Anonymous wrote:Ummmm …if you are thinking about someone else, you are not happily married. Sorry to break it to you.

Anonymous wrote:In the same boat over here. I am in my early 30s, been with my partner for 10 years, married for 7. Happy with my relationship though there is some give and take. We have alot of similarities but also alot of differences which have cause some strain of the years. (Normal lows for a couple who have been together for a decade) a few weeks ago an older man struck up conversation with me in the laundromat. In conversation I did mention my husband, so he knows I am not "available". I learned that he was a massage therapist in town and being a very active trail runner and seeks therapeutic messages here and there, he goes me his card. A few days go by and I end up making an appointment. When he greets me at the appointment, I'm immediately attracted to him. I can't describe the feeling, I thought he was handsome when I met him but this was more like I want to walk right up and make out. This catches me off guard and he is definitely older than me. (Maybe in his mid to later 40s? Which is definitely an age for men I've been finding myself eyeballing as I get older myself) I can't relax once the message starts... im lusting over him right there on the table and haven't stopped since... ive had 2 sessions with another one in the books. This has me concerned too and like you, I am so distracted by the thought of him I feel like I can't get anything done.
Aside from wondering if these feelings are wrong being married, I know these are not healthy when building rapport with a message therapist. (I truly have benefited from the amazing body work he has done in only 2 sessions) I can't help fantasizing that he also feels this electric attraction and this will lead to something more. (Which I would never do, I find cheating wrong ontop of the ethics and integrity of his profession now that I'm a client) I don't even know too much about his personal life or even his sexual orientation for crying out loud! Sorry I have no advice and can only provide you comfort in knowing you are not alone!

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Anonymous wrote:Just because you state your desire for immoral behavior out loud doesn't make it any less immoral. Don't normalize it.

Cut / insert any other immoral action into your statement and assume your child was saying it instead of you. I think you'll quickly see the problem. "I fantisize about punching Jimmy in the face but I never would do it." A normal person would hear a child say this and be alarmed and know that intervention is required. You're an adult and you use the same logic and we should....applaud you for speaking your truth?

What the hell is wrong with grown ass adults in this country? Woman-up and be better.

Oh I already think it's normal to fantasize about punching someone in the face even though I'd never, ever act on it (I've never got another person in my life). To me it's healthy to express that desire out loud so I can work through why I feel that way. So if a child said that I'd view it as a good sign that they were able to both articulate that urge and understand they cannot/should not act on it. That is a sign of emotional security to me.

I worry for people who never even let themselves think about this stuff. I think suppressed/repressed urges are more likely to be one actions because you are stifling thoughts and processes that would help you move past them.

Anonymous wrote:Just because you state your desire for immoral behavior out loud doesn't make it any less immoral. Don't normalize it.

Cut / insert any other immoral action into your statement and assume your child was saying it instead of you. I think you'll quickly see the problem. "I fantisize about punching Jimmy in the face but I never would do it." A normal person would hear a child say this and be alarmed and know that intervention is required. You're an adult and you use the same logic and we should....applaud you for speaking your truth?

What the hell is wrong with grown ass adults in this country? Woman-up and be better.

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Anonymous wrote:I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.

+2. Her younger sister is a smoke show, but I would never act on it.

Anonymous wrote:I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.

Anonymous wrote:I love to fantasize, but I would never cheat.