Anonymous wrote:My father passed recently and my mother died when I was young.

Their complaining strikes me as selfish and tone deaf

Sorry but you sound tone deaf. Get a grip, OP.

Anonymous wrote:My father passed recently and my mother died when I was young.

Their complaining strikes me as selfish and tone deaf

Well, I think you are tone deaf too. You don't havw the right to tell people how they feel

OP, please get help for your grief. You have every right to feel a loss, but the level of judgment you have for something you cannot fathom is concerning and could impact your friendships. Also, consider volunteering to give respite with the most challenging elderly.

Anonymous wrote:My father passed recently and my mother died when I was young.

Their complaining strikes me as selfish and tone deaf

And I get pissed wh eh b people complain about their kids because if my own losses. But there is no winning

I’m sorry for your loss and hope your parents were not hoarders who left you with a nasty crawl space to clean out. Full of mouse droppings, I might add.