025 14:12
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
If OP moves now with a 9th grader, it's too late for a selective public or top private in NYC. So schooling wise, a suburb is probably their best bet.
Thats just not accurate. There are tons of good schools in NYC, both public and private and there are definitely paths to entry even at 9th grade. You’re also assuming dcs kid would want or be capable of getting into a ‘top’ school (most people don’t, and honestly I wouldn’t want my kid to end up at an SHS like Stuy coming from a suburban school - I think the intensity would be a huge shock). But there are many many good options at various levels, schools that are great with good ex missions. The parents league can help op find open spots during off years if she wants to go private for the oldest dc. Off the top of my head, I know UNIS often has open spots because diplomat kids tend to move often.
Moving to NYC only to live in the suburbs is sort of a waste.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 13:17
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Could you move their temporarily and come back to something more senior? Could you go back and forth?
How many days in office? Could you rent a small place or would your company cover a corporate rental and you stay in NYC and commute to DC?
What do your kids say?
Someone I (vaguely) know was able to get corporate housing as part of their package and they go in idk how many days sleep over and then go home. When they are in the office they do work long hours, but it is so they work less when they are WFH.
They sound miserable, but they are making a ton more $, are C-level (which they wanted but couldn't get into at their former company) and know that in a year-18 months they can hopefully move to C-level somewhere that isn't such a long commute.
They had applied all over and this was all that stuck. So, have you applied for similar roles in DC? Could you get a similar role / pay? Have you used your network to see what is available?
How many days in office? Could you rent a small place or would your company cover a corporate rental and you stay in NYC and commute to DC?
What do your kids say?
Someone I (vaguely) know was able to get corporate housing as part of their package and they go in idk how many days sleep over and then go home. When they are in the office they do work long hours, but it is so they work less when they are WFH.
They sound miserable, but they are making a ton more $, are C-level (which they wanted but couldn't get into at their former company) and know that in a year-18 months they can hopefully move to C-level somewhere that isn't such a long commute.
They had applied all over and this was all that stuck. So, have you applied for similar roles in DC? Could you get a similar role / pay? Have you used your network to see what is available?
Anonymous
01/14/2025 13:09
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Great Falls is also a beautiful suburb in VA, the commute to DC isnt super easy but I guarantee you people who choose to live there are not bc they can’t afford DC.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 13:04
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
Or safety. Friend big time lawyer NYC. Owned in Brooklyn, loved it, bought a home in suburbs during pandemic and now sold place in Brooklyn because their area which they said (I have no idea as I dont know the area) was very popular and kid friendly is not very safe anymore and has had many instances. When they went back the local playground kids don't play on anymore according to them. So that was why they moved. They owned, kids went to private, but they seem very happy in the suburbs, have lots of friends and are happy their kids can move around freely.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 13:04
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
If OP moves now with a 9th grader, it's too late for a selective public or top private in NYC. So schooling wise, a suburb is probably their best bet.
Even if OP got the three kids in privates, it would be at least $150k in after tax money to educate them. Normal, educated people don’t choose that route unless they are extremely wealthy and/or have a job that necessitates living in Manhattan. The people I know sending their kids to NYC privates are Wall St bankers the like. At least $2 million a year minimum in HHI.
In DC, you need to be a doctor, lawyer, or executive to make good income. That’s not the case in NYC, sure, bankers are rainmakers, but a lot of people make money from alternative careers: owning small IT consulting firm, trade luxury fabrics from turkey, consult in fashion / restaurant/ design, successful podcasters, celebrity trainers who charges $200/class with connections across the art community. You can’t move the DC rules to NYC.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:57
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
If OP moves now with a 9th grader, it's too late for a selective public or top private in NYC. So schooling wise, a suburb is probably their best bet.
80% of our senior leadership commute from DC, Boston and Philly, they also share apartments for staggered 2-3 days of the week. Something OP can do for 6 month to figure things out.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:32
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
If OP moves now with a 9th grader, it's too late for a selective public or top private in NYC. So schooling wise, a suburb is probably their best bet.
Even if OP got the three kids in privates, it would be at least $150k in after tax money to educate them. Normal, educated people don’t choose that route unless they are extremely wealthy and/or have a job that necessitates living in Manhattan. The people I know sending their kids to NYC privates are Wall St bankers the like. At least $2 million a year minimum in HHI.
