Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Seems like a lot of old people responded to this - it is not as if OP did this at a formal dinner royalty... she did this at a family dinner. Not a big deal at all, especially given that is the primary way she is connecting with her family on a holiday.
100% MIL and husband were inappropriate (and it is shocking how many others don't get this?)
+1
Those types of responses have been rampant over the past week. Disgruntled MIL types.
This was a casual dinner with ILs and frankly OP was kind to agree to this arrangement in the first place (not just dinner but staying the night even though they only live 20min away). Most spouses would not.
It’s understandable that OP also wanted to connect with her family on NYE particularly if they are in another time zone. The MIL has her son and DIL at her home, in person all evening- surely she can “share” a bit.
Much ado about nothing.
If I were OP I’d probably vaguely apologize to keep some sort of peace, but would definitely not ever spend NYE over there again. And back away and gray rock for awhile.
Anonymous wrote:Seems like a lot of old people responded to this - it is not as if OP did this at a formal dinner royalty... she did this at a family dinner. Not a big deal at all, especially given that is the primary way she is connecting with her family on a holiday.
100% MIL and husband were inappropriate (and it is shocking how many others don't get this?)
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I do not believe taking a quick glance at your phone during a major holiday while having dinner in your in laws kitchen merits the pointed dressing down my mother in law gave me. It is incredibly rude and disrespectful. A normal person would have ignored it especially as I was NOT sitting there with my face in my phone the entire time. As she was focusing on berating her husband for being unable to cut his meat, I took a look at my family group chat. That was all.
I felt embarrassed at how she talked down to me. I could tell she was in a mood and wanted to pick on me. She has a habit of routinely picking on her kids or me when she is in a mood. I do not like to be disrespected and told her so, calmly and politely. She decided to escalate, compounded by my husband.
I do not appreciate that both she and my husband are intend on bullying me for "upsetting" her when she started it to begin with! I do not appreciate my husband making ME the problem instead of telling his mom to back off!
Ah, but OP, in your original post, you said FIL was being berated for having trouble cutting his broccoli, not his meat.
It’s hard to keep the details straight when they are…fanciful…right??
Yup. I caught this, too. Plus, the OP is ALL over this thread with responses. That’s not typical behavior either. It’s a bored troll. I spend way too much time on DCUM and can see them from a mile away.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I do not believe taking a quick glance at your phone during a major holiday while having dinner in your in laws kitchen merits the pointed dressing down my mother in law gave me. It is incredibly rude and disrespectful. A normal person would have ignored it especially as I was NOT sitting there with my face in my phone the entire time. As she was focusing on berating her husband for being unable to cut his meat, I took a look at my family group chat. That was all.
I felt embarrassed at how she talked down to me. I could tell she was in a mood and wanted to pick on me. She has a habit of routinely picking on her kids or me when she is in a mood. I do not like to be disrespected and told her so, calmly and politely. She decided to escalate, compounded by my husband.
I do not appreciate that both she and my husband are intend on bullying me for "upsetting" her when she started it to begin with! I do not appreciate my husband making ME the problem instead of telling his mom to back off!
Ah, but OP, in your original post, you said FIL was being berated for having trouble cutting his broccoli, not his meat.
It’s hard to keep the details straight when they are…fanciful…right??
Anonymous wrote:You should have said: I totally agree with you! But this is different: as you know, my family lives abroad. I communicate with them through our family group chat. They all say hi and wish you and FIL happy new year. I told them your crab crakes are delicious! What is your secret ingredient?
Anonymous wrote:The people on here are dinosaurs. Who cares in this day and age if someone checks their phone once during dinner? MIL is clearly old and losing it so she cares and its obvious the crazy posters here are exactly the same.
Anonymous wrote:You guys are so gullible. OP can’t even keep her facts straight. She’s making most of it up and getting her jollies by playing the victim.
Anonymous wrote:Seems like a lot of old people responded to this - it is not as if OP did this at a formal dinner royalty... she did this at a family dinner. Not a big deal at all, especially given that is the primary way she is connecting with her family on a holiday.
100% MIL and husband were inappropriate (and it is shocking how many others don't get this?)