Anonymous wrote:Do people know anyone personally with these features?

Anonymous wrote:Real nice - every facial feature of middle aged middle class women who can't afford to prioritize being thin, reducing inflammation, or getting cosmetic surgery - all alcoholics!

Anonymous wrote:Back in oct I started a new skincare routine and have been getting so many compliments about it. At a NYE party, two women literally sat me down and asked for the details. One of the women said "and PLEASE tell me you didnt just stop drinking or something, everyone always says that but I just wont do it" and I said "Nope, not even close, maybe even drinking more eek".

I am likely at LEAST a borderline alcoholic. But you can still be an alcoholic and have people stop you in your tracks to ask about your beauty routine. Soo I don't think it's actually that easy to tell who is and who isn't.

People who don't take care of themselves will always look worse, drink or no drink.

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Anonymous wrote:Bulbous nose, often horrifically porous.

That's a myth

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an alcoholic and it is clear why no one knew. Most posters seem to have a vaudeville idea of what an alcoholic looks like.

People knew. I can tell if my alcoholic mother speaks one single word to me. The tone of her voice immediately gives it away. This thread asked for physical signs so people shared this. I hate an alcoholic who thinks they had everyone fooled. You didn’t.

Sorry for your trauma but this is BS. People definitely didn’t know the extent of my drinking and this thread shows why. The responses are cartoonish.

I bet your mother is drinking much more than you know. Alcoholics are experts at hidden drinking. By the time they lose control of hiding it, they are many drinks in.

No, alcoholics THINK they are experts at hiding their addiction. This thread asked for physical/facial signs, and is somewhat limited in its replies as a result.

But no, sweetie, you're not hiding anything. You reek, you sound drunk, your constant need to bail at the last minute or just no-call, no-show is a tell, your instarage at the slightest slight... your disease is literally oozing out of your pores, on your breath, and behind your eyes.

Alcoholics aren't fooling anyone but themselves.

Someone here is full of rage, and it isn’t me.

Besides, I’m sober. I will always be an alcoholic, but I don’t drink.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an alcoholic and it is clear why no one knew. Most posters seem to have a vaudeville idea of what an alcoholic looks like.

People knew. I can tell if my alcoholic mother speaks one single word to me. The tone of her voice immediately gives it away. This thread asked for physical signs so people shared this. I hate an alcoholic who thinks they had everyone fooled. You didn’t.

Sorry for your trauma but this is BS. People definitely didn’t know the extent of my drinking and this thread shows why. The responses are cartoonish.

I bet your mother is drinking much more than you know. Alcoholics are experts at hidden drinking. By the time they lose control of hiding it, they are many drinks in.

No, alcoholics THINK they are experts at hiding their addiction. This thread asked for physical/facial signs, and is somewhat limited in its replies as a result.

But no, sweetie, you're not hiding anything. You reek, you sound drunk, your constant need to bail at the last minute or just no-call, no-show is a tell, your instarage at the slightest slight... your disease is literally oozing out of your pores, on your breath, and behind your eyes.

Alcoholics aren't fooling anyone but themselves.

Someone here is full of rage, and it isn’t me.

Besides, I’m sober. I will always be an alcoholic, but I don’t drink.

To the contrary, I am full of compassion for the fellow addict. I just don't bullshit myself/others about how I was "expert" at hiding my drinking. I went to great lengths to hide the extent of my drinking, because when people who cared about me found out, they were rightfully concerned for my health. But by the time I had a problem with alcohol, it wasn't stealthy at all.

If you're all-day drinking, anyone with a nose knows. People who depend on your labor aren't necessarily going to call you out on it, provided you're faking functionality enough that they think you might pull it off (so they don't have to do your job(s) for you). These people often show up on your amends list, if you've worked your steps thoroughly.

While our disease is cunning, baffling and powerful, we addicts are very much not. It's just the addict ego that things we're smarter than the booze.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an alcoholic and it is clear why no one knew. Most posters seem to have a vaudeville idea of what an alcoholic looks like.

People knew. I can tell if my alcoholic mother speaks one single word to me. The tone of her voice immediately gives it away. This thread asked for physical signs so people shared this. I hate an alcoholic who thinks they had everyone fooled. You didn’t.

Sorry for your trauma but this is BS. People definitely didn’t know the extent of my drinking and this thread shows why. The responses are cartoonish.

I bet your mother is drinking much more than you know. Alcoholics are experts at hidden drinking. By the time they lose control of hiding it, they are many drinks in.

No, alcoholics THINK they are experts at hiding their addiction. This thread asked for physical/facial signs, and is somewhat limited in its replies as a result.

But no, sweetie, you're not hiding anything. You reek, you sound drunk, your constant need to bail at the last minute or just no-call, no-show is a tell, your instarage at the slightest slight... your disease is literally oozing out of your pores, on your breath, and behind your eyes.

Alcoholics aren't fooling anyone but themselves.

Someone here is full of rage, and it isn’t me.

Besides, I’m sober. I will always be an alcoholic, but I don’t drink.

To the contrary, I am full of compassion for the fellow addict. I just don't bullshit myself/others about how I was "expert" at hiding my drinking. I went to great lengths to hide the extent of my drinking, because when people who cared about me found out, they were rightfully concerned for my health. But by the time I had a problem with alcohol, it wasn't stealthy at all.

If you're all-day drinking, anyone with a nose knows. People who depend on your labor aren't necessarily going to call you out on it, provided you're faking functionality enough that they think you might pull it off (so they don't have to do your job(s) for you). These people often show up on your amends list, if you've worked your steps thoroughly.

While our disease is cunning, baffling and powerful, we addicts are very much not. It's just the addict ego that things we're smarter than the booze.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an alcoholic and it is clear why no one knew. Most posters seem to have a vaudeville idea of what an alcoholic looks like.

People knew. I can tell if my alcoholic mother speaks one single word to me. The tone of her voice immediately gives it away. This thread asked for physical signs so people shared this. I hate an alcoholic who thinks they had everyone fooled. You didn’t.

Sorry for your trauma but this is BS. People definitely didn’t know the extent of my drinking and this thread shows why. The responses are cartoonish.

I bet your mother is drinking much more than you know. Alcoholics are experts at hidden drinking. By the time they lose control of hiding it, they are many drinks in.

No, alcoholics THINK they are experts at hiding their addiction. This thread asked for physical/facial signs, and is somewhat limited in its replies as a result.

But no, sweetie, you're not hiding anything. You reek, you sound drunk, your constant need to bail at the last minute or just no-call, no-show is a tell, your instarage at the slightest slight... your disease is literally oozing out of your pores, on your breath, and behind your eyes.

Alcoholics aren't fooling anyone but themselves.

Someone here is full of rage, and it isn’t me.

Besides, I’m sober. I will always be an alcoholic, but I don’t drink.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an alcoholic and it is clear why no one knew. Most posters seem to have a vaudeville idea of what an alcoholic looks like.

People knew. I can tell if my alcoholic mother speaks one single word to me. The tone of her voice immediately gives it away. This thread asked for physical signs so people shared this. I hate an alcoholic who thinks they had everyone fooled. You didn’t.

Sorry for your trauma but this is BS. People definitely didn’t know the extent of my drinking and this thread shows why. The responses are cartoonish.

I bet your mother is drinking much more than you know. Alcoholics are experts at hidden drinking. By the time they lose control of hiding it, they are many drinks in.

Are you dumb? I am aware she drinks a ton, she’s an alcoholic, like I said. I’m not confused about that. Typical alcoholic behavior, thinking you’re smarter than everyone - ooooh nobody knows I drink, I’m the one person in the world who can hide alcohol abuse; oooh let me tell you about your own experience with your mom's drinking. You guys are not half as clever as you think are in your own delusional minds.

Your experience with your mother does not mean that you can speak with knowledge about alcoholics in general. Many alcoholics are extremely high-functioning, successful people.

My alcoholism has never impacted my career negatively, and in my support groups I can point out many others who continued at the top of their game into and through getting sober. I am a top expert in my field, and remained so during and after the decade I abused alcohol.

I'm sorry your mother is an alcoholic, but that doesn't make you an expert on alcoholism in its many forms. And there are MANY. There's a huge range, as anyone who has spent time in the recovery world knows.