Anonymous
05/19/2024 14:06
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:would you be upset?
If someone helped your toddler make you a gift with hand prints, and made extras for other female family members, such as aunts, or grandma, would that bother you? Would it make you feel less special to know that other people got essentially the same gift?
What does this even mean or look like?
Something like this:
https://www.etsy.com/listing/1703263215/mothers-day-handprint-art-poem-flower?gpla=1&gao=1&&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=shopping_us_e-paper_and_party_supplies-paper-stationery-design_and_templates-templates&utm_custom1=_k_Cj0KCQjwxqayBhDFARIsAANWRnQE9zYwhfFPpQNGxKapLJLTPetTCtvWaBk29vu_YLybay6SaGdvh64aAuoFEALw_wcB_k_&utm_content=go_12573081319_122305197529_507852330931_pla-315907316571_c__1703263215_142178041&utm_custom2=12573081319&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwxqayBhDFARIsAANWRnQE9zYwhfFPpQNGxKapLJLTPetTCtvWaBk29vu_YLybay6SaGdvh64aAuoFEALw_wcB
Not that one exactly, but a little poem with some hand prints that are made to look like flowers.
So, moms and grandmas (our mother has passed, so the grandmas who got it aren't shared) got one with two hand prints from their child/grandchild, and those of us connected equally to both kids got one hand print from each child.
Anonymous
05/19/2024 02:35
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.
OP here,
I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.
I'm this PP. Was it your sister's DH that did it? Or was it a caretaker/teacher/aide who did it. That could make a difference.
Whatever the case, your sister shouldn't be mad at you. And if it's a care person and not her DH, then she is insecure if she is upset. My guess is that given she's your sister you know the answer. Rightfully upset or insecure.
Neither, it was our brother who did it. Sister is separated and has a toddler. Brother and his wife also have a toddler, so he took both kids and made art projects for the kids' moms and grandmas, and then made an extra one for me, and one for an elderly great-aunt in memory care. He said figuring out how to get it right was hard, but once he did replicating it was easy so he just kept going. My SIL (Brother's wife) was not hurt, just my sister.
I took her older kid and helped her make a gift, but we just did her mom and grandma.
Your birthday wins prize for best in family. Wonderful brother. Wonderful parent. Brother 1, sister 0.
Wow, the mother gets a 0 on mother’s days. Let’s make this day about how wonderful the uncle and aunt are.
Well, I'll bet you're a blast to be around?
Not angry and miserable at all, right?
Nitpicky and controlling is SUCH an attractive look, lol.
Do make sure you keep score, though.
Anonymous
05/19/2024 02:31
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:would you be upset?
If someone helped your toddler make you a gift with hand prints, and made extras for other female family members, such as aunts, or grandma, would that bother you? Would it make you feel less special to know that other people got essentially the same gift?
What a bizarre insecurity to have.
You're envious that your child is loving and thoughtful toward other family members??
Stopb looking for things to be mad about!
Anonymous
05/18/2024 21:26
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.
OP here,
I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.
I'm this PP. Was it your sister's DH that did it? Or was it a caretaker/teacher/aide who did it. That could make a difference.
Whatever the case, your sister shouldn't be mad at you. And if it's a care person and not her DH, then she is insecure if she is upset. My guess is that given she's your sister you know the answer. Rightfully upset or insecure.
Neither, it was our brother who did it. Sister is separated and has a toddler. Brother and his wife also have a toddler, so he took both kids and made art projects for the kids' moms and grandmas, and then made an extra one for me, and one for an elderly great-aunt in memory care. He said figuring out how to get it right was hard, but once he did replicating it was easy so he just kept going. My SIL (Brother's wife) was not hurt, just my sister.
I took her older kid and helped her make a gift, but we just did her mom and grandma.
Your birthday wins prize for best in family. Wonderful brother. Wonderful parent. Brother 1, sister 0.
Wow, the mother gets a 0 on mother’s days. Let’s make this day about how wonderful the uncle and aunt are.
Anonymous
05/18/2024 19:25
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:would you be upset?
If someone helped your toddler make you a gift with hand prints, and made extras for other female family members, such as aunts, or grandma, would that bother you? Would it make you feel less special to know that other people got essentially the same gift?
