Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Haven't read the entire thread, but here in the DMV we and others are all transplants. Some friends we have known for 15+ years and are close.
Neither I or spouse ever told anyone about our out-of-town parents dying...and others have not told us about their own (only learning about some these things years after they happened). None of us are big social media people and would ever post something like this on social media.
All this to say...unless we proactively told someone about a parent dying, absolutely nobody would know.
I'm right there with you. Our parents die because they're old and it's normal. I don't need flowers nor food nor messages. It's a private matter to me.
This. I did appreciate messages, but I certainly don't expect flowers or meals. Meals you do for a widow or when a family with young kids or even teens loses a parent. You also do it if there is financial hardship.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Haven't read the entire thread, but here in the DMV we and others are all transplants. Some friends we have known for 15+ years and are close.
Neither I or spouse ever told anyone about our out-of-town parents dying...and others have not told us about their own (only learning about some these things years after they happened). None of us are big social media people and would ever post something like this on social media.
All this to say...unless we proactively told someone about a parent dying, absolutely nobody would know.
I'm right there with you. Our parents die because they're old and it's normal. I don't need flowers nor food nor messages. It's a private matter to me.