Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

I'd think she's trying to overcompensate for losing her job and SHE'S jealous of YOU and not the other way around.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear all of these things at once, but some of what you described are classic, timeless pieces - the van cleef earrings, a cartier bracelet. I don't wear a ton of jewelry but I love timeless classics like a cartier tank watch, van cleef earrings, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry you are jealous, OP. Maybe if your husband worked harder, you too could afford "designer" jewlery and clothing.

Using quotes because nothing off the counters at Cartier and Tiffany is considered "designer" to me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry you are jealous, OP. Maybe if your husband worked harder, you too could afford "designer" jewlery and clothing.

Using quotes because nothing off the counters at Cartier and Tiffany is considered "designer" to me.

What?

Don't you mean "Maybe if YOU worked harder..."?

Anonymous wrote:My cousins dress like this. They're super rich and also it's just the style of where they are from (NJ growing up, Long Island now).

What do I think? I think they have more money than I do - and different taste.

Anonymous wrote:Actually, I totally get it.

OP has been very resentful of her cousin, with all her nouveau riche ways, dripping Cartiers and Guccis all over the place.

So OP was LOOKING FORWARD to seeing a more contrite, modest, version of said cousin this year at Thanksgiving.

But no! OP has been denied the pleasure. The cousin, like any of us would do, walks in dressed the same! Because she had that stuff all along anyway, and why would she dress down just because she's lost her job?

So OP is SEETHING right now. She wanted to see come-uppance and didn't get it! Ugh, it's so infuriating when you can't gloat at your cousin's misery!

Anonymous wrote:

So when you lose your job, OP, we will of course expect you to dress in burlap and self-flagellate as you walk, while wailing and gnashing your teeth. Never be seen with any nice things you may own!!!

Because apparently you want others to behave that way.

Never mind that this woman probably had these items before losing her job, and wants to dress nicely while visiting, like she always does. Never mind that losing a job may not equate to financial difficulties, *for them*.

But no. You jump to the conclusion that she wants to make you feel bad.

What the heck????

You're so incredibly self-centered. Narcissistic, really.

Anonymous wrote:I only judge those wearing Golden Goose sneakers.

Anonymous wrote:Woah, there are some extremely nasty responses here- lay off of OP a bit, will you?

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry you are jealous, OP. Maybe if your husband worked harder, you too could afford "designer" jewlery and clothing.

Using quotes because nothing off the counters at Cartier and Tiffany is considered "designer" to me.