Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents of boys:
How are you raising your SONS to be respectful, decent, honorable, kind, and protective of others and of themselves? How are you teaching YOUR SONS to be aware, to get consent, to not drug women, to not rape women, to not harass women…or anyone? How are you preparing YOUR SONS to be a safe person, and to stay safe?
I am so tired of “how are we preparing girls.” I want to hear more from parents of boys how you are being part of the solution, how you are being proactive, how you are making positive change in this world where boys and men are usually the aggressors, the unsafe people, the predators, the perpetrators. I want to know what you are teaching your SONS.
I prepared my DS to stay away from toxic women such as yourself and all of your immasculinating garbage that you spew on a daily basis. All men are not like this, just as all women, thankfully, are not like you. My DS and his friends look at you and ANY woman who thinks about them the way you do as psychotic. That is what his father and I would have taught him, fortunately he has his own brain and figured that out himself. You NEED serious mental healthcare.
Well said. Just what I was thinking.
Anonymous wrote:Parents of boys:
How are you raising your SONS to be respectful, decent, honorable, kind, and protective of others and of themselves? How are you teaching YOUR SONS to be aware, to get consent, to not drug women, to not rape women, to not harass women…or anyone? How are you preparing YOUR SONS to be a safe person, and to stay safe?
I am so tired of “how are we preparing girls.” I want to hear more from parents of boys how you are being part of the solution, how you are being proactive, how you are making positive change in this world where boys and men are usually the aggressors, the unsafe people, the predators, the perpetrators. I want to know what you are teaching your SONS.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:These boy-moms need to lead by eliminating any hint of toxic masculinity developing in their sons.
I actually encourage what you might call "toxic masculinity." Not trying to raise any soy boys around here.
Anonymous wrote:I teach my sons to run far far away from promiscuous girls. I show them all the examples around us wherever I can of men’s lives who were ruined by the choice the engage in one night stands, “friends with benefits”, and any other cheap premarital sex. Those men often end up with battling assault allegations, child support payments, STDs, heart hardening heartbreak, violent ex-lovers, etc. This is a major way that they can protect themselves. We teach and emphasize marriage instead and the success stories of those that choose reverent, conservative, and modest spouses. We also teach them to be reverent, conservative, and modest so as to attract the same energy.
As far as protecting others, well I don’t really think that is their job. Parents need to be teaching girls how to respect and protect themselves. Hence the reason for the other thread.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I teach my sons to run far far away from promiscuous girls. I show them all the examples around us wherever I can of men’s lives who were ruined by the choice the engage in one night stands, “friends with benefits”, and any other cheap premarital sex. Those men often end up with battling assault allegations, child support payments, STDs, heart hardening heartbreak, violent ex-lovers, etc. This is a major way that they can protect themselves. We teach and emphasize marriage instead and the success stories of those that choose reverent, conservative, and modest spouses. We also teach them to be reverent, conservative, and modest so as to attract the same energy.
As far as protecting others, well I don’t really think that is their job. Parents need to be teaching girls how to respect and protect themselves. Hence the reason for the other thread.
1000%
Hate to agree, but I do. Marriage is important to us. Not the extent that we would disown a child for a pregnancy out of wedlock or anything, but we raise them to believe that marriage is the default. Would prefer no premarital sex, but we're not stupid. We are very clear on the ramifications of casual sex, though.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We/I talked to ds at about 14 about consent and using protection every single time. It was more of a refresher talk because he had started dating. We were on a road trip, so a good time to chat. I told him that if she tenses up, hesitates, or pushes him away at ALL, it was time to stop. I also told him that it was just as ok for him to stop, and she needed to respect that.
We also talked about never trusting the pill (I was on birth control both times I got pregnant, and reacting to pregnancy. I also brought up not staying in a bad relationship because he liked the sex.
Yikes. Your 14 yo is having sex?
That was 9 years ago. He wasn't having sex yet but he was dating. 14/15 is pretty common for first experiences. My husband teaches 9th grade... our heads were not buried in the sand.
Fast forward to today. At 23 1/2 ds has had the same GF for 7 years. They are talking about marriage, buying a house etc.
Dating for 7 years? So, failure to launch. Sounds like you weren't as successful as this as you thought.
What are you talking about? They are 23 and 24. He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way. He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house.
Failure to lauch? Hardly.
Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults.
STFU already. They are barely not kids anymore. No one should be getting married until they finish college.
Yeah, well, they should be finished with college at that age, too. But whatever. Thankfully not my problem!
So shut up about it.
I'm just shocked people think it's ok to shack up for 7 years! Blows my mind.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We/I talked to ds at about 14 about consent and using protection every single time. It was more of a refresher talk because he had started dating. We were on a road trip, so a good time to chat. I told him that if she tenses up, hesitates, or pushes him away at ALL, it was time to stop. I also told him that it was just as ok for him to stop, and she needed to respect that.
