Congrats OP that’s wonderful! Given all the stress it must have been wonderful to see your healthy baby pink and crying right away.

OP here with an update

C-section was on Monday and it went so well. It was a calm day and somewhat relaxing minus the nerves. Everyone was so nice and I had my OB of choice and the whole anesthesia team was great. my nurse was the same nurse who saw me for decreased movement a few months back and she was phenomenal.

The anesthesia was great and I didn't feel anything. No tuggiing. Maybe some pressure right before they held her up like Simba. We got to see her through a clear drape and she wailed after a second. They took her over the warmer and her apgars were 8 and 9. I got to do skin to skin in the OR and keep her with me in the recovery room. The whole thing felt empowering in a weird way. Baby passed all of sugar tests the first 12 hours and that was such a relief.

Recovery has been so different than what I anticipated. I still had a catheter in until the following am so they didn't make me get up to walk to the bathroom until the next day around lunch. That was hard but the nurse was so helpful. Wednesday was hardest but I was also the most active once up it was fine but then in/out of bed or up/down on the toilet was rough. By Thursday I was feeling pressure and sure it hurt to lower myself but other than that felt pretty normal. Got home Friday and been doing my usual around the place. It helps to have a cutie to look at and snuggle. I've even missed two doses of Tylenol/Motrin and been okay waiting until the next dose.

Now that baby is here I don't even think about not getting the vaginal birth experience. I'm just so happy she's here and healthy and that I'm able to be up and about caring for her and experiencing this

Thsnks to everyone who chimed in here. It was truly helpful

OP here with an update

C-section was on kinda and it went so well. It was a calm day and somewhat relaxing minus the nerves. Everyone was so nice and I had my OB of choice and the whole anesthesia team was great. my nurse was the same nurse who saw me for decreased movement a few months back and she was phenomenal.

The anesthesia was great and I didn't feel anything. No tuggiing. Maybe some pressure right before they held her up like Simba. We got to see her through a clear drape and she wailed after a second. They took her over the warmer and her apgars were 8 and 9. I got to do skin to skin in the OR and keep her with me in the recovery room. The whole thing felt empowering in a weird way. Baby passed all of sugar tests the first 12 hours and that was such a relief.

Recovery has been so different than what I anticipated. I still had a catheter in until the following am so they didn't make me get up to walk to the bathroom until the next day around lunch. That was hard but the nurse was so helpful. Wednesday was hardest but I was also the most active once up it was fine but then in/out of bed or up/down on the toilet was rough. By Thursday I was feeling pressure and sure it hurt to lower myself but other than that felt pretty normal. Got home Friday and been doing my usual around the place. It helps to have a cutie to look at and snuggle. I've even missed two doses of Tylenol/Motrin and been okay waiting until the next dose.

Now that baby is here I don't even think about not getting the vaginal birth experience. I'm just so happy she's here and healthy and that I'm able to be up and about caring for her and experiencing this

Thsnks to everyone who chimed in here. It was truly helpful

I'd rather a living child now with a complicated pregnancy and delivery cautions than the what if of a second child in the future

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Anonymous wrote:If you want more children, try for induction.

If you’re one and done, c-section.

This is rote advice for a standard pregnancy. It's terrible and dangerous advice for someone with a placental abruption. And c-sections are only an issue if you want 4+ pregnancies, not just "more than one."

As a second time mom, I can see in hindsight that I was really snowed by a lot of the vaginal or bust pressure the first time, but seeing people pushing this woman into risking her baby's life to "attempt" a vaginal birth is really beyond anything. Might as well be a bunch of loons telling her to give birth in a tub by herself under the full moon because Womyn Power or something.

That’s not true. C sections result in higher rates of subsequent miscarriages and stillbirth, so even a complicated pregnancy who really wanted a second child should try to avoid one.

Absolutely not. A population study found a 0.03% increased risk of stillbirth for women who had a c vs. Spontaneous vaginal delivery (and no increase for miscarriage) but the study did not address any confounding variables. What that means is that it is a CORRELATION found in one Danish study, not "C sections result in" (causation). Scaremonger elsewhere.
"Limitations include incomplete data on maternal body mass index, maternal smoking, fertility treatment, causes of stillbirth, and maternally requested cesarean section, as well as lack of data on antepartum/intrapartum stillbirth and gestational age for stillbirth and miscarriage." https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4077571/

I'm sorry, you're dead wrong. C-sections cause tons of complications in future pregnancies. Placenta previa. C-section isthmoceles cause infertility. Higher risk of hysterectomy down the road. Infections. Most women who've had a C don't even try TOLAC. Deadlier to mother. And I was one of the people advocating for the C. Csecs cause tons of problems. I've only had 2 and I have been told by 3 different OBs to stop because I had complications.

No, I'm not dead wrong. The statement "C sections result in higher rates of subsequent miscarriages and stillbirth" is objectively false. It is a false statement, and your comment has nothing to do with it or my response.

It’s not a false statement. The miscarriage rate is higher. How much higher remains unclear, but for people in their late thirties one miscarriage can be the difference between having a child and never having a child.

So, again, if the family size desired is already reached there’s no worry. But if additional children are a priority it’s not a good risk to take.