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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

Maybe? I had a great childhood. I have great parents and I loved growing up in a big family. It was fun and exciting. Somebody always had a friend over and there was always someone to play with. Our grandparents lived nearby and we were close to them. My mom was very dedicated to our academics and spent a lot of time with us to ensure we thrived at school, got us tutors when needed. She also made it a priority that we participated in good extracurriculars/lessons from a young age and went to great sleepaway camps in the summer. We really enjoyed our family vacations together. We laughed a lot. A huge part of this lifestyle is one spouse being a high earner. That unlocks a lot of flexibility and resources. My husband and I both work and aren’t ultra high income, so I’m not able to replicate the experience I had for my own kids- and I don’t have 4 of them. But with the right parental attention, resources, and spacing, a reasonably large family can thrive.

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You had a great childhood but, how about your mom?

Did she have a good life? Get to experience fun stuff that she wanted to enjoy? have time for friends?

My mom went back to work when I was 5 years old. Her career was flexible but she worked very hard and recently retired. It was a meaningful job to her. She generally loves to work, so she loved raising us and having her career. She has tons of friends and is really beloved in the community I grew up. She’s a very special person. If you ask her, she would say she wishes she’d had two more kids (but my dad was DONE after four.)

Also, for what it’s worth, my mom grew up as one of two and very specifically wanted a larger family as an adult. She was very committed to it.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

Maybe? I had a great childhood. I have great parents and I loved growing up in a big family. It was fun and exciting. Somebody always had a friend over and there was always someone to play with. Our grandparents lived nearby and we were close to them. My mom was very dedicated to our academics and spent a lot of time with us to ensure we thrived at school, got us tutors when needed. She also made it a priority that we participated in good extracurriculars/lessons from a young age and went to great sleepaway camps in the summer. We really enjoyed our family vacations together. We laughed a lot. A huge part of this lifestyle is one spouse being a high earner. That unlocks a lot of flexibility and resources. My husband and I both work and aren’t ultra high income, so I’m not able to replicate the experience I had for my own kids- and I don’t have 4 of them. But with the right parental attention, resources, and spacing, a reasonably large family can thrive.

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You had a great childhood but, how about your mom?

Did she have a good life? Get to experience fun stuff that she wanted to enjoy? have time for friends?

My mom went back to work when I was 5 years old. Her career was flexible but she worked very hard and recently retired. It was a meaningful job to her. She generally loves to work, so she loved raising us and having her career. She has tons of friends and is really beloved in the community I grew up. She’s a very special person. If you ask her, she would say she wishes she’d had two more kids (but my dad was DONE after four.)

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

Maybe? I had a great childhood. I have great parents and I loved growing up in a big family. It was fun and exciting. Somebody always had a friend over and there was always someone to play with. Our grandparents lived nearby and we were close to them. My mom was very dedicated to our academics and spent a lot of time with us to ensure we thrived at school, got us tutors when needed. She also made it a priority that we participated in good extracurriculars/lessons from a young age and went to great sleepaway camps in the summer. We really enjoyed our family vacations together. We laughed a lot. A huge part of this lifestyle is one spouse being a high earner. That unlocks a lot of flexibility and resources. My husband and I both work and aren’t ultra high income, so I’m not able to replicate the experience I had for my own kids- and I don’t have 4 of them. But with the right parental attention, resources, and spacing, a reasonably large family can thrive.

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You had a great childhood but, how about your mom?

Did she have a good life? Get to experience fun stuff that she wanted to enjoy? have time for friends?

My mom went back to work when I was 5 years old. Her career was flexible but she worked very hard and recently retired. It was a meaningful job to her. She generally loves to work, so she loved raising us and having her career. She has tons of friends and is really beloved in the community I grew up. She’s a very special person. If you ask her, she would say she wishes she’d had two more kids (but my dad was DONE after four.)

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

Maybe? I had a great childhood. I have great parents and I loved growing up in a big family. It was fun and exciting. Somebody always had a friend over and there was always someone to play with. Our grandparents lived nearby and we were close to them. My mom was very dedicated to our academics and spent a lot of time with us to ensure we thrived at school, got us tutors when needed. She also made it a priority that we participated in good extracurriculars/lessons from a young age and went to great sleepaway camps in the summer. We really enjoyed our family vacations together. We laughed a lot. A huge part of this lifestyle is one spouse being a high earner. That unlocks a lot of flexibility and resources. My husband and I both work and aren’t ultra high income, so I’m not able to replicate the experience I had for my own kids- and I don’t have 4 of them. But with the right parental attention, resources, and spacing, a reasonably large family can thrive.

