Anonymous
04/24/2024 20:16
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.
Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.
Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?
Marriage material:
Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.
Was this signed Jane and Michael Banks?
Who’s that?
^ignore this PP
I got the reference and thought you were funny!
But then, I have a cheery disposition…
Is this a sock puppet?
What’s “not cheery” about asking a basic question about some proper nouns?
Not a sock puppet as I posted the original joke and didn’t post that. That poster continued the reference.
From Mary Poppins:
If you want this choice position
Have a cheery disposition
Rosy cheeks, no warts!
Play games, all sort
You must be kind, you must be witty
Very sweet and fairly pretty
Take us on outings, give us treats
Sing songs, bring sweets
Never be cross or cruel
Never give us castor oil or gruel
-Jane and Michael Banks
It is what this thread made me think of, especially the post listing all the crap they want from a woman. Already done, my friend, you are just living out the dream Disney planted in your head as a kid.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 20:00
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: In DC know dozens of above-average looking, fun, smart, kind women, most with good jobs with benefits and a career ladder and a college education who never married. They are all Latina or Black, and are all Catholic or Protestant. Only 1 of them is "off" emotionally. The rest are lovely people who didn't demand anything that every woman deserves in a partner.
As I see, the White guys here either didn't ask them out or they dated and the guy decided he preferred a basic UMC White woman, especially if the woman was a first-gen college grad and had student loan debt and a modest family background. Their mostly short and bald Latino and Black male counterparts had their pick of women of color here, and most of them married women who were far better looking. If these women had moved back to the states they came here from, they would easily have a found a partner but he probably wouldn't be as well educated as her.
So, for these women of color I'd say they're still single because of the limited notions that White men have of female beauty, and because of family of origin class differences.
Jesus Christ! What the hell did I just read? Are you a Black or Latina female who is speaking from your own experience?
I didn’t write this but I am Latina and this is somewhat true
Our pool is SO small, I need to attend events and network more to be exposed to a larger pool.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 18:17
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote: In DC know dozens of above-average looking, fun, smart, kind women, most with good jobs with benefits and a career ladder and a college education who never married. They are all Latina or Black, and are all Catholic or Protestant. Only 1 of them is "off" emotionally. The rest are lovely people who didn't demand anything that every woman deserves in a partner.
As I see, the White guys here either didn't ask them out or they dated and the guy decided he preferred a basic UMC White woman, especially if the woman was a first-gen college grad and had student loan debt and a modest family background. Their mostly short and bald Latino and Black male counterparts had their pick of women of color here, and most of them married women who were far better looking. If these women had moved back to the states they came here from, they would easily have a found a partner but he probably wouldn't be as well educated as her.
So, for these women of color I'd say they're still single because of the limited notions that White men have of female beauty, and because of family of origin class differences.
Jesus Christ! What the hell did I just read? Are you a Black or Latina female who is speaking from your own experience?
Anonymous
04/24/2024 18:03
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Biggest red-flag in a woman is mental illness.
If she has a therapist, dump her.
Can confirm. Also if her family has a history of mental illness.
Oh FFS. Not everyone with a therapist is mentally ill, and mental illness is a spectrum not black and white.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 17:18
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Most of my friends met in mid 20's, married 1-3 years later, had 1-3 kids in early 30's, done having kids by 35, empty nesters by 50, kids employed by 55, enjoying being a couple again with more flexible jobs and better leisure budgets, hopefully grandparents between 60-65 and dead by 80-85.
Loved the final twist to this timeline 😂😂
Anonymous
04/24/2024 16:58
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.
Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.
Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?
Marriage material:
Good in bed, good at cooking, good at planning awesome vacations & weekends, good at cleaning & tidying, good with babies, toddlers, adolescents, tweens & teens, good at keeping family traditions, good health & wellness & fitness, and good at supporting me.
Was this signed Jane and Michael Banks?
Who’s that?
^ignore this PP
I got the reference and thought you were funny!
