I miss Weddings
I wish people would still get married
and stay married now everyone is having babies without getting married, and not having kids and not gettimg married at all.

Unless someone is entering into a marriage with large assets, there is little validity of pre-nup in most states. You can of course con a spouse to give away all of their rights but that won't hold in court.

A prenuptial agreement is mainly there to ensure that the assets you acquired before your marriage remain separate from marital assets, not assets acquired during marriage. Wouldn't this be unfair and unacceptable to the other party to sign off their legal rights? Most courts throw away such contracts.

If people are marrying young, they usually build their lives together and aren't coming with assets or children etc to complicate things.By raising an unnecessary prenup argument, you are basically telling them that this person is not trustworthy and this marriage is temporary. You can't use buying life insurance while not wanting to die argument because this is a completely different situation and it often creates a rift even before wedding wows are said.

If you don't trust someone to be fair or wish to be fair to them, don't marry them. Pre-nups are for people already rich or previously divorced with children to protect themselves, not for people starting and building together.

If you have money to leave kids an inheritance, put it in a trust so its not part of negotiations in case of a divorce but don't try to dictate and taint their marriage even before wedding.


Major issue after divorce is custody of kids, child support and alimony which can't be fairly decided in a prenup, any semi decent attorney would tear it apart in front of a court.

I told my DS to have a prenup if he wants to marry someone.

Yes, two of my DS's friends are getting married soon, they are 24 and 23 respectively. College educated and from well to do families.

Anonymous wrote:Most sane people over 40 do not have a dog in this fight.

We've seen it all. Young couples getting divorced, young couples married right out of college still doing great/or divorced, those who waited till 35 still doing great/or divorced, second marriages, no marriage but happy with kids/life/house/soccer teams, straight/bi/gay, some of each.

Literally, there is no recipe or secret to success. Its luck.

For those who got lucky, awesome. But it doesn't make you better than those who didn't.

Most sane people over 40 have enough live experience to notice trends. No, there is no guaranteed recipe, but those who follow the recipe, tend to have more success than those who don’t. Nothing wrong with betting on the better odds.

Most sane people over 40 do not have a dog in this fight.

We've seen it all. Young couples getting divorced, young couples married right out of college still doing great/or divorced, those who waited till 35 still doing great/or divorced, second marriages, no marriage but happy with kids/life/house/soccer teams, straight/bi/gay, some of each.

Literally, there is no recipe or secret to success. Its luck.

For those who got lucky, awesome. But it doesn't make you better than those who didn't.

They want to get married at 22. It’s insane.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Single Mom by Choice and adopted my daughter when I was 42. Proud to say she intends to follow in my footsteps. She is 24 and in grad school now.

Adoption is a great thing for both an orphan/abandoned child and for a single adult or a childless/childfree couple wanting to parent.

My friends have daughters in the 25-ish age range. Most of them seem to be marrying 40ish divorced men with 1-2 children.

Can't imagine wanting to get married. Ever. How boring.

--Single mom of 2-girls, 3 and 11.

I'm a Single Mom by Choice and adopted my daughter when I was 42. Proud to say she intends to follow in my footsteps. She is 24 and in grad school now.

Anonymous wrote:
Married and two kids before 30.. What we wanted and planned...

Most of our friends were educated, employed, stable, married, homeowners and parents before 35.

Anonymous wrote:Surprisingly girls getting engaged or marrying before 25 in my circle are mostly the ones who are emotionally mature for their age and are intelligent knowing what they want in life and career, already earning in six figures at fortune 500's and marrying similar minded young men, making power couples.

+100

Surprisingly girls getting engaged or marrying before 25 in my circle are mostly the ones who are emotionally mature for their age and are intelligent knowing what they want in life and career, already earning in six figures at fortune 500's and marrying similar minded young men, making power couples.

Married and two kids before 30.. What we wanted and planned...