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Anonymous wrote:Thin people do not necessarily experience hunger to stay thin. It's just how their bodies work. Plenty of people can eat whatever they want whenever they want and stay thin. One of my kids is like this. I was like that until about 5 years post menopause. Now I have to pay attention, but I certainly don't have to feel hungry all the time.

On the flip side, some people can look at a cookie and gain five pounds just thinking about eating it. One of my kids is like this and so are some relatives, so he got those genes.

That is so not true. Your kid is probably eating it when you aren't looking!

Trust me. No.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 yo, 5'7" and 125 lbs. I am usually not hungry but I know the food to eat that fills me up for lower calories and I lift heavy weights. I eat "healthy" most of the time and still have calories left to have treats.

Your 7lbs from underweight … lol

exactly! my 16 year old DD who is a very serious athlete and very thin is 5'8" and 129 lbs. the women responding to this are insanely thin

People is eating disorders love this forum.

That’s pretty unfair. I’m 5’8” with a small build and 128 healthy and slim. Mid fifties. I love to eat and I eat well. I hate being hungry. I do yoga, lift weights, and walk. I eat as much as my 6’2” husband who is also slim but he drinks alcohol and I don’t.

If it doesn't apply to you, don't take offense. It's not all about you. Jeez.

But the correlation between eating disorder and it all being about you makes you wonder

This isn't complicated. If you have a spouse/partner, a family of any kind, any one who depends on you, etc., it's your duty to be fit and in the best health you can be. Otherwise, it's just pure selfishness. And if you are trying to lose weight and are in a caloric deficit, it's very common to be hungry a few times a day and even go to be a little hungry. However, while maintaining your weight, you don't need to be in a deficit, which means you can eat a little more, thus, you will not be as hungry as when losing...but you still may be a little hungry once in a while.

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Anonymous wrote:For a lot of people (especially perimenopausal/menopausal women) it is. It’s because rather than being where their body is most comfortable and they can eat normally - which is probably a size 8-14 - they will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to stay as skinny as they were in college or whatever.

OP. That's a really good point. At 47, I guess this is where I might be. Size 8 feels shameful to me, weirdly. I want my 6s to be comfortable. Accepting that I'm past the size 4 stage where I was in my 20s...at my age, I think too skinny doesn't look good.

OP, I am also 5'7" and 140 pounds. I was told that 145 was my ideal weight, which I generally agree with. I am working on putting the 5 pounds I lost due to illness and intense stress last month back on.

The bolded part is the disordered part. You feel ashamed of wearing larger clothing. You place excessive emphasis on thinness. You judge other women who are not thin. You are a woman, not a bony girl.

To an extent, if you have been eating a lot and you reduce your intake, your body will need some time to adjust and expect less food. This should wear off, though. Your system should re-align. It is not normal to feel hungry all the time unless you are starving yourself.

Less emphasis on thinness. Fewer shame feelings related to body size. Fewer judgments about other women. Just because it's "normal" and "in commercials" does not mean it's healthy. It's not. It's disordered. Please do not transmit these feelings to your children, particularly your daughters if you have them.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 52. I guess not "thin" at 5'4 and 120, but I have a larger frame. I have no trouble maintaining without being hungry.

I eat 3 meals and snacks daily, more food than DH who weighs 110 pounds more. I've always been like this - I remember eating more than my teen brother when I was 8. I eat less junk and exercise more than I did when I was younger, but I'm the same size I was in HS.

Yes, you are thin.

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Anonymous wrote:For a lot of people (especially perimenopausal/menopausal women) it is. It’s because rather than being where their body is most comfortable and they can eat normally - which is probably a size 8-14 - they will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to stay as skinny as they were in college or whatever.

OP. That's a really good point. At 47, I guess this is where I might be. Size 8 feels shameful to me, weirdly. I want my 6s to be comfortable. Accepting that I'm past the size 4 stage where I was in my 20s...at my age, I think too skinny doesn't look good.

You are 47 and still starving yourself to be thin? No one cares or notices what a 47 year old woman looks like. So you are starving yourself to just..see a certain number on your pants when you get dressed in the morning?

No need to look like 2000era Kate moss but resembling oval shape will push women out of highly paid jobs.

My boss is a very unattractive overweight lady who managed to make a very quick career, is highly respected and keeps proceeding up the ranks. So I guess, if you are really smart and personable you can beat the odds..

And you are a 10? I bet your boss is prettier on the inside than you!

Anonymous wrote:Thin people do not necessarily experience hunger to stay thin. It's just how their bodies work. Plenty of people can eat whatever they want whenever they want and stay thin. One of my kids is like this. I was like that until about 5 years post menopause. Now I have to pay attention, but I certainly don't have to feel hungry all the time.

On the flip side, some people can look at a cookie and gain five pounds just thinking about eating it. One of my kids is like this and so are some relatives, so he got those genes.

That is so not true. Your kid is probably eating it when you aren't looking!

