Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is perfectly fine to want a partner who sends signals that they conform to gender norms. If you're on a date and the man is effeminate it's valid to be turned off by it.

The issue is not about the validity of finding effeminate men unattractive as romantic partners.

The issue is judging and ascribing gender roles based on one's beverage choice.

+1

I wonder if that PP loves cleaning house, because she wants a man who conforms to gender roles and won't cook a meal or clean a toilet.

Anonymous wrote:It is perfectly fine to want a partner who sends signals that they conform to gender norms. If you're on a date and the man is effeminate it's valid to be turned off by it.

The point is that gender norms around drink choice is inane. If I were a man, after reading this I would purposely order "girly" drinks on a first date to weed out dumb women incapable of independent thinking.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my DH and I were dating his drink of choice was vodka red bull. He rarely drinks now but if he does it's typically grey goose or similar on the rocks. A double. Which I guess makes it double feminine.

Weird comment on a totally normal drink. Is it the lemon wedge? A lemon wedge screams gay to you? (I say this because we all know what "feminine" means."

Vodka on the rocks is far more masculine than vodka soda plus a lemon wedge. And also, Grey Goose means you’re not an unsophisticated miser who wants bargain brand Tito’s. Grey Goose on the rocks is a perfectly acceptable drink order for a masculine man.

if i was on a date and a man ordered vodka on the rocks i'd think that was beyond weird. who likes vodka on the rocks? that's not a good drink.
any straight alcohol as your first, first date drink is odd imo. vodka soda is normal. anyone with any intelligence knows type of vodka is irrelevant so the fact that he specified makes me think he is young and doesn't yet know that.
he should run a MILE away from op who is clearly an insufferable snob but not about the right things.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tito's is a great, neutral vodka at a moderate price. It's my go-to vodka when making limoncello.

Fine value vodka for at home and throwing parties. Is it worth name dropping in public, on a first date no less? No.

Specifying what brand you want is not “name-dropping”. Jfc

Just let them make it with their house vodka. Tito’s is basically just a “good” bottom shelf vodka. It is certainly not worth revealing yourself to be a cheapskate rube on a first date. I’m sorry to be the bearer of this news.

You know you already posted this exact comment, right

Definitely a troll thread.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my DH and I were dating his drink of choice was vodka red bull. He rarely drinks now but if he does it's typically grey goose or similar on the rocks. A double. Which I guess makes it double feminine.

Weird comment on a totally normal drink. Is it the lemon wedge? A lemon wedge screams gay to you? (I say this because we all know what "feminine" means."

I haven’t heard ‘double’ since college. Do people really order doubles in nice places? In my experience, most nice restaurants and country clubs already serve very strong drinks as standard.

NP. If you actually hang out with wealthy people you would know that they order whatever they want, without wringing their hands about what people will think.

I work in advertising and twice we have worked with vodka brands. Vodka is vodka. It's all the EXACT same. Anyone paying more for a certain vodka is a dummy. This fact (that all vodka is the exact same) was the entire basis for all our work with them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tito’s & soda is super common. (Bartender here.) I guess I get it if you want a “unique” guy, but if he treats you well & seems fun/into your interests, I would not rule him out.

Vodka soda is super common amongst women (counting their calories). It is a girlie drink choice and you know it.

And specifying Tito’s, a bargain/value vodka, at a nice place looks prole if nothing else. If you’re trying to make a good first impression on a date and prefer a vodka cocktail, at least make it Ketel One or Grey Goose. If you consume two drinks, that’s an insignificant sum of money.

omg someone brought back the term 'prole'
are you british or just seventeen thousand years old? or both?

Anonymous wrote:When my DH and I were dating his drink of choice was vodka red bull. He rarely drinks now but if he does it's typically grey goose or similar on the rocks. A double. Which I guess makes it double feminine.

Weird comment on a totally normal drink. Is it the lemon wedge? A lemon wedge screams gay to you? (I say this because we all know what "feminine" means."

I haven’t heard ‘double’ since college. Do people really order doubles in nice places? In my experience, most nice restaurants and country clubs already serve very strong drinks as standard.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my DH and I were dating his drink of choice was vodka red bull. He rarely drinks now but if he does it's typically grey goose or similar on the rocks. A double. Which I guess makes it double feminine.

Weird comment on a totally normal drink. Is it the lemon wedge? A lemon wedge screams gay to you? (I say this because we all know what "feminine" means."

Vodka on the rocks is far more masculine than vodka soda plus a lemon wedge. And also, Grey Goose means you’re not an unsophisticated miser who wants bargain brand Tito’s. Grey Goose on the rocks is a perfectly acceptable drink order for a masculine man.

Thank you I'm gonna go run and tell DH he is sufficiently masculine!

Anyone paying more for a premium priced vodka is an idiot. Gray goose in particular is a scam that's 100% branding and marketing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tito's is a great, neutral vodka at a moderate price. It's my go-to vodka when making limoncello.

Fine value vodka for at home and throwing parties. Is it worth name dropping in public, on a first date no less? No.

Specifying what brand you want is not “name-dropping”. Jfc

Just let them make it with their house vodka. Tito’s is basically just a “good” bottom shelf vodka. It is certainly worth revealing yourself to be a cheapskate rube on a first date. I’m sorry to be the bearer of this news.

If this is what concerns you, be prepared to be an old spinster. Dump him and move on.

Anonymous wrote:When my DH and I were dating his drink of choice was vodka red bull. He rarely drinks now but if he does it's typically grey goose or similar on the rocks. A double. Which I guess makes it double feminine.

Weird comment on a totally normal drink. Is it the lemon wedge? A lemon wedge screams gay to you? (I say this because we all know what "feminine" means."

Vodka on the rocks is far more masculine than vodka soda plus a lemon wedge. And also, Grey Goose means you’re not an unsophisticated miser who wants bargain brand Tito’s. Grey Goose on the rocks is a perfectly acceptable drink order for a masculine man.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tito’s & soda is super common. (Bartender here.) I guess I get it if you want a “unique” guy, but if he treats you well & seems fun/into your interests, I would not rule him out.

Vodka soda is super common amongst women (counting their calories). It is a girlie drink choice and you know it.

And specifying Tito’s, a bargain/value vodka, at a nice place looks prole if nothing else. If you’re trying to make a good first impression on a date and prefer a vodka cocktail, at least make it Ketel One or Grey Goose. If you consume two drinks, that’s an insignificant sum of money.

Ketel One. Lol. Now I know you’re a troll.