He’s not the man for you. Get out while you can.

Anonymous wrote:OP - how about a reality check? Maybe you’re not super attractive and hot! If he thinks you’re attractive and sexy what’s wrong with that? He could have expressed it better but you’re acting like a child. I know I’m attractive but I’m not sexy and I’m sure my husband sees me that way. I do enjoy sex but that doesn’t mean I’m sexy.

And everyone knows this - so does the boyfriend so what he did was mean and rude.

We all know we're not super hot and the most gorgeous - there's only a few of us walking around looking like a model. BUT EVERYONE KNOWS THAT YOU DON'T SAY "YOU'RE NOT AS ATTRACTIVE AS OTHERS" out loud to the person you're in a relationship with. Do you actually tell your boyfriend that his penis is smaller than most? Do you tell your DH that his hairline is not that great and he's about a 7? Do you tell your child that no in fact they can't be anything they want and they suck at a lot of things they try and they will never make the team?

Who are you people?

OP - how about a reality check? Maybe you’re not super attractive and hot! If he thinks you’re attractive and sexy what’s wrong with that? He could have expressed it better but you’re acting like a child. I know I’m attractive but I’m not sexy and I’m sure my husband sees me that way. I do enjoy sex but that doesn’t mean I’m sexy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Break up. But in your next relationship, don’t fish for compliments by comparing your body to porn stars’ bodies.

Also consider not watching porn to begin with. I can’t believe so many people still think this is healthy behavior in a committed relationship.

Why would he be this hurtful to you?

Anonymous wrote:He sounds insecure and manipulative. He wants to damage your self-esteem. Must be working because you're questioning your attraction. Leave before he gains more control over you.

+1

He's an ass.

Anonymous wrote:Break up. But in your next relationship, don’t fish for compliments by comparing your body to porn stars’ bodies.

Also consider not watching porn to begin with. I can’t believe so many people still think this is healthy behavior in a committed relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Why were you having this conversation?

Perhaps he brought it up? Also, if you love someone you give a white lie!

Anonymous wrote:My partner let it slip last night that he has never found me super attractive. He said I’m attractive and sexy but not hot or physically beautiful. He said he’s still very attracted to me. I have been told I have very nice big breasts - which I thought he loved - but he said they are nice but not the best. This has devastated me - I want my partner to feel like I’m super attractive and he loves my body. I’m thinking of parting ways with him but I’m not sure if I’m overreacting.

“Partner.” So stupid.

I'm dumping any man that says I'm "meh".

Like what?! The fact that the words came out of his mouth to your ears is the bigger problem - not necessarily that he feels that way. No filter, no sensitivity and seems like he wants to dim your shine so you feel "lucky" to have him.

No thank you - next.

He is negging you. I once had an abusive bf tell me that his friend didn’t find me “that attractive.” He is trying to hurt you so he can control you. I’m sorry OP.

dump him and call me :0)

Op dump him today and don’t look back. Not even a long conversation.
Say - hey the other day when you mentioned you don’t think I’m that attractive; I realized it was time to call it a day. I wish you all the best.’ Hell try to walk it back but don’t let him. Then just be done with it. Respect yourself. I promise I know from past experience

Dump him.

He sounds like a loser.

Of course you want to feel like your partner is attracted to you!