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Anonymous wrote:For a lot of people (especially perimenopausal/menopausal women) it is. It’s because rather than being where their body is most comfortable and they can eat normally - which is probably a size 8-14 - they will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to stay as skinny as they were in college or whatever.

OP. That's a really good point. At 47, I guess this is where I might be. Size 8 feels shameful to me, weirdly. I want my 6s to be comfortable. Accepting that I'm past the size 4 stage where I was in my 20s...at my age, I think too skinny doesn't look good.

You are 47 and still starving yourself to be thin? No one cares or notices what a 47 year old woman looks like. So you are starving yourself to just..see a certain number on your pants when you get dressed in the morning?

No need to look like 2000era Kate moss but resembling oval shape will push women out of highly paid jobs.

My boss is a very unattractive overweight lady who managed to make a very quick career, is highly respected and keeps proceeding up the ranks. So I guess, if you are really smart and personable you can beat the odds..

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Anonymous wrote:For a lot of people (especially perimenopausal/menopausal women) it is. It’s because rather than being where their body is most comfortable and they can eat normally - which is probably a size 8-14 - they will do WHATEVER IT TAKES to stay as skinny as they were in college or whatever.

OP. That's a really good point. At 47, I guess this is where I might be. Size 8 feels shameful to me, weirdly. I want my 6s to be comfortable. Accepting that I'm past the size 4 stage where I was in my 20s...at my age, I think too skinny doesn't look good.

You are 47 and still starving yourself to be thin? No one cares or notices what a 47 year old woman looks like. So you are starving yourself to just..see a certain number on your pants when you get dressed in the morning?

No need to look like 2000era Kate moss but resembling oval shape will push women out of highly paid jobs.

Anonymous wrote:Thin people do not necessarily experience hunger to stay thin. It's just how their bodies work. Plenty of people can eat whatever they want whenever they want and stay thin. One of my kids is like this. I was like that until about 5 years post menopause. Now I have to pay attention, but I certainly don't have to feel hungry all the time.

On the flip side, some people can look at a cookie and gain five pounds just thinking about eating it. One of my kids is like this and so are some relatives, so he got those genes.

+1. I was underweight well into my 20s and then at the low end of normal in my 30s. I never felt hunger and exercise and other forms of stress suppressed my hunger even more. Now I am solidly in the normal range and I feel hunger and am early 50s. Some of this strikes me as hormonal.

Anonymous wrote:I always judge fat people as lazy and unattractive, no matter what their age.

Honestly, as someone who was fat and lazy, and who put in the work to lose a ton of weight and get to a healthy weight, same.

Majority of people who are fat aren’t fat because of health reasons, they are fat because they are lazy and don’t want to feel uncomfortable.

I always judge fat people as lazy and unattractive, no matter what their age.

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine caring that much about what people think of me --a middle aged mom-- to be miserable and hungry every day when I could be a comfortable, normal weight.

No one is looking at you. No one cares or even notices if you can squeeze into your pre-covid clothes. You are making yourself miserable for actually no reason at all.

I don't get it.

Are you joking?

No one notices middle aged women in a positive way. Everyone notices them to criticize them! You are getting judged negatively for being fat all the time and don't realize it. Perhaps you don't care a out thay, but I do. I still have a career to think about - and yes it matters for the workplace. Just think of all the negative garbage that Trump spews about middle aged women, particularly fat ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 yo, 5'7" and 125 lbs. I am usually not hungry but I know the food to eat that fills me up for lower calories and I lift heavy weights. I eat "healthy" most of the time and still have calories left to have treats.

Your 7lbs from underweight … lol

exactly! my 16 year old DD who is a very serious athlete and very thin is 5'8" and 129 lbs. the women responding to this are insanely thin

People is eating disorders love this forum.

That’s pretty unfair. I’m 5’8” with a small build and 128 healthy and slim. Mid fifties. I love to eat and I eat well. I hate being hungry. I do yoga, lift weights, and walk. I eat as much as my 6’2” husband who is also slim but he drinks alcohol and I don’t.

If it doesn't apply to you, don't take offense. It's not all about you. Jeez.

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Anonymous wrote:I kind of like that hungry feeling. Once I power past it, it's weirdly energizing.

I often wonder if people just process the feeling if hunger differently. Like if I am focused on work I can power through hunger no problem and actually kind of feel like the hunger helps me focus. But my DH can't do this. The second he feels hungry he can't work until he eats because he's too distracted. But once he eats he can focus. Whereas when I am full I have to do something else -- take a walk, read a book, workout, talk to a colleague -- until the full feeling subsides.

I think people who process hunger like DH are much more likely to be snackers and struggle with overeating.

I think you’re right. I’m currently hungry, but since I’m up at 6am and don’t typically go to bed until 11pm, I know I can’t at yet or I’ll be eating all day. I will eat at 930a, but not promptly, just whenever after 930a I find that I can’t ignore it anymore.

And I don’t do large meals, I do small 100-200 calorie snacks throughout the day. So, for example, I’ll break my fast with a small bowl of overnight oats, then around 11 I’ll have a yogurt, around 1 some sort of protein, etc etc, until dinner.