Actually, a lot of kids at these schools have parents who don't have super high paying jobs, but are still full-pay students. What they have going for them (and what also makes it possible for them to live in a very nice area in Manhattan) is they are one-and-done families.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:19
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
If OP moves now with a 9th grader, it's too late for a selective public or top private in NYC. So schooling wise, a suburb is probably their best bet.
Even if OP got the three kids in privates, it would be at least $150k in after tax money to educate them. Normal, educated people don’t choose that route unless they are extremely wealthy and/or have a job that necessitates living in Manhattan. The people I know sending their kids to NYC privates are Wall St bankers the like. At least $2 million a year minimum in HHI.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:17
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:500K is not enough for a family of 3 to live in NYC imo. You would need to live in Queens or NJ with 3 kids. Your commute would be long. Your kids would be fine but your life would be a slog and money would be tight.
Family of 5 you mean
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:16
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
Ha. Such a typical NY comment. No, not everyone wants to live in NY. I’ve lived in Manhattan and do not have any interest in apartment living. I love a large house and yard, quiet neighborhood and no to little crime.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:14
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
If OP moves now with a 9th grader, it's too late for a selective public or top private in NYC. So schooling wise, a suburb is probably their best bet.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 12:07
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
What’s your housing allowance? Housing will be the biggest issue, but if you are selling something with a lot of equity, it could work. NYC is a pretty magical place to grow up. Also consider sports. If your dc are into sports, it might be easier to live in Brooklyn over Manhattan, as example. The school thing is intense, but workable and there is nothing like NYC. Do not do suburbs. That’s like the worst of both worlds
Anonymous
01/14/2025 11:50
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Getting a 9th grader into a magnet school or a private school at this point in the year probably won't be possible. This means a good zoned public outside of NYC proper is probably the best option. Is this the version of NYC that you are looking for?
They’re not magnet schools but ok
Anonymous
01/14/2025 11:48
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:3 kids, 9th grade (could repeat grade if were to switch schools as very young for grade), 6th and 4th grade.
I may be offered a job in nyc. I make $350k in dc right now.
How much more would justify a move with a family from dc? Dh can work remotely $150k salary
I would need to make double and even then I wouldn't live in NYC, but a suburb. Do your kids want to move? Do they have close friendships? If they have good friends and you have a network in DC I would stay unless you may be laid off or something. Look for something new in DC. Also, what is commuting time? If it will be more if you move do you want to be away from your kids (if you take NJ transit, it can be a mess, take early trains).
I know a few families who lived in NYC with a higher HHI and they all moved/ say they are happier in the suburbs. One with 7 figure salary moved to Old Greenwich and loves it, another moved to Chatham, NJ and two who moved to Princeton, NJ. They lived in the city, loved it (some Brooklyn), but were tired of the crime, figuring out schools, and living in small apartments. Two families had kids in school and it worked out fine, the other has a toddler.
I would go look at some of these areas if you can if you are thinking of moving to see if you like certain areas/ cost of taxes etc (NJ and CT have high taxes) impact take home pay.
New Yorker here, in Manhattan. No one truly likes the suburbs all that much, they just say that. If OP is comfortable doing public school - and there are amazing publics but you have to work to get in them- living in Manhattan or Brooklyn or queens is highly preferable. Why move to NYC to not live in NYC?
Being a teenage in NYC is amazing. And not sure what you mean about crime. It’s really not that big of an issue despite what you might read.
Not true. There are many nice suburbs where people genuinely enjoy living. YOU may dislike suburbs but you’re not everyone.
I do agree that it doesn’t make a lot of sense to trade one suburb with another. Stay in the DC suburbs.
Sure, people can end up tolerating their suburb. But anyone who moves to NYC to live in NYC and then ends up moving to a NYC suburb (still very expensive and you have to commute, but the school thing is easier) does it for one of two reasons- they don’t have the $ to live how they want to live in NYC and/or they are worried their kids won’t make the cut at one of the top NYC publics.
Anonymous
01/14/2025 08:10
Subject: Would you move to NYC for a new job at 46 with 3 kids?
Anonymous wrote:Do you own a property in dc? The fact you didn’t mention this makes me think you’re a troll. A huge % of people are stuck in their current houses due to mortgage rates.
Even if I did want to pick up and move to Westchester, a mortgage in a similar place would be an extra $8-9k a month. Not to mention restarting the 30 year clock on the mortgage. I’d need an extra $250k just to cover the post-tax additional housing expense. Not to mention the opportunity cost of a 30 year 2.75% mortgage.
Whoa, my 6.5% rate on my nice 10 year old house is only 5200, you must live in a 3.5mm+ house?