Anonymous wrote:The #1 issue for most married women over 40 is the lack of sex.

That's hard to believe. Not household issues, finances, in-laws/child issues?

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I had an ex like this. I think it was a combination of porn addiction, circumcision, and his member was way too big for him to be vigorous with me.

Similar experience here. I had a ex who could barely even get it up, let alone O.

I checked his laptop one day and found he was literally watching porn all day long. He’d also constantly talk about how hot certain celebrities were (most of which were extremely young).

A lot of men just prefer having sex with themselves.

I make her O all the time, and I can tell she likes it a lot. Still our frequency is low for me (2-3 week). I wish it happened every day.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

How did you manage that?

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PP here. I never faked it with him. Never. I was 31 by the time we met and he made me feel so desirable and hot that I never had to. Seems like a lifetime ago.

PP, what happened? Was the change gradual or abrupt? If you two had good chemistry to begin with, you should be able to get it back.

Apps make it possible for people to cheat daily. A lifestyle partner just doesn't measure up in the same way. If you have a spouse woman or man who gives themselves allowance to cheat you will find they will find fault with you for practically anything because they want to justify their actions while also getting whatever you are still pouring into the relationship and make you feel guilty for not doing more. That is what is happening in a lot of relationships. It is the person cheating that is driving the relationship interactions and these days it's just very easy to cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

I have asked my wife many times what would really make her “happy” and she never gives an answer other than a non answer. She doesn’t like oral and mostly doesn’t like being touched down there. Massage and rubbing are effective and thankfully so is PIV. I don’t complain because we have sex at least weekly which after 36 years is pretty good and she often initiates. She is very quiet so I rarely know if she has had an O.

TBH this sounds very…assault-y.

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.

Fascinating how consent has now shifted from affirmative to now it has to be “hell yes” otherwise it’s rape.

Honestly you people are bizarre and you’ve hijacked an entire segment of public dialogue with your drivel.

DP. Your response is weird - do you have kids, particularly teens? You should advise them that both parties should be a totally enthusiastic “yes.”

DP. This is not a weird response. He said his wife doesn't outwardly appear to enjoy sex that much, he has repeated asked her what would make it better, no response. Weirdo poster's take: this feels assault-y.

What would make it not assault-y? She is still consenting to have sex with him. It's sad, but it's not assault-y.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

Well the toys thing wasn’t brought up until over a decade in so how could I know. And he always made me get there before (more so than other partners I’ve had), but seems to only be interested in that once in a blue moon now. Our frequency has dropped off a cliff because we now have zero emotional intimacy, the man doesn’t seem interested in me as a person anymore and isn’t initiating. We are both unable to have the conversations we need to have to fix things. Hopefully this will change sooner rather than later.

Change doesn’t magically happen- go to therapy! Force the issue- you’ll be better off in the end.

Yep. This is probably the solution. Now, to find a provider and the time…

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

It is actually pretty common. Women fake Os during courtship and when they are finally older/more comfortable in their sexuality and wants to use a toy to actually climax for a change, many men feel emasculated and threatened.

I don’t think it’s because women fake it. I think it’s because we’re told women don’t want sex as much, women are more emotional, women don’t O as much, sex is more about connection than pleasure, etc. So when you only O 5-10% of the time with a man, you assume that’s normal.

PP here. I never faked it with him. Never. I was 31 by the time we met and he made me feel so desirable and hot that I never had to. Seems like a lifetime ago.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

Well the toys thing wasn’t brought up until over a decade in so how could I know. And he always made me get there before (more so than other partners I’ve had), but seems to only be interested in that once in a blue moon now. Our frequency has dropped off a cliff because we now have zero emotional intimacy, the man doesn’t seem interested in me as a person anymore and isn’t initiating. We are both unable to have the conversations we need to have to fix things. Hopefully this will change sooner rather than later.

Change doesn’t magically happen- go to therapy! Force the issue- you’ll be better off in the end.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

That's because men will take their orgasm but women will lie around waiting for someone to give them an orgasm. Take control of your sexual needs and get what you want. This is a big part of the problem. Stop blaming him and you get yours

You obviously don’t have a partner who is threatened by toys and/or not enthusiastic enough about their partner’s orgasm to pretend it’s sexy if they do it themselves.

How did you end up marrying a guy like that?

Well the toys thing wasn’t brought up until over a decade in so how could I know. And he always made me get there before (more so than other partners I’ve had), but seems to only be interested in that once in a blue moon now. Our frequency has dropped off a cliff because we now have zero emotional intimacy, the man doesn’t seem interested in me as a person anymore and isn’t initiating. We are both unable to have the conversations we need to have to fix things. Hopefully this will change sooner rather than later.

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I had an ex like this. I think it was a combination of porn addiction, circumcision, and his member was way too big for him to be vigorous with me.

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Anonymous wrote:If a man gets rejected by his wife for years and, eventually, makes his peace with it; it's going to take some significant work to rewire his brain to go back to seeing his wife in a sexually positive way.

It's not retaliation. He's learned to protect himself and avoid the misery of rejection and unreciprocated desire.

Guy here. I’d agree that its not retaliation. Maybe its built up resentment that doesn’t allow you to see them in a sexual way anymore? Over the years you just learn to turn off that part of yourself when it comes to your wife because you know there’s no chance.

I think this is the case with my DH.
I went through a number of years dealing with depression and just had zero desire for sex.
Now, it seems like we have reversed roles.

Hopefully you’re giving him the treatment you wanted from him when it was reversed, instead of expecting him to "fake it"

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Anonymous wrote:The average man seriously underestimate how much it takes to give a woman a satisfying sexual experience. Most of the time they are just lying to you or being nice on order not to hurt your feeling when they told you that they came or the sex was amazing. Just thrusting back and forth won't cut it. You need foreplay l, resonance, oral, PIV in the right spot etc.

I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.

I found this to be very interesting..when a man doesn't have the standard "reaction" following sex with a woman the woman says maybe he is gay. It is as if with women no matter what men may always react positively to a sexual experience with them.

When a woman doesn't orgasm I don't think men wonder whether they are gay...

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I would love to hear a group of women talking about their sexual experiences. Lol I think a lot of us would be very humble when we here what they really think of our sexual prowess.

Everyone loves great sex and everyone is disappointed by bad sex. In the middle, men are still quite happy with mediocre sex and while women aren't.

Actually men invariably orgasm. It’s never really bad for them but often quite bad for women.

My ex never orgasmed. I believe he was actually gay. Newly divorced thank God.