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You had a great childhood but, how about your mom?

Did she have a good life? Get to experience fun stuff that she wanted to enjoy? have time for friends?

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Anonymous wrote:Im fascinated by big families! I only have one child, and I dont have instagram, but if I did im sure I would watch this content! Its just such an odd concept to me to have more than say 5 kids. How do they feed them? Where do they live? What type of activities do they do? Are the kids happy? I have so many questions. I dont know any of these families in real life, so I can understand that their might be a market to view from afar (and judge).

Here: I have six so I'll answer some of your questions. Two are step kids that live with us full time, and two are adults and out of the house so we have four at home. Our table seats ten and the kids take turns having to set the table and play sous chef, and we live in an apartment. Three share a room, and one has a (small-ish) room to themselves. They do the activities they like - one does a lot of plays, one does dance and school newspaper, etc. They are overall happy, and like all kids get upset sometimes. I am not on Instagram and can't imagine putting my kids on there publicly for strangers to see/judge, or to make money off my kids.

So, the kids are crammed in one room and have to do everything themselves like cook. They only get basic school activities. I think you just proved the concerns.

The three girls who share have a big bedroom (it's the same size as the primary) and definitely don't "do everything themselves." Yes, we expect our kids to help get dinner on the table. Yes, we are aiming to send our kids out into the world knowing how to cook some basic things, but also how to seek out recipes and follow them. They also know how to fold a fitted sheet. There's nothing wrong with the kids' activities - they all pursue their interests. Stop trying to create problems where there are none.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

A lot of women just see it as a ticket to never work again.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

Maybe? I had a great childhood. I have great parents and I loved growing up in a big family. It was fun and exciting. Somebody always had a friend over and there was always someone to play with. Our grandparents lived nearby and we were close to them. My mom was very dedicated to our academics and spent a lot of time with us to ensure we thrived at school, got us tutors when needed. She also made it a priority that we participated in good extracurriculars/lessons from a young age and went to great sleepaway camps in the summer. We really enjoyed our family vacations together. We laughed a lot. A huge part of this lifestyle is one spouse being a high earner. That unlocks a lot of flexibility and resources. My husband and I both work and aren’t ultra high income, so I’m not able to replicate the experience I had for my own kids- and I don’t have 4 of them. But with the right parental attention, resources, and spacing, a reasonably large family can thrive.

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You had a great childhood but, how about your mom?

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

Maybe? I had a great childhood. I have great parents and I loved growing up in a big family. It was fun and exciting. Somebody always had a friend over and there was always someone to play with. Our grandparents lived nearby and we were close to them. My mom was very dedicated to our academics and spent a lot of time with us to ensure we thrived at school, got us tutors when needed. She also made it a priority that we participated in good extracurriculars/lessons from a young age and went to great sleepaway camps in the summer. We really enjoyed our family vacations together. We laughed a lot. A huge part of this lifestyle is one spouse being a high earner. That unlocks a lot of flexibility and resources. My husband and I both work and aren’t ultra high income, so I’m not able to replicate the experience I had for my own kids- and I don’t have 4 of them. But with the right parental attention, resources, and spacing, a reasonably large family can thrive.

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Anonymous wrote:It certainly is an accomplishment to raise such a large family. If you don't like the content don't click it. It wouldn't be of interest to me, but good for them and apparently some people want to watch it.

No, it's not.

lol what?? Do you hate women?

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Anonymous wrote:Im fascinated by big families! I only have one child, and I dont have instagram, but if I did im sure I would watch this content! Its just such an odd concept to me to have more than say 5 kids. How do they feed them? Where do they live? What type of activities do they do? Are the kids happy? I have so many questions. I dont know any of these families in real life, so I can understand that their might be a market to view from afar (and judge).

My friend has three and has to go to the grocery store every other day to feed them.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

A lot of women just see it as a ticket to never work again.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

I must run in jaded circles but I don’t think I’ve ever heard someone call their own childhood idyllic.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.

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Anonymous wrote:My child psych professor in college said that more than 3 kids make it a daycare, not a family. She came from a big family.

I’m one of four and had an idyllic childhood. I think it depends on resources. My parents are also highly educated. We all went to private school, did private music and sports lessons and whatever activities we wanted. We are all three years apart and my mon stayed home until youngest went to school so that probably helped.