So many married moms have delusional romantic visions of what it's like to be a single mom. Misplaced envy.

For all you married moms who need a break - take one, don't be a martyr. Pay for a babysitter for one. But don't crap on single moms who likely face challenges you have no idea about.

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Anonymous wrote:When the father has minimal custody (like over the summer or a few times per year or less) and doesn't really help financially. Otherwise you are a coparent. Hell, "single parenting" 50% of the time sounds like a freakin' vacation compared to my life. I fantasize about it often.

You have a full other human in your house and you think she has it easier?

Let me guess “mental load”?

Too controlling?
Go to the gym girl and work that out the kids will be fine alone with dad.

Queue the bemoaning … but they won’t get veggies with dinner trooe.

Yeah actually having 3-4 days completely off from parenting would be much easier than being the primary parent all the time.

Some people like their kids.

Nobody said they didn't like their kids. It would simply be EASIER. I love my kids. a LOT! But if you think lugging a diaper bag and two children under 5 to the grocery store is easier than going by myself you are wrong.

I think it would be harder to be separated from my kids. But I guess some errands would be easier, yay?

Mom with 80/20 custody here. Being away from your kids regularly, especially for holidays, birthdays, etc. is by far worse than having to drag both kids to the grocery store FFS. PP sounds like an ungrateful a$$hole.

I don’t really understand this. DH and I both work in healthcare and have spent alternate Christmases away from our kids. IMO, I would much rather be the parent at work than the parent at home solo making a nice holiday for everyone or going to the trampoline park with twelve 6 year olds.
Is it that your ex isn’t making a good holiday/birthday for your kids and you are sad for them? Or that this isn’t the way you had imagined spending the holiday?
I’m sure it’s just jealousy, but of I knew my kids were well taken care of and no one would miss me, I would love to have a holiday off and just hang out and drink wine, eat Chinese food, and watch Hallmark movies with my mom and sister.

Anonymous wrote:There’s a social media guy who goes by solodad but really he’s married but works opposite shifts with his wife. His videos are all about managing three kids alone and I find it really disingenuous.

I can’t stand that guy. Total phony.

She may only have her kids half the time but she solo when she has them. Single moms look different just like moms with partners look different.

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who often talks about how hard it is to be a single mom, her Instagram and Facebook posts talk about the work involved in raising a child on her own.
However, she has her child no more than three or four days a week, she has 50-50 custody with her ex who is very involved in the child’s life and often has him four or five days a week due to sports logistics etc.
She is single, she is a mom, but she has more free time in a week then I get in two months.

Just a rant.

Everyone has their hard. Never good to compare. Plus who cares? Maybe for this type of rant you type it up and then delete so you can get it out of your system.

She's a mother who doesn't have a partner. She's a single mom.

She doesn't have someone to share in the duties when she has a kid. She doesn't have a partner to share the joys and hardships with.

There’s a social media guy who goes by solodad but really he’s married but works opposite shifts with his wife. His videos are all about managing three kids alone and I find it really disingenuous.

She is single mother on days when she has the kid. You also feel like a single mother if you are married but are responsible for the bulk of child care.

A woman who is divorced and her ex is pretty much absent, or is raising kids fully on her own with no current or ex husband or partner, probably looks at both of you thinks you’re just spoiled.

Anonymous wrote:Im a single mom, have 2 kids and 1 ManChild.

Those chicks in the dog thread would add their dog to the kid dependent list.

Anonymous wrote:Is unwed mother not used anymore

What about unwed father?

She's a single mom. When she has her kids, half time or whatever, she's on her own with them.

I had 50/50 custody and called myself a single mom.

Yea, sure, I had more free time. But I had way way WAY less money. I had been a SAHM and had to suddenly find low paying work with zero job skills and live in a tiny one bedroom apartment with my kids.

Not married? Then you’re single. It’s not determined by hardship. Hell I know a woman who was married to an absolute monster of a man. He committed suicide and her life got exponentially better, even though she was a single mom with kids full time.

Wow. Single mom = mom who is not married or partnered.

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Anonymous wrote:Single by choice is the terminology for no father involved.

No, single by choice is the terminology for a woman who makes a choice to become a single parent. I'm a single parent. My kids' father is incarcerated for domestic violence against me and my children. That's not "by choice".

Plus single mom by choice uses donor sperm.

It’s not a failed romantic relationship where the dude leaves you pregnant or later, and you suddenly say that’s your choice.

What about it when people say they’re widowed, yet actually are divorced and the. The Ex died.

Seems misleading and shady to play the poor-me widowed card. Your marriage failed and you divorced.