Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:09     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.


Yes, again all depends on the situation. Coach is the key. Usually age 9 and up coaches will play all kids from what we've seen.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:09     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


This. We moved DD down a team where she would be highly valued and a leader rather than an after-thought and on the bench. It was the best decision for her confidence and development.


Situational based. Our DD was the best player on the team by far. But, she wasn't learning or developing as a player. Practices were boring and she learned nothing. Had to go outside of practice to develop. She was recruited/offered a position at another club for a stronger team. She may be a bottom half player, but she will developer with stronger players and coaching around her.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:08     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
MANY coaches do not play bench players at all, even in the younger years. I have seen it and its sad.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:07     Subject: Re:Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:How do you know if your kid will be a bubble player? I understand if the coach is recruiting your kid actively. Should you also read into the timing of the offer?


If offers are within a day of tryout the player is not a bubble player usually. Bubble players are those on the list who get offers several days later after players turn down offers.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:06     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise


I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


It depends on the player and coach. If the stronger team has a coach who develops, then it's best to move the player to the stronger team so they develop through the season. If it's a coach who just wants to win, then it's not worth it. Even kids on the bench get 20-25 minutes of play time versus the entire game (in most cases).

Every scenario is different and it depends on what the player goals are.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:05     Subject: Re:Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
How do you know if your kid will be a bubble player? I understand if the coach is recruiting your kid actively. Should you also read into the timing of the offer?
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:04     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Its always better to play
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 08:01     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:

I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


This. We moved DD down a team where she would be highly valued and a leader rather than an after-thought and on the bench. It was the best decision for her confidence and development.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 07:59     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Find a team where your child will get to play and also develop.

We've been on first team and its not worth it.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise


I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


So the advice is, instead of work hard to improve self, find a weaker team where you seem better than you actually are.


and it wasn't worth it to your kid because it wasn't the right situation for them
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 07:56     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Find a team where your child will get to play and also develop.

We've been on first team and its not worth it.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise


I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


So the advice is, instead of work hard to improve self, find a weaker team where you seem better than you actually are.


A lot of teams in this area. Hopefully you can find something that fits both competitively and the player being valued.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 07:52     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Find a team where your child will get to play and also develop.

We've been on first team and its not worth it.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise


I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


So the advice is, instead of work hard to improve self, find a weaker team where you seem better than you actually are.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 07:36     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise


I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.


So the advice is, instead of work hard to improve self, find a weaker team where you seem better than you actually are.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 04:04     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Ok, here’s a different etiquette question: do you all ask parents of teammates whether their kids plan to stay or leave? The kids on my child’s team are openly talking to each other about which tryouts they have gone to and what offers they have received. It’s hard to tell whether people are seriously considering leaving, or just testing the waters. This is probably the first year most of them have gone around to different tryouts. My child’s interest in staying vs. leaving depends heavily on whether their teammates are sticking around. I too worry that the team will be depleted next year and they will struggle. It feels like the conversations among parents are hush hush. I’d rather get it all out in the open. Based on what the kids are saying, most are not competing with one another for spots. The other offers have all been from different clubs.


For my U15 daughter, the girls on the team know who are going where before their last practice. Some leave early, some leave at the very end. The ones leaving early have some gripe against the club or team. It's been this way starting middle school a couple years back. As a parent, I hear about some of this stuff but try to not pay attention to it and only focus on what my daughter wants to do the following year.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 03:58     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Is it fair to assume that if your dc doesn't get an offer pretty much the day after tryouts end, that she wasn't a first choice for the team?


You know this when the coach didn't walk you and her to the parking lot, held your door open for you and offered her a no cost offer.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 03:51     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Top players generally get pick of litter and coaches are more patient. It’s multiple bubble players when issues arise


I argue don't join a team where your DC is a bubble player. Do you really want child to ride the bench? Going up a level to watch games from the bench is no fun for kids. That's what I've seen with mine and teammates who are watching better teammates play but not them. Go to a team which values your child. Don't be a bubble player.