Anonymous wrote:Don’t have a shower, OP. It’s a gift grab at its core. Wait until baby is born and do a party with a book theme, if you must.

+1

Tacky.

They should not come out of pocket to celebrate your baby.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s fine bc it’s supposed to be a time to get together with the people you care about to celebrate the milestone of having a baby.

You could do a theme like “build the library” and say something like “Larlo and Larla have all the baby basics covered, but they’d like your help to build Larletto’s library, so bring your favorite children’s book or book recommendations.”

+1 take the focus of gifts

That's the most boring part of a shower anyway

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to dissent and say that I think it's a little tacky when high earning moms-to-be have a shower. Especially if she's 35+.

OP here. I’m 33 and that’s for you opinion. Stop bashing women and learn to be happy with your sad life and husband.

Get over your pregnant self! We dislike pushy, greedy, gift grabs. Why don't you do something altruistic and ask for major items to be donated to a pregnant woman who is only making $$/hr? You would never do this because you are narcissistic gift hoarder and want the $99.99 gifts.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are going to have the baby shower but stick to lower priced items under $100. We will be buying all the expensive items we want.

I don’t know why it’s tacky for my MIL to throw us a baby shower? I thought it was customary for a family member such as a parent throw you a baby shower. It’s funny because like a year ago there was a thread where people were telling OP not to throw her own baby shower because a family member should be the one to throw it. Sometimes I feel like there are just combative people on here to start drama to distract from their sad miserable lives.

$100 is considered a lower priced gift by OP! Very out of touch, OP. You are also out of touch with longstanding etiquette rules.

OP here. Who the F gives a damn about the rules? Baby showers used to never be coed and now they are. Anyone can throw a baby shower, not just a friend. I don’t care about following etiquette rules that were made a century ago driven by the patriarchy. It’s 2024.

Anonymous wrote:Lolz at 100 dollar gifts

OP here. We will be offering a variety. Some of our friends make as much as us. We have have parents who may want to buy a larger gift, etc. Most of the gifts will be clothes, books, and little items like burp clothes, baby blanket, pacifiers., etc.

Anonymous wrote:A family hosted shower is like throwing one for yourself. Ask yourself if you think THAT would be tacky.
PS - It is really tacky

To you.

My mom cohosted my sisters shower with her best friend. Gasp it was a potluck too! And we had margaritas in addition to mimosas. Also co-Ed.

Have everyone bring a packet of seeds to “grow your family garden”. Keep what you like and donate the rest to a local group or school garden(s)

You sound like a money grubbing ho OP

Anonymous wrote:A family hosted shower is like throwing one for yourself. Ask yourself if you think THAT would be tacky.
PS - It is really tacky

It’s really not. People will come to your birthday, holiday, housewarming, graduation, wedding, or whatever party. Why is it some bizarre rule that a shower must be hosted by someone not related to you? But I think it’s ridiculous that someone who can afford all the baby gadgets wants a shower to force poorer relations to buy things. And if not normal baby things, a book shower sounds incredibly boring and stupid. Just have a sip and see after the baby is born. I’m not going to some shower with a book on an otherwise precious weekend for a wealthy relation who doesn’t need baby things.

Lolz at 100 dollar gifts

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are going to have the baby shower but stick to lower priced items under $100. We will be buying all the expensive items we want.

I don’t know why it’s tacky for my MIL to throw us a baby shower? I thought it was customary for a family member such as a parent throw you a baby shower. It’s funny because like a year ago there was a thread where people were telling OP not to throw her own baby shower because a family member should be the one to throw it. Sometimes I feel like there are just combative people on here to start drama to distract from their sad miserable lives.

$100 is considered a lower priced gift by OP! Very out of touch, OP. You are also out of touch with longstanding etiquette rules.

A family hosted shower is like throwing one for yourself. Ask yourself if you think THAT would be tacky.
PS - It is really tacky

I’m trying to think of a way to write this more nicely, but it is tacky to think of the warmth and love of people close to you who want to celebrate this wonderful moment in your life….in dollar value terms. I think it would be so hurtful to anyone who wants to celebrate you and your baby, to be excluded bc you worry that they are simply too poor for you (they will pick up on this).
Also consider that they may want to share baby products with you that they found to be helpful. You’re thinking of any presents in monetary terms, but you also value their experience and advice, right? There are TONS of great, honestly helpful baby items for $25 and less.
Agree that the book shower others have suggested is a good theme and inexpensive.

Anonymous wrote:We had a books shower when it was just too many showers (even for our first), but people brought baby clothes too because they love to buy clothes.

This. Ppl love to buy baby clothes, especially for girls. You have no idea how many outfits you will have to put your kid in and take a courtesy photo for.