But then, I have a cheery disposition…
Is this a sock puppet?
What’s “not cheery” about asking a basic question about some proper nouns?
Anonymous
04/24/2024 16:51
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:And if you want to have 2 kids before 40, you need to meet your husband by 35 assuming you want to get to know him before you get married so that may put you at getting married at 37 if you meet at 35. If everything goes right, you can have 2 kids before 40 if you meet at age 35.
Back this up 5 years minimum.
Meet no later than 30 to have kids at 35 and 37.
I was just commenting on the 25-35 decade to find a mate. Obviously 30 would be more ideal but 35 is the latest to meet if you want to get married and have kids.
I have a family friend who is a doctor. She isn’t pretty. She isn’t ugly but average with an average build, not fat and not skinny. She is the type of woman that you would not really notice. Her parents thought very highly of her and wanted her to marry well, at least her level. Problem is that men who are at that level will likely marry someone prettier and doesn’t have to be a physician. The parents were so caught up by the fact that the daughter was a doctor. She is 50 and still not married.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 16:35
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:And if you want to have 2 kids before 40, you need to meet your husband by 35 assuming you want to get to know him before you get married so that may put you at getting married at 37 if you meet at 35. If everything goes right, you can have 2 kids before 40 if you meet at age 35.
Back this up 5 years minimum.
Meet no later than 30 to have kids at 35 and 37.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 16:34
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Biggest red-flag in a woman is mental illness.
If she has a therapist, dump her.
Can confirm. Also if her family has a history of mental illness.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 16:22
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Biggest red-flag in a woman is mental illness.
If she has a therapist, dump her.
Terrible approach
No, not at all.
It’s called a market for a reason.
There are many fish in the sea. Don’t waste your time on the crazy ones.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 16:21
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Being good-looking has nothing to do with whether you got married by age 35. Most brides are not extraordinarily good-looking. But then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and lots of men seem content with very average-looking wives.
A lot has to do with the field you work in. Engineers and people in the medical profession have lots of opportunities to come across men on a daily basis while behaving in ways that men don't find intimidating. Women in non-profits will struggle to encounter unmarried hetero men in daily life. Women in law have it the worst because you meet new men but it's usually in an antagonistic setting. I have lots of female engineer friends and even the overweight and not well put together ones have men coming out of their ears.
Ugly women do not do well in the dating market. Sure, you don’t have to be beautiful but the guy has to be attracted to you.
True.
Attractiveness is real. Not being obese is a thing - believe it or not.
These are facts.
But, if you insist on clinging to what your mommy told you about “real beauty is on the inside; it’s all that matters,” well, I guess you can make that “your truth” ( enjoy all your cats).
80% of chronic healthcare conditions (including obesity) are caused by poor healthcare conditions.
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1031420.page
You can ignore this advice, call it rude, be all offended if you want but: stop eating so much and get in shape. It will improve your chances.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 14:19
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I surveyed a group of women, some were married and others were single with no luck in men.
Those that were married just mentioned right timing, single ones said none of this advice works.
Well, what’s the reason why some men women just cannot land a proposal? Let alone a committed long term relationship?
Too many loser males.
equal probability that OP's single friends are losers too.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 12:06
Subject: What makes a woman marriage material?
If a woman is 35+ and never married (and wants to be married - I am not talking about women who don't want marriage) 99% chance she wasted her prime dating years (20s) in dead end relationship(s) that lasted for years but never progressed to an engagement. Meanwhile, all her marriage-minded male peers were out there meeting and marrying other women, and the men who are left over are either players, or they have issues.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 12:05
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
It's a bunch of different things. But I know my husband really appreciated that I don't take a long time to get ready/am ready when I say I'll be ready, and that I bring zero drama.
Anonymous
04/24/2024 11:44
Subject: Re:What makes a woman marriage material?
Anonymous wrote:Biggest red-flag in a woman is mental illness.
If she has a therapist, dump her.
Terrible approach