Anonymous wrote:Is combined finances the primary reason you both divorced?
I am assuming there were more issues at play and unless you both receive counseling for those issues then it is best to live apart even though you share two kids together.
DP, not OP, but -- NO amount of counseling for any previous issues is going to change the fact that NOW he's manipulating her into moving in with him, or close to him, which sets her up for so many potential negative outcomes for both herself and the children.
Even if he sincerely believes himself when he says he still loves her, so what? He is so inconsiderate and oblivious about the kids' lives, needs, schooling, support systems and stability that he thinks his "love" for her should trump the lives his kids have now, where OP says they are doing fine. Uprooting kids in middle school just to make daddy feel more involved would be nuts. He can change his job and move to
their area, if he wants more time with his kids.