We also talked about never trusting the pill (I was on birth control both times I got pregnant, and reacting to pregnancy. I also brought up not staying in a bad relationship because he liked the sex.
Yikes. Your 14 yo is having sex?
That was 9 years ago. He wasn't having sex yet but he was dating. 14/15 is pretty common for first experiences. My husband teaches 9th grade... our heads were not buried in the sand.
Fast forward to today. At 23 1/2 ds has had the same GF for 7 years. They are talking about marriage, buying a house etc.
Dating for 7 years? So, failure to launch. Sounds like you weren't as successful as this as you thought.
What are you talking about? They are 23 and 24. He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way. He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house.
Failure to lauch? Hardly.
Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults.
Even conservative loon “Dr.” Laura says people should not get married until the age of 25. That’s how crazy you are—even Dr. Laura thinks that’s too young for marriage.
What's going to change in two years? If they're not committed, they should have been exploring options.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:These boy-moms need to lead by eliminating any hint of toxic masculinity developing in their sons.
I actually encourage what you might call "toxic masculinity." Not trying to raise any soy boys around here.
Same here. Also, teaching them to dump any women who use phrases like "toxic masculinity". No need for them to sign up for a lifetime of misery.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We/I talked to ds at about 14 about consent and using protection every single time. It was more of a refresher talk because he had started dating. We were on a road trip, so a good time to chat. I told him that if she tenses up, hesitates, or pushes him away at ALL, it was time to stop. I also told him that it was just as ok for him to stop, and she needed to respect that.
We also talked about never trusting the pill (I was on birth control both times I got pregnant, and reacting to pregnancy. I also brought up not staying in a bad relationship because he liked the sex.
Yikes. Your 14 yo is having sex?
That was 9 years ago. He wasn't having sex yet but he was dating. 14/15 is pretty common for first experiences. My husband teaches 9th grade... our heads were not buried in the sand.
Fast forward to today. At 23 1/2 ds has had the same GF for 7 years. They are talking about marriage, buying a house etc.
Dating for 7 years? So, failure to launch. Sounds like you weren't as successful as this as you thought.
What are you talking about? They are 23 and 24. He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way. He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house.
Failure to lauch? Hardly.
Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults.
STFU already. They are barely not kids anymore. No one should be getting married until they finish college.
Yeah, well, they should be finished with college at that age, too. But whatever. Thankfully not my problem!
So shut up about it.
I'm just shocked people think it's ok to shack up for 7 years! Blows my mind.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We/I talked to ds at about 14 about consent and using protection every single time. It was more of a refresher talk because he had started dating. We were on a road trip, so a good time to chat. I told him that if she tenses up, hesitates, or pushes him away at ALL, it was time to stop. I also told him that it was just as ok for him to stop, and she needed to respect that.
We also talked about never trusting the pill (I was on birth control both times I got pregnant, and reacting to pregnancy. I also brought up not staying in a bad relationship because he liked the sex.
Yikes. Your 14 yo is having sex?
That was 9 years ago. He wasn't having sex yet but he was dating. 14/15 is pretty common for first experiences. My husband teaches 9th grade... our heads were not buried in the sand.
Fast forward to today. At 23 1/2 ds has had the same GF for 7 years. They are talking about marriage, buying a house etc.
Dating for 7 years? So, failure to launch. Sounds like you weren't as successful as this as you thought.
What are you talking about? They are 23 and 24. He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way. He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house.
Failure to lauch? Hardly.
Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults.
STFU already. They are barely not kids anymore. No one should be getting married until they finish college.
Yeah, well, they should be finished with college at that age, too. But whatever. Thankfully not my problem!
So shut up about it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We/I talked to ds at about 14 about consent and using protection every single time. It was more of a refresher talk because he had started dating. We were on a road trip, so a good time to chat. I told him that if she tenses up, hesitates, or pushes him away at ALL, it was time to stop. I also told him that it was just as ok for him to stop, and she needed to respect that.
We also talked about never trusting the pill (I was on birth control both times I got pregnant, and reacting to pregnancy. I also brought up not staying in a bad relationship because he liked the sex.
Yikes. Your 14 yo is having sex?
That was 9 years ago. He wasn't having sex yet but he was dating. 14/15 is pretty common for first experiences. My husband teaches 9th grade... our heads were not buried in the sand.
Fast forward to today. At 23 1/2 ds has had the same GF for 7 years. They are talking about marriage, buying a house etc.
Dating for 7 years? So, failure to launch. Sounds like you weren't as successful as this as you thought.
What are you talking about? They are 23 and 24. He graduated from college in June, she still has two more years because she's paying her own way. He is working in his chosen field, and saving for a ring and a down-payment on a house.
Failure to lauch? Hardly.
Dating for 7 years mean someone's not committed. Cool for teenagers, not cool for adults.
Even conservative loon “Dr.” Laura says people should not get married until the age of 25. That’s how crazy you are—even Dr. Laura thinks that’s too young for marriage.
What's going to change in two years? If they're not committed, they should have been exploring options.