Anonymous wrote:My internet sleuthing is limited to looking up their house on Zillow or property records to see how much they paid.

I think I'm just nosy but maybe I'm a stalker??

Are you physically driving past their houses after looking up their addresses? Are you googling their children and watching their sporting events? If not, you're good.

Signed, someone who also looks on zillow to see how much someone i know paid for their house.

Anonymous wrote:I do all that and more to all kinds of people and definitely to guys I'm attracted to. As long as you aren't actually predatory and going after the guy or parking outside his house or work or planning on how to murder his wife, what's the harm? I have drawn the line for myself at actually paying for info like a PI would on the internet but if it's out there and it's free and easy to get, why not?

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Because it's stalkerish. That's why. How would you feel if a random man at your work, who you knew casually, was driving past your home, watching your child's sporting events live feeds online, screenshotting images of your lectures and saving them to his phone, and researching what your husband does for a living and where he works? Would you feel that he was totally above board and no problem at all?

Holy crap, YES!

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never googled anyone outside of maybe a famous person or someone related to my work. If you’re that bored or curious, consider learning a new language or musical instrument. Or maybe just read a book. This thread is sad.

Brain rot isn’t the word of 2024 for nothing. Pathetic.

I’ve never googled anyone outside of maybe a famous person or someone related to my work. If you’re that bored or curious, consider learning a new language or musical instrument. Or maybe just read a book. This thread is sad.

Anonymous wrote:OP I hope you understand most have cameras and they could easily spot you driving by their house. Stop that nonsense.

Who is watching every car that drives by??? She didn’t say she’s sitting out front for hours.

The screenshot thing is uber creepy.

Sounds like an OSINT investigator to me. People get paid big bucks to do that.

OP, stalking makes you a stalker.

1. I'm certain you left off other things you were too embarrassed to admit; and
2. You named yourself first. You considered you were likely a stalker to the degree you had to ask DCUM. You knew you'd get the usual freaks who manage to say the exact opposite of the masses and use their poor judgement to justify your behavior.

In your heart you know the naysayers are wrong. Because you're a stalker.

Anonymous wrote:You need to take stalking to the next level and find their reddit handle. It's surprisingly easy to do if you know their location and general interests.

My ex gf from college rode horses, was a PA, and was from a small resort town in the PNW. I've been following her for a couple years.

It's amazing what people will reveal whew they think they are anonymous.