Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:24     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:I sometimes think about the Sliding Doors version of my life without kids. All the travel and the freedom and the money and the nonsaggy boobs. It sounds glorious.
But it doesn’t follow that I regret parenthood or that “you did it right” and I didn’t. Im sure there are people who genuinely regret it but the people OP encounters are just being polite.


Your boobs still would have sagged.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:23     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Interesting, when I meet dinks my ago (50’s) who still work I think…. Where did you go so wrong?

If I had no kids I’d have retired at 40, have multiple houses and travel the world.


A lot of people, in my generation at least (millennials), are DINKS because of finances, so they’re not going to live lavishly without them.



So they couldn’t afford kids either way? I Don’t see that to be OPs Situation if they are taking lavish vacations.

I think they flit their money away on stupid stuff like $7 coffees because they are not disciplined.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:22     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
I sometimes think about the Sliding Doors version of my life without kids. All the travel and the freedom and the money and the nonsaggy boobs. It sounds glorious.
But it doesn’t follow that I regret parenthood or that “you did it right” and I didn’t. Im sure there are people who genuinely regret it but the people OP encounters are just being polite.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:22     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


Or, you're just angry and bittter that settling and down and having a family is just 'something you do', like getting good grades and going to college. You never really gave it much thought. That's why it seems so frustrating for you when others around you choose to not have children because you didn't know that was an option. You didn't know you could be happy without having children.


NP I think this is so true! It never occurred to me not to have kids. It was naturally what you did after you got married. Of course, I adore my kids. But think it’s awesome when people make much more intentional decisions. You can have so much more freedom (and money!) if you decide not to have children.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:20     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


Or, you're just angry and bittter that settling and down and having a family is just 'something you do', like getting good grades and going to college. You never really gave it much thought. That's why it seems so frustrating for you when others around you choose to not have children because you didn't know that was an option. You didn't know you could be happy without having children.


There has been unanimous agreement amongst parents as to what this means. If you know, you know. Nobody wants your shallow, empty life. So go take another photo of your dog or plate of food.


If you need a kid to not have an empty life, you must be a really, realllllly boring person.


It doesn’t bother me that you think that way. I won’t be the one regretting my life at the end.

Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:19     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


Or, you're just angry and bittter that settling and down and having a family is just 'something you do', like getting good grades and going to college. You never really gave it much thought. That's why it seems so frustrating for you when others around you choose to not have children because you didn't know that was an option. You didn't know you could be happy without having children.


There has been unanimous agreement amongst parents as to what this means. If you know, you know. Nobody wants your shallow, empty life. So go take another photo of your dog or plate of food.


If you need a kid to not have an empty life, you must be a really, realllllly boring person.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:18     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


+1 we all dream about some freedom but we’d never change our lives. No decent person would insult a DINK for choosing that life.


Seems like there a lot of non-decent people here then.


Private thoughts are just that. Luckily OP doesn’t know what people really think.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:18     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:Interesting, when I meet dinks my ago (50’s) who still work I think…. Where did you go so wrong?

If I had no kids I’d have retired at 40, have multiple houses and travel the world.


Some people just like working.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:18     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:Interesting, when I meet dinks my ago (50’s) who still work I think…. Where did you go so wrong?

If I had no kids I’d have retired at 40, have multiple houses and travel the world.


A lot of people, in my generation at least (millennials), are DINKS because of finances, so they’re not going to live lavishly without them.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:17     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


Or, you're just angry and bittter that settling and down and having a family is just 'something you do', like getting good grades and going to college. You never really gave it much thought. That's why it seems so frustrating for you when others around you choose to not have children because you didn't know that was an option. You didn't know you could be happy without having children.


There has been unanimous agreement amongst parents as to what this means. If you know, you know. Nobody wants your shallow, empty life. So go take another photo of your dog or plate of food.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:17     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


Or, you're just angry and bittter that settling and down and having a family is just 'something you do', like getting good grades and going to college. You never really gave it much thought. That's why it seems so frustrating for you when others around you choose to not have children because you didn't know that was an option. You didn't know you could be happy without having children.


Actually I’d say most women never knew they could have children without marriage. I don’t know one woman who had kids and didn’t deeply desire it.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:15     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Interesting, when I meet dinks my ago (50’s) who still work I think…. Where did you go so wrong?

If I had no kids I’d have retired at 40, have multiple houses and travel the world.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:15     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


+1 we all dream about some freedom but we’d never change our lives. No decent person would insult a DINK for choosing that life.


Seems like there a lot of non-decent people here then.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:13     Subject: Re:It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for people without children. I really do. But I will never ever reveal my thoughts in any way. Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, I wish we could just head off to Europe like you" but know that I am just blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good. Inside I feel pity for you.


I would not say that. The sentence makes you sound jealous instead of happy for the other person.



I guess only to the childless. Those with kids get it. But rather the person hearing this think it’s jealousy than pity. That’s the point and it’s working quite well.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2024 08:12     Subject: It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”
Anonymous wrote:I might say something like this without meaning it, because secretly I feel sorry for you and your empty life.


Or, you're just angry and bittter that settling and down and having a family is just 'something you do', like getting good grades and going to college. You never really gave it much thought. That's why it seems so frustrating for you when others around you choose to not have children because you didn't know that was an option. You didn't know you could be happy without having children.