Anonymous wrote:For those of you putting your 10 year old down at 8pm - do they not do sports?
My 9 yo is at practice that doesn’t end until 8:30 twice a week.

I wouldn't allow my kid to stay that late. When he was 8 swim team would go 5-630. We left at 6p to get home, eat, do homework, then bed. Always in bed by 8. Now he's 9 and lights out at 9, in bed by 830 to read, shower at 8. Dinner is around 630 every night. We are very regular.

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Anonymous wrote:Lights out at 8:30...maybe 8 if its been a long day or earlier morning. He has to be awake by 6:30AM for school.

I feed mine dinner before sports so afterwards its just snack, shower, bedtime.

Same - kids eat as soon as they get home from school at 4:15. Practice is 5-7. Back home for a snack, shower and bed at 8/8:30.

Homework is done in the mornings.

Mornings? Mine walk to school at 7:45!

Mine walk to school at 9:05. They are up by 6:45 so we have lots of time to kill in the morning.

Our kids K-5th go do their rooms at 7 pm. They have nice book lights on each bed and they read/color/do puzzles for an hour or so. 4th grader is lights out at 8:30 pm.

Caveat: I only work part time and their dinner is at 6 pm. They also wake up around 5:30 am.

7:45 lights out. Now 6th grade and 830 bedtime. Up for school at 6:45, home from school 3:45, homework and instrument practice, dinner, swim or tennis 6:30 to 8, quick shower and snack, lights out.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

How? I am not even off the clock until 5:30, usually it’s 6:15 by the time I actually finish work. Drive home, then to even get in the house, go pee, wash hands, change out of work clothes to prevent staining those while cooking, then to even begin dinner isn’t until 7:30.

1. Crock pot meals.
2. Batch cook over the weekend & eat leftovers during the week.
3. Quick meals some nights like soup, bagged salad, & sandwiches.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

10:00 to 8:00 is enough sleep. Many kids need or naturally want to wake earlier and if that's your kid then you're right 10:00 is too late. But Fairfax county doesnt start elementary school until 9:10. So many kids don't wake until 8:00 or even later.

I'm a parent with a 4th grader who has sports practices until 9:00 and I was initially freaking out about it becauseI also believed all kids should be asleep by 8:30 or something like that, but its been OK. And actually kind of nice to have the flexibility to do things later.

I agree 10pm to 8am is enough sleep if your child actually falls asleep by 10 (not just in bed) and actually sleeps until 8am. We didn't have that luxury in 4th grade because school started at 7:30am and kids needed to by dropped off by 7:20am. Thankfully we lived close to the school. But for my kids to get 10 hours, waking up at 6:30am, they needed to be asleep by 8:30pm, and they were.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

How? I am not even off the clock until 5:30, usually it’s 6:15 by the time I actually finish work. Drive home, then to even get in the house, go pee, wash hands, change out of work clothes to prevent staining those while cooking, then to even begin dinner isn’t until 7:30.

You need a nanny or don’t work

I didn’t even put in the time for heavy traffic. That’s exactly why I’m trying to figure out what hours these people are working.

A lot of us chose to live near where we work. I have a 15 minute commute. I'm home by 5:30.

It takes more than 15 minutes to go five feet inside of Tysons Corner, Merrifield, anywhere in Fairfax County these days.

I drive from Falls Church to Arlington. It takes me 15 minutes. Again, DH and I prioritized finding housing near where we worked. Is it a big fancy modern farmhouse McMansion? Nope. Does living close to work make our lives so much better and allow to spend time with our children? Yes, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

My almost 10-year-old fourth grader goes to bed at 9:30 pm and is up by 7 am.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

How? I am not even off the clock until 5:30, usually it’s 6:15 by the time I actually finish work. Drive home, then to even get in the house, go pee, wash hands, change out of work clothes to prevent staining those while cooking, then to even begin dinner isn’t until 7:30.

You need a nanny or don’t work

I didn’t even put in the time for heavy traffic. That’s exactly why I’m trying to figure out what hours these people are working.

A lot of us chose to live near where we work. I have a 15 minute commute. I'm home by 5:30.

It takes more than 15 minutes to go five feet inside of Tysons Corner, Merrifield, anywhere in Fairfax County these days.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

How? I am not even off the clock until 5:30, usually it’s 6:15 by the time I actually finish work. Drive home, then to even get in the house, go pee, wash hands, change out of work clothes to prevent staining those while cooking, then to even begin dinner isn’t until 7:30.

You need a nanny or don’t work

I didn’t even put in the time for heavy traffic. That’s exactly why I’m trying to figure out what hours these people are working.

I work roughly 8:00 to 4:00. Commute home and be there by 5:00. On days I work from home I'll log extra time since I'm not commuting. Occasionally, though not regularly, log back on after dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

10:00 to 8:00 is enough sleep. Many kids need or naturally want to wake earlier and if that's your kid then you're right 10:00 is too late. But Fairfax county doesnt start elementary school until 9:10. So many kids don't wake until 8:00 or even later.

I'm a parent with a 4th grader who has sports practices until 9:00 and I was initially freaking out about it becauseI also believed all kids should be asleep by 8:30 or something like that, but its been OK. And actually kind of nice to have the flexibility to do things later.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

How? I am not even off the clock until 5:30, usually it’s 6:15 by the time I actually finish work. Drive home, then to even get in the house, go pee, wash hands, change out of work clothes to prevent staining those while cooking, then to even begin dinner isn’t until 7:30.

You need a nanny or don’t work

I didn’t even put in the time for heavy traffic. That’s exactly why I’m trying to figure out what hours these people are working.

A lot of us chose to live near where we work. I have a 15 minute commute. I'm home by 5:30.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you putting your 10 year old down at 8pm - do they not do sports?
My 9 yo is at practice that doesn’t end until 8:30 twice a week.

Most 4th graders are 9.

And yes my 9 year old goes to get at 8. If it is a practice or game night it might be 8:30. But I don’t change bedtime the other nights because of 1-2 sports nights per week. Our games and practices are 6-7:30. But we live in a county with early ES start times so it’s normal here for kids to go to sleep early.

No. Most THIRD graders are 9. Starting Oct 1 of 3rd grade is when (around here) they all start to turn 9. Only the absolute youngest kids will turn 9 in Sept of 4th grade.

OMG, you are saying the same thing as everyone else. Kids turn 10 in 4th grade. They will all start 4th grade when they are 9 years old. Probably 75% of them will turn 10 over the course of the year (for whatever reason, my kids' friends almost all have spring birthdays, so they will turn 10 at the end of the school year). The other 25% will turn 10 between mid-June and September 30th. There's always one of two "big boys" as my girls' call them who are a year older than the kids with summer birthdays. those are the only kids who will start 4th at 10 years old.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting responses, I never realized so many go to bed early at 8/8:15. We are finishing dinner and hw at that hour. Do you all SAH?

Due to birthday my 4th grader is 9 turning 10. 10pm bedtime.

10 pm is way too late for a school night.

I have a kid the same age. 9 or 9:30 at the absolute latest. Changing to to 8:30 or 9.

How? I am not even off the clock until 5:30, usually it’s 6:15 by the time I actually finish work. Drive home, then to even get in the house, go pee, wash hands, change out of work clothes to prevent staining those while cooking, then to even begin dinner isn’t until 7:30.

You need a nanny or don’t work

I didn’t even put in the time for heavy traffic. That’s exactly why I’m trying to figure out what hours these people are working.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you putting your 10 year old down at 8pm - do they not do sports?
My 9 yo is at practice that doesn’t end until 8:30 twice a week.

Most 4th graders are 9.

And yes my 9 year old goes to get at 8. If it is a practice or game night it might be 8:30. But I don’t change bedtime the other nights because of 1-2 sports nights per week. Our games and practices are 6-7:30. But we live in a county with early ES start times so it’s normal here for kids to go to sleep early.

No. Most THIRD graders are 9. Starting Oct 1 of 3rd grade is when (around here) they all start to turn 9. Only the absolute youngest kids will turn 9 in Sept of 4th grade.

Every single 4th grader who was not redshirted starts 4th grade at 9. Most 4th graders spend the first half to 3/4 of the school year at age 9. A few will have fall birthdays, but no more than 1/4 of the class.

Signed,
A 4th grade teacher

Sign my ass first

I don't know what your problem is except that your kid was clearly too dumb to start school at the correct age.

I have a fourth grader with a summer birthday (youngest in her class) who just turned 9. Her bestie has always been the oldest girl in the class - she has an Oct 3rd birthday so is starting 4th at 9 but will turn 10 in a month and half. Now there are boys who were held back a year, and some of them will have turned 10 over the summer, but that's unusual because those boys were immature, not smart, or short.