Anonymous wrote:You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

It’s embarrassing to be this desperate in your 40’s and 50’s. I feel second hand shame for you.

You are heading for divorce, OP!

I used my Mirena IUD in my 40s all the way to menopause. Easy.

But enjoy your divorce.

Just pass the mentalist to him- you’ve taken on birth control for YEARS and you are done. Time for him to take the lead in the conversation- condoms, sure. Do that. Pull out if he wants, but personally I wouldn’t rely on this option as the woman. It’s his turn to take on this element with his body . You aren’t saying it is an ultimatum, he can decide with you but it is perfectly ok to say you are done with manipulating your body. Take care of yourself.

I said the same post kids. I did birth control for yrs, IVF (why did I worry about birth control) and then had the babies. I had done my part, his time to step in for the partnership. He was fine with it. Condoms foe a few yrs then he had the surgery, fantastic! He decided on surgery, I was happy to support it.

For now it’s an issue where he doesn’t want you telling him what to do- so just take that element away. You aren’t telling him what to do- you are coming to your partner saying my body has done enough, let’s problem solve options.

After two kids, it’s not like you’ll be having sex anyway, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:What about having your tubes tied , OP? Since you no longer want kids

OP here. It’s a major surgery and a risk. Vasectomy is much easier.

Not really.

This is not up for debate. A vasectomy is easier than tying tubes in the same way that removing an appendix is easier than open heart surgery. These are medial realities.

I think it quickly becomes irrelevant because the kind of man who is so selfish as to think their spouse should do all the physical work of reproduction is *really bad* in bed anyway, and their wives are happy to abstain.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be able to have sex with someone who was that selfish.

Yup. I’m not one of those women who’s sexually attracted to selfish, immature, a-holes.

To each their own

Anonymous wrote:What about having your tubes tied , OP? Since you no longer want kids

Isn't that harder on the woman?

No snip. No sex.

I did not budge on this one…after being pregnant and giving birth x 3…vasectomy is a very small ask by comparison. Unless he wants to wear condoms or abstain for the rest of his life.

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Anonymous wrote:Use Natural Family Planning (track your cycle) in combo with Pull and Pray. That's what we do! Works well as long as he's not a premature ejaculator.

Get ready for all of the people who don’t understand this to tell you how stupid you are.

This is what we do and have done for over 15 years. Three wanted pregnancies, zero unwanted pregnancies. Zero arguments about birth control.

Are there really men out there who never get to finish inside their wives?

“Snip snap, snip snap”
-Michael Scott

Anonymous wrote:If you don't want to be pregnant again, go get your tube's tied. You can't tell him what to do. But, you can eaaily make that choice for yourself.

Dumbest response. Husband can use condoms or they can abstain.

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Anonymous wrote:Contrary to the popular claim, good vasectomies are not really reversible. If, God forbid, you should be hit by a bus tomorrow, would you really want to preclude your husband from having children with his second wife? I think not.

Cycle tracking works very well. It's the people who aren't doing it carefully who get surprises. You can have something like the Flo app on your phone. Pretty easy.

He's 53. He doesn't need anymore kids and my kids don't need their inheritance split.

That's not your decision to make. His body - his choice. You don't want to get pregnant get tubal. It's an easy procedure, can be done via laparoscopy

Her body her choice. Tell him condoms or no sex. Easy peesy. Again making women do all the work.... classy!

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Anonymous wrote:What about having your tubes tied , OP? Since you no longer want kids

OP here. It’s a major surgery and a risk. Vasectomy is much easier.

Not really.

It actually is and why does the woman have to be the one doing birth control the entire marriage?! My gyno told me if I wanted to get my tubes tied to do it after I had my last baby (c-section for a few medical reasons). I said no, thanks.

Also, if you have a high deductible insurance it is more $$ than a vasectomy.

If he doesn't want a vasectomy, fine, but wear condoms while you track your cycle. He won't want to wear a condom, but if he refuses no sex.

All of the women on here saying their husbands refused a vasectomy so they decided to (yet again) be the one doing all the work for birth control are sad to me. What an example you are to your sons and daughters. You all need to read "Ejaculate Responsibly."

Anonymous wrote:Use Natural Family Planning (track your cycle) in combo with Pull and Pray. That's what we do! Works well as long as he's not a premature ejaculator.

Does not work well at all.

Stop giving faulty medical advice.