What does this even mean or look like?
Anonymous
05/18/2024 18:24
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Please send this thread to your sister. She’s being 100% irrational.
Anonymous
05/18/2024 16:23
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:OMG, your husband helped your kid make you a sweet Mother’s Day present. So what if he made a second handprint for his mom?
Come on, this is creating conflict where there is none. He’s showing your child by example to celebrate her mom on Mother’s Day. That’s what he should be doing. You should say thank you and enjoy the gifts.
You are 100% wrong here.
Did his mom post her handprint on Facebook before you and now you don’t feel special anymore? If so, talk it out with your therapist but don’t admit this to anyone in real life. Yikes.
Bullseye!
Anonymous
05/18/2024 14:07
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.
Your brother did a very thoughtful thing. Your sister sounds immature and unreasonable.
This. And the more you share about your sister the worse she sounds.
Anonymous
05/18/2024 08:34
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.
OP here,
I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.
I think that's a weird hill for your sister to die on but I also think it's weird for a niece to give her aunt a Mother's Day gift unless she raised her. Grandmother I get. But it's not Women's Day, it's Mother's Day.
Not weird at all if aunt is a godparent which suspect they are
I am godmother to the kid I helped make a gift but not to either toddler.
Anonymous
05/18/2024 02:36
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.
OP here,
I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.
I think that's a weird hill for your sister to die on but I also think it's weird for a niece to give her aunt a Mother's Day gift unless she raised her. Grandmother I get. But it's not Women's Day, it's Mother's Day.
Not weird at all if aunt is a godparent which suspect they are
Anonymous
05/18/2024 02:35
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This feels off the charts overly sensitive, OP. Do you feel your child can only love you, not aunts or grandmothers? Because that to me is at the heart of your anger at the care person. You don't want your child to show love for any other female relative.
OP here,
I'm the aunt who got the extra, not the mom who is upset. Trying to figure out if other people would agree with my sister.
I'm this PP. Was it your sister's DH that did it? Or was it a caretaker/teacher/aide who did it. That could make a difference.
Whatever the case, your sister shouldn't be mad at you. And if it's a care person and not her DH, then she is insecure if she is upset. My guess is that given she's your sister you know the answer. Rightfully upset or insecure.
Neither, it was our brother who did it. Sister is separated and has a toddler. Brother and his wife also have a toddler, so he took both kids and made art projects for the kids' moms and grandmas, and then made an extra one for me, and one for an elderly great-aunt in memory care. He said figuring out how to get it right was hard, but once he did replicating it was easy so he just kept going. My SIL (Brother's wife) was not hurt, just my sister.
I took her older kid and helped her make a gift, but we just did her mom and grandma.
Your birthday wins prize for best in family. Wonderful brother. Wonderful parent. Brother 1, sister 0.
Anonymous
05/18/2024 01:03
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
I send mothers day cards to my beat friends, aunts and my sisters. It's weird to get upset about this.
Anonymous
05/18/2024 00:00
Subject: If someone helped your child make a mother's day present for someone else.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your brother is a saint.
Right?! He took 2 toddlers, 1 who isn’t even his kid, and had them make cute little hand print crafts for the women of the family. Sounds like a great guy.
I agree with a PP that sister is dealing with some baggage from being a single mom.
No he isn’t. It’s not international women’s day - it’s Mother’s Day.
Well the handprints were a gift to the sister for Mother’s Day. And in the spirit of efficiency extra hand prints were made for other relatives who love the child (I’m assuming if they were gifted the hand prints any other time of year it would be NBD). It would be stupid to have to make handprints for mom of X day and then go back and make handprints for the other relatives on Y day. We all know how messy these toddler crafts can be.
It waters down the meaning of the gift if a pool of people get it.
And, what, exactly, was the “meaning of the gift” from the toddler?
Mother’s Day - not auntie or big helper day or all the nice people in the world day.
But all the women who received the gift ARE mothers. Where is it written that you must only honor your OWN mother on mothers day?
Borrow your own kid to honor other mothers if you so wish.
How do you borrow your own kid? My brother made it with his own kid and his nephew.