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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

There’s nothing special happening in these marriages that doesn’t happen in millions of other marriages. The only difference is the way the people handle things and the personality disordered people on here are obviously not managing well if they’re yelling at their spouses. They have no one to blame but themselves. Own your behavior instead of attacking others.

Why don’t the henpecked men leave? Who is forcing them to stay and be abused? They don’t really want a partnership or to pull their weight. So, go?

Sure they can go but maybe there’s financial, emotional barriers, who knows? Anyway, you’re deflecting. We’re talking about the problematic yelling not why the guy isn’t leaving. Learn to stay on topic.

The yelling is a symptom of the disease. He’s made his bed and he can lie in it, big boy that he is. Or he probably knows life will only get worse without someone doing the heavy lifting for him.

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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

There’s nothing special happening in these marriages that doesn’t happen in millions of other marriages. The only difference is the way the people handle things and the personality disordered people on here are obviously not managing well if they’re yelling at their spouses. They have no one to blame but themselves. Own your behavior instead of attacking others.

Why don’t the henpecked men leave? Who is forcing them to stay and be abused? They don’t really want a partnership or to pull their weight. So, go?

Sure they can go but maybe there’s financial, emotional barriers, who knows? Anyway, you’re deflecting. We’re talking about the problematic yelling not why the guy isn’t leaving. Learn to stay on topic.

why are men such victims? isn’t that the topic?

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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

There’s nothing special happening in these marriages that doesn’t happen in millions of other marriages. The only difference is the way the people handle things and the personality disordered people on here are obviously not managing well if they’re yelling at their spouses. They have no one to blame but themselves. Own your behavior instead of attacking others.

Ok you’re right. Whenever a woman yells or gets mad or “nags,” that absolves the man of all responsibility.

(Actually this is exactly what my exDH believed: that unless/until I was “nicer” he didn’t need to do anything at home. He didn’t deny what he was doing but literally told me it was my fault. Mind you I wasn’t a yeller but he certainly believed me being “nicer” was the whole issue. He tanked our relationship that way. And of course for himself, he had zero issues with escalating physically and never apologizing.)

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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

There’s nothing special happening in these marriages that doesn’t happen in millions of other marriages. The only difference is the way the people handle things and the personality disordered people on here are obviously not managing well if they’re yelling at their spouses. They have no one to blame but themselves. Own your behavior instead of attacking others.

Why don’t the henpecked men leave? Who is forcing them to stay and be abused? They don’t really want a partnership or to pull their weight. So, go?

Sure they can go but maybe there’s financial, emotional barriers, who knows? Anyway, you’re deflecting. We’re talking about the problematic yelling not why the guy isn’t leaving. Learn to stay on topic.

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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

You don’t think someone attacking you deserves to be yelled at? Obviously yelling all the time is a bad pattern. But people yell and sometimes it’s because it’s the only tool they have.

Who is attacking you? Do you think the fool dragging her 3 small kids to the grocery story and screaming at her DH was being attacked? Enough with the victim mentality.

It certainly threatens you when women hold men accountable I guess.

I can agree that yelling isn’t healthy and it would be better to find a different way. But the natural consequence of being a selfish dumb*ss in a joint endeavor that requires a lot of work is that your partner gets ANGRY.

Yelling at someone is not holding someone accountable, it’s abuse. Do you seriously think yelling is productive? How sick

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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

There’s nothing special happening in these marriages that doesn’t happen in millions of other marriages. The only difference is the way the people handle things and the personality disordered people on here are obviously not managing well if they’re yelling at their spouses. They have no one to blame but themselves. Own your behavior instead of attacking others.

Why don’t the henpecked men leave? Who is forcing them to stay and be abused? They don’t really want a partnership or to pull their weight. So, go?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

There’s nothing special happening in these marriages that doesn’t happen in millions of other marriages. The only difference is the way the people handle things and the personality disordered people on here are obviously not managing well if they’re yelling at their spouses. They have no one to blame but themselves. Own your behavior instead of attacking others.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

You don’t think someone attacking you deserves to be yelled at? Obviously yelling all the time is a bad pattern. But people yell and sometimes it’s because it’s the only tool they have.

Who is attacking you? Do you think the fool dragging her 3 small kids to the grocery story and screaming at her DH was being attacked? Enough with the victim mentality.

It certainly threatens you when women hold men accountable I guess.

I can agree that yelling isn’t healthy and it would be better to find a different way. But the natural consequence of being a selfish dumb*ss in a joint endeavor that requires a lot of work is that your partner gets ANGRY.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

You don’t think someone attacking you deserves to be yelled at? Obviously yelling all the time is a bad pattern. But people yell and sometimes it’s because it’s the only tool they have.

Who is attacking you? Do you think the fool dragging her 3 small kids to the grocery story and screaming at her DH was being attacked? Enough with the victim mentality.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

for someone who presumably believes himself to be smart, you have zero ability to learn about what actually happens in some types of marriages. so I guess your purpose for being here is to tell everyone how superior you are. that’s great, you seem like a great guy!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

Hi, incel!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

I like smart women who own their decisions, not the whiners on here who blame their DH for everything, including their own bad behavior. If I saw a DH on here whining I’d blame him too, so no need for your victim mentality.

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Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

So why all the pity for the man who got himself into this situation? Just say you don’t like women.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.

You don’t think someone attacking you deserves to be yelled at? Obviously yelling all the time is a bad pattern. But people yell and sometimes it’s because it’s the only tool they have.

Anonymous wrote:the person can deserve to be yelled at AND the yelling can be dysfunctional, both at the same time.

No one deserves to be yelled at. The abusive a holes on this thread need to calmly use their words or think of an alternate solution. I don’t feel one bit sorry for women who choose to overlook all sorts of red flags when dating, marry anyway, and have kids with a useless DH.