Anonymous wrote:This isn't "failure to launch" -- this is giving them a leg up to be able to save money so they have a little nest egg when they do move out on their own.

I've got 2024 college grads at home - both working and earning/saving money. They pay most of their own bills but are for the most part saving and paying down small college loans. This isn't failure to launch. Failure to launch is not having any job 6-12 months after college and living at home way past your mid to late 20s.

I'm sure there are quite a few 2024 college grads living at home doing the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

IT's shocking but true. My oldest found that out when attending college---the number of kids who had no clue about laundry. Whereas mine had been doing their own laundry since age 10---when they complained they "had no clean clothing to wear" because their favorite sweatpants had been worn just 1 day before. So I took it upon myself to teach them how to do laundry and they did it 95% of the time after that. They also learned you wash sheets weekly (or at least every 2 weeks) and change towels every 4-5 days. Don't understand why people don't teach their kids this

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Anonymous wrote:My 2024 VA Tech grad is living at home in order to save as much money as he can before moving out three years from now. He makes 120K and saves about 95% of his income, after 401K & taxes. He is on my family healthcare plan, so he is also saving money there. His gf is also doing the same thing, so then they will have about 350K in cash when they move out and get married.

Does he do his own cooking, cleaning, tidying or does he expect a meal on the table like when he was little? Honestly as a VERY burnt out mom of teenagers that is the one thing that makes me dread this. The minute they are in college I will stop cooking meals. I'm not going back to servitude for years to come.

I have no sympathy for people who wear their crown of thorns so openly. My teen is capable of cooking a few types of food (at least) for themselves. If she can, so can yours. So can adult children living at home.

Cooking a meal here and there is nothing at all like being the default adult for meals.

A college grad living at home should be contributing towards the family cooking responsibilities.
I'd have them cooking at least 2x/week. THey'd be cooking if they were living on their own. So why not?

Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

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Anonymous wrote:My 2024 VA Tech grad is living at home in order to save as much money as he can before moving out three years from now. He makes 120K and saves about 95% of his income, after 401K & taxes. He is on my family healthcare plan, so he is also saving money there. His gf is also doing the same thing, so then they will have about 350K in cash when they move out and get married.

Does he do his own cooking, cleaning, tidying or does he expect a meal on the table like when he was little? Honestly as a VERY burnt out mom of teenagers that is the one thing that makes me dread this. The minute they are in college I will stop cooking meals. I'm not going back to servitude for years to come.

I have no sympathy for people who wear their crown of thorns so openly. My teen is capable of cooking a few types of food (at least) for themselves. If she can, so can yours. So can adult children living at home.

Cooking a meal here and there is nothing at all like being the default adult for meals.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of AC nowadays have not been taught domestic skills in entirety. .

Yes, they can sometimes cook. But, they cannot budget for food, cannot clean up after cooking or eating, don't know how to create a healthy menu with seasonal and local ingredients and certainly don't know how to host.

Similarly, they know how to throw their clothes in the washing machine and dryer. But, they do not know how to sort their clothes before laundering, how to iron/fold them, how to put it away in the dresser or closet, how to create a regular laundry regimen, how often to wash their bed linen, pillows, comforters, parkas, etc etc.