Anonymous
Post 06/06/2024 13:13     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Nanny of many years mentioned last week shes doing a girls trip for 2 weeks in August.
I’m opening another office for my company same time so not only is it summer break- when my kids are home from school and I need her most- but I’m traveling this time frame.
I’m really pissed she didn’t even mention before she made this trip plan. I feel like she should have discussed this with us. We basically pay her year round to have her for summer when kids home from school.
And this isn’t trip with her kids (I would understand that if she booked a trip when her kids were home from school )—- but this is a girls trip.
Am I fair in thinking she should have discussed with us?
I mean- honestly my boss wouldn’t have looked kindly on me taking off right when I’m opening an office- so I think most people consider their employee when planning trip… at least to some degree.


What's the difference between a girl's trip and a famiky trip? Girls' trip is probably more of a vacation for her! Isn't two months enough time?
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2024 13:11     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:She did run it by you. Two months in advance. That seems reasonable to me.


But not really because it sounds like the trip is already booked. I’m a fed with pretty liberal leave policy and I still make sure to get my leave requests approved before booking airfare or hotels. Especially if it’s extended leave like 2 weeks. I’ve never had a leave request disapproved, but I still take into consideration my workload (like taking half a month off during a busy season seems odd). I’m surprised this isn’t spelled out in the nanny’s contract though.
Anonymous
Post 06/06/2024 12:40     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
If you still really need a nanny, 2 weeks is a great amount of time to trial someone else. That’s why I assume a lot of nannies are careful about their vacation and coordinating with the parents, they don’t want to give opportunity for someone to come in and replace them.
Anonymous
Post 06/05/2024 20:19     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Two months is definitely reasonable but she is wrong for assuming she gets it off. Just tell her you can’t approve it because you need her then. Also, with my nanny, when she required a lot of time off once, I told her okay, but only if she could find a replacement to fill in (we paid but she found a nanny friend in between jobs).
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 23:22     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Can you let her know that's a very busy time for you and ask if she has any flexibility with the dates? If she says no, can you ask her if she happens to know any nannies who might have some availability during that time? It doesn't hurt to ask her.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 15:59     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Nanny is basically paid to do almost nothing during the school year in order to be available during the 8 weeks of summer. She is taking this vacation on purpose at this time to avoid working during the part of the year she is expected to actually work.


Does she know this? If not it should be explicitly communicated.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 15:54     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Totally understand this is terrible timing but maybe there was no other better time for your nanny to take this trip. Two months is enough time for you to find alternate childcare. My nanny has a habit of calling out the night before and it’s just terrible for me logistically. Be glad she didn’t pop this on you a week before her trip!
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 14:45     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:There are limited options when kids are young and you just have to suck up and deal with this. But once kids are old enough to routinely go to camps etc. I would move away from the nanny model. Barring another pandemic, schools/camps are more reliable than nannies and much cheaper.


+1. I'd put the kids in camp the whole summer.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 14:44     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nanny is basically paid to do almost nothing during the school year in order to be available during the 8 weeks of summer. She is taking this vacation on purpose at this time to avoid working during the part of the year she is expected to actually work.


oh please. You know that’s not the case. That nanny is probably more of a household manager and she is working the entire year and more than entitled to a vacation. I bet this nanny does everything in that house but sleep with the husband.


Troll.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 14:43     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
My nanny always checks with me before making plans to take time off. It is rare for me to say no. A two week vacation would need coordination. I find it hard to believe that she would drop this on you without checking unless she doesn't care about keeping her job.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 10:14     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Nanny is basically paid to do almost nothing during the school year in order to be available during the 8 weeks of summer. She is taking this vacation on purpose at this time to avoid working during the part of the year she is expected to actually work.


Is this OP?

Doesn't the nanny drive the kids to and from school, watch them after school so you don't have to find care, prepare their meals?
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 10:03     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:Nanny is basically paid to do almost nothing during the school year in order to be available during the 8 weeks of summer. She is taking this vacation on purpose at this time to avoid working during the part of the year she is expected to actually work.


oh please. You know that’s not the case. That nanny is probably more of a household manager and she is working the entire year and more than entitled to a vacation. I bet this nanny does everything in that house but sleep with the husband.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 09:58     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Nanny is basically paid to do almost nothing during the school year in order to be available during the 8 weeks of summer. She is taking this vacation on purpose at this time to avoid working during the part of the year she is expected to actually work.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 09:54     Subject: Nanny planned vacation without discussing
There are limited options when kids are young and you just have to suck up and deal with this. But once kids are old enough to routinely go to camps etc. I would move away from the nanny model. Barring another pandemic, schools/camps are more reliable than nannies and much cheaper.
Anonymous
Post 06/04/2024 08:10     Subject: Re:Nanny planned vacation without discussing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll bet the majority of you complaining that you allow your own employers to dictate your vacations get paid a heck of a lot more than OP’s nanny. Maybe that’s a trade off that allows you such a huge salary that you are able to employ a full-time nanny in the first place.

As for OP, you know that she gave plenty of notice, you know that you failed to make it clear to her in a timely manner that you really need her in August, and you also know that you can easily find back up care for two measly weeks. So why the outrage? Is it because you think you own her or something?


I am not OP, but I assume people are annoyed because they need the nanny in order to be able to keep their job that pays the nanny.


Sounds like nanny is holding all the cards then. Boo hoo, hire back up care or maybe your spouse can step up and watch